HEARTLINE for Pastor's Wives: 2010

November 8, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

Older Women mentoring Younger Women
a covenantal approach

The past articles in this year’s series have dealt with what Biblical womanhood is and how it relates to us personally. Yes, how we grow in our relationship with the Lord is personal but it is not individualistic. This means that when we come into His family-the family of God- we are also related to his other children we are accepted by Him by His grace. He accepts us and forgives us and then that grace we receive is to be given to others. This is NOT a way of isolation and independence. We are our brothers and sister’s keepers. Women nurturing/mentoring women is simply one way we live this out It is NOT an option. The easiest way this is done is when it is crafted by the church and will teach God’s truth about womanhood. However, the Titus 2 mandate can’t just be a program in our church . It is to be the lifestyle that we live out daily. We , as women, are created to be a helper, life-givers, and supporting pillars. These are concepts that have practical implications for the women’s ministry in a local church. And it probably will take some programming in the church to start this. Ask yourself these tough questions: How is your women’s ministry enabling your church to obey Titus 2;3-5? What opportunities are women provided to develop nurturing relationships with one another? In what settings are girls and teens being taught the principles of biblical womanhood? May God give us grace and wisdom to develop women’s ministries in our local churches that teach His daughters the TRUTH about biblical womanhood and equip them to be life-giving. supporting, pillars for the glory or God and the advancement of His kingdom.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

A Spiritual-Mothering Ministry

A Spiritual-Mothering Ministry. What is that you ask? First, when we think of a mother we think of someone who is nurturing her children spiritually, emotionally and physically. Even as the children grow the nurturing process never seems to stop. A Spiritual-Mothering Ministry is one of that same kind. If you are in a mentoring program in your church or if you are mentoring on your own that nurturing goes on for however long the two women are together. Sometimes one may move away but sometimes that spiritual-mothering stays even when there is distance in miles. It may be over the phone, e-mail or letters. A Spiritual mother takes her mothering very serious with the Lord. She will follow what the Bible teaches. She prays over the needs of her children and tries to meet those needs whenever she can. A Spiritual Mothering Mentor will follow the same also for the woman/women she is mentoring. First of all she knows and loves Jesus and believes that He died for all of her sins. Secondly she lives the life of a spiritual woman following what the Bible teaches and teaches it to the woman she is mentoring. Will she fail, yes, but she knows that she must always be in a right relationship with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Thirdly she will pray that the Holy Spirit will give her insight into the woman’s life that she is mentoring. The Holy Spirit can be her guide for the woman’s emotional and physical needs also. She takes the growth very serious in the life of the woman she is mentoring. She watches and prays for that woman. She encourages. She loves, helps and holds her whenever the need arises. She is lead by the Spirit to help be a deliverer of that need even though the woman has not expressed her need. When you think of a mother and all that she does for her children spiritually, emotionally and physically you can put all of those three together to be a Spiritual Mother and mentor.

CHECK IT OUT

The Table Experience by Devi Titus

Has the pace of life got you and your loved ones running in too many directions? Are you looking for deeper, more meaningful relationships even with the ones you love the most?

The Table Experience will help you transform home to a place of peace, a place where love lives, and where relationships thrive and flourish. The author of this book has effectively merged academic research with historical biblical research to reveal why eating at the table makes such a difference in relationships. Her insights and practical applications will inspire your creativity. Enjoy reading and learning from this helpful book . Let the legacy of your table be something worth passing on to future generations!

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Sensing The Season

The five senses - remember learning about them in grade school? Did you do the blindfold taste test experiments? Put your hand in a bag and guess the object enclosed by just using your sense of touch? Somewhere along the way, we perhaps lose some of the wonder of the gifts God has given us through touch, sight, sound, taste, and scent. This season of all seasons, let's rediscover the use of all fives senses, as we prepare our homes for celebrating Christ's Birth!

Years ago I read a book, now out of print, that beautifully presented ideas of how to make one's home an all-around sense-filled picture of beauty. The author's main message was to make all of our holiday decorating efforts point to Christ. and to show the hope and light He is in our lives. I'd like to share some of the inspiration that book ignited in me so long ago by sharing the following ideas:

Sight - this usually impacts us first, doesn't it? Lights brightening up both the exterior and interior of our earthly homes, reminiscent of the star that lit the night sky the eve of our Savior's birth. Trees laden with precious ornaments, table linens used year after year, Christmas mugs given to us by special people - all bring back cherished Christmas memories just by their sight. Photos displayed of past Christmases can also be wonderful visual reminders of previous celebrations.

Sound - of course Christmas music brings us right to the heart of the season - the birthday of our King! Each year I try to add one new Christmas CD to my collection. It has become quite eclectic, but each selection helps me celebrate the Reason we have this Season! How about bells on your doorknob to herald the entrance of family and friends? And there is the blessed sound of silence as we make sure to spend quiet time with Jesus, contemplating His coming to earth for you and me.

Touch - a hug given and received - a wonderful Christmas feel. The comfort of your favorite cozy sweater, a soft throw on your sofa used just during this season, the warmth of a fire. Touch, it's a gift that's free! To people in your life who spend much time alone, or who are far from family, a Christmas hug can be a treasured gift.

Scents - we remember them more than we realize. The luscious smells of sugar cookies baking in the oven can quickly bring back memories of visits to Grandma's house. The scent of freshly cut pine trees brings us back to Christmases long since passed. Create new memories, and re-live old ones, through the gift of scent. Do you have a favorite candle you use this time of year? How about cutting up some orange slices, a stick of cinnamon, a few cloves, all set to simmer in some water on your stove?

Taste - so many to choose from! The enjoying of traditional foods and tasty treats bind us together as families. Our Christmas meals are a fusion of Norwegian, Brazilian, and Korean foods. Not everyone's idea of what Christmas menus consist of, but for us it holds a world of meaning. What are your family's favorite Christmas foods? Keep the traditional, and try adding a new taste or two through a new side dish, dessert, or even a new flavor of cocoa or tea.

Here are some websites/blogs I hope you find helpful as you prepare to celebrate the first coming of the King of Kings. Have a SENSATIONAL CHRISTMAS everyone!

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2329186/christmas_decoration_for_all_five_senses.html?cat=74

http://www.eduguide.org/library/viewarticle/1125/http://www.suite101.com/content/holiday-decorating-tips-a174687

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

STOP STRESS BEFORE IT BEGINS

Since stress is the top reason for many diseases, we need to address it.

Philippians 4:6-9 provides a meditational list: true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, admirable, virtuous/praise worthy.

Before letting something into your mind, ask these questions?

True = Is this true?
Honorable = Does this honor God?
Just = Is this morally right or wrong?
Pure = Will this purify or contaminate my soul?
Lovely = Will this renew or refresh me?
Admirable = Will I be able to recommend this to someone who looks up to me?
Virtuous and/or Praise Worthy = Will I be more motivated or less motivated to follow after Christ after that DVD, video game, computer website, book, magazine, music, motivational speaker, etc.?

God blends His living, powerful Word with the Holy Spirit’s help so we can then apply it to our lives. He wants to protect us but we need to keep bad things out of our minds and put good things into our minds – especially His Word!

STOP! Being conformed to this world!
START! Pondering and dwelling on the things of God!

Things of This World = DEATH!
Things of God = LIFE AND PEACE!

WORD FOCUS

Our time with Jesus is vital to our spiritual life and physical health! There is a different between knowing God as our Savior and knowing Him as our Lord. Lord means He’s the boss.

Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal His will through the following verses: John 14:23; John 6:66; James 4:7,8; 2 Corinthians 3:14-18; James 4:17; John 8:31-32; James 1:22-25; Psalm 1:2-3; Deuteronomy 4:30-31; Deuteronomy 30:19-20; Psalm 94:12-15; Matthew 7:21-24; Joshua 1:7-9.

Consider journaling. Answer these questions regarding passages: What does it say? What does it mean? How can I apply it? The Holy Spirit will help us to understand so we can apply His knowledge.

Let’s MEDITATE! = Pondering by talking to oneself.

Resources: “Less Stress” CDs
www.store.livingontheedge.org/store/product/238

A Time Well Spent with Jesus Notes, loriwillard@gmail.com
Request a copy.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

BBQ Meat Loaf by Pampered Chef

Ingredients:
1 ½ pounds lean (90%) ground beef
¾ cup quick or old fashioned oats
½ cup finally chopped green bell pepper
½ cup finely chopped onion
½ cup barbecue sauce, divided
1 egg
1 teaspoon dried thyme leaves
1 teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon ground black pepper

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Combine ground beef, oats, bell pepper, onion, 1/4 cup barbecue sauce, egg, thyme, salt and black pepper in Bowl; mix lightly but thoroughly.
2. Shape meat mixture into loaf in Loaf Pan. Insert Digital Thermometer into center of meat loaf. Bake 50 minutes.
3. Spread remaining 1/4 cup barbecue sauce over meat loaf. Bake an additional 10 minutes or until meat is no longer pink in center of meat loaf and internal temperature reaches 160°F using Digital Thermometer. Remove from oven. Let stand 10 minutes before slicing.

Yield: 6 servings Nutrients per serving: Calories 280, Fat 13 g, Sodium 660 mg, Fiber 2 g

Quick Fudgy Brownies by Pampered Chef

Ingredients:

½ cup (125 ml) pecan halves
¾ cup (175 ml) butter (1 ½ sticks)
4 oz. (125 g) unsweetened chocolate for baking
¾ cup (175 ml) all purpose flour
1 ½ tsp. (7ml) baking powder
¼ tsp. (1ml) salt
1 ½ cups (375 ml) sugar
3 eggs
1 tsp (5ml) vanilla
2 bars (2 oz/60 g each) cholocate-covered caramel peanut candy (3/4
cup/175 ml coarsely chopped)
Vanilla ice cream (optional)

Directions:
1. Place pecans into Square Baker. Microwave on HIGH 2-3 minutes or until fragrant, stirring every 30 seconds. Set pecans aside in (1-cup/250-mL) Bowl. Cut butter and chocolate into pieces using Knife; place into small Bowl. Microwave on HIGH 1-2 minutes or until melted and smooth, stirring every 30 seconds. Sift flour, baking powder and salt into (2-qt./2-L) Mixing Bowl using (7-in./18-cm) Strainer.
2. Combine sugar, eggs and vanilla in Bowl. Whisk using Whisk. Slowly add chocolate mixture to egg mixture, whisking constantly until smooth. Fold in flour mixture until incorporated using spatula.
3. Pour batter into baker. Microwave on HIGH 5-7 minutes or until wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean and edges are firm. Meanwhile, coarsely chop pecans using a Food Chopper. Cut candy bars into 1/4-in. (6-mm) pieces. Top brownies with pecans and candy pieces. Let stand 10 minutes. Serve with ice cream, if desired.

Yield: 9 servingsNutrients per serving: Calories 500, Total Fat 31 g, Saturated Fat 16 g, Cholesterol 115 mg, Carbohydrate 54 g, Protein 7 g, Sodium 310 mg, Fiber 3 gCook's

Tips: Any candy bar can be substituted for the chocolate-covered caramel-peanut candy bars, if desired.

For best results, use a microwave oven with a built-in turntable.

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Dear Father,

May we quiet our hearts this busy time of year to remember and celebrate only You. The lists, programs and plays, shopping, and cooking, often clutter our minds and hearts. We get so wrapped up in getting ready to celebrate Your birth, that we forget that it's not about what we do, but about what You did. You humbled yourself and came to earth in the form of a little babe. Thank you for the indescribable gift of Your Son, given to us freely so that we may be truly free. May we continually celebrate the gift of You in our lives and live out our gratitude that the world may know the hope and freedom You alone can give. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With
Faith Nelson

Faith Nelson is the wife of Pastor Eldon Nelson. She has four children and six grandchildren. As Faith looks back over the years that she was in churches and living in Minneapolis while her husband served as Home Mission director she recalls blessings, encouragements and the Lord’s leading in her life. When I asked Faith what she was involved in for ministry she promptly stated, “I mainly was caring for my family.” “Sometimes it is all you get done.” “I found this to be true especially with a handicapped child.” I allowed the Lord to use me wherever needed in ministry.” “I didn’t come with my own agenda into a church.” Later on Faith was involved in music, children and women’s ministries. Later God opened the doors to allow her to have a day care in her home. She was able to touch a lot of children’s lives and her life was an open book to the parents.

If Faith were to encourage us it would be to say to allow the Lord to work in your life and allow Him to focus on our spiritual growth. She said, “I experienced a tremendous amount of growth in my spiritual walk having a handicapped child.” “He still is working in my life but that time was a special time for my spiritual walk with the Lord.” I noted that we should use those times to let the Lord stretch us and allow the growth to come from Him. “Yes, she said, “Spend quality and quantity time in the Word of God.” Another encouragement would be to allow our husbands to lead in the ministry and God will speak through our husbands. “Support your husband at all times,” She said. “Be submissive to our husbands even in the difficult times too” she said. Another encouragement that she had for us is that “we would be transparent to the Lord and honest and then that will allow us to be transparent to our children, husband and the people we come in contact with.” “Let the light of the Lord shine in us to glorify God.” Another encouragement would be to make our family and home life important. “Orchestrate time that you can develop good and enduring relationships.”

Romans 15:13 is Faith’s favorite Bible verse. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace, as you trust in Him so that you overflow with hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. During a difficult time in her life she looked up all the verses on hope and this one became her favorite. “We can overflow with hope from the joy and peace that He give us.”

“Always be sensitive to the Lord’s working in your life and to the needs of others. “ I find that when I am focused on others then I am not so focused on myself.” “Today many are seeking for hope.” “We live in a hopeless secular world today.

September 15, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

WORDS TO INSPIRE

Passing this Legacy on to the Next Generation

Throughout the Old Testament God tells us that one generation is to tell the next generation about Him. “We will not hide them from their children,
but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the LORD,
and his might, and the wonders he has done” (Psalm 78:4).

This instruction is not just a principle - it can be applied practically. We are to “talk to them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise” (Deuteronomy 6:7).

In Titus this command is made gender-specific:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanders or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled (Titus 2:3-5).

I trust that this series has aided you, as it has me. Lord, teach us to be redeemed helpers to our husbands, servants in the church, and teacher of the truth to our children, grandchildren, and other women who need this Biblical understanding.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Nurturing Mothers
How to Raise Feminine Daughters

One of the most blessed things we can do as mothers is right away when our daughters are born is to let them sense the closeness that you have with them and the spirit of the Lord that is within you. They will feel that from the very beginning each day as you are with them. Do our daughters know that we love Jesus with all of our hearts? Do our lives show it in our actions? Can our children picture us sitting somewhere in a chair or by the bed reading God’s Word or praying every day? Do they know that you love the Lord first in your life?

A spiritual mother develops closeness with their daughter so that they don’t feel loneliness or a feeling of confusion. She instills in them that their purpose in life is God’s glory. We as mothers should teach her that in all the decisions that she makes in her life that she asks the Lord. “Doing everything to God’s glory” I Corinthians 10:31.

The strongest thing that we can give our daughters is teaching them the Word of God. There they can rest assured for everything in their lives. When the temptations come for our daughters to go to feelings they will learn from us mothers that it is to the Word of God that we go to for faith and Love. We must be wise women of faith and warn our daughters too of the temptations of life and ungodliness also.

Mothers should always be in prayer for their daughters. We should pray specifically about the areas that God wants to teach our daughters so that we can apply the scriptures that God wants us to apply to our daughter’s lives for every situation. This means then mothers, that we must know our daughters very well so that we can rightly divide the truth of God’s Word for their lives. Let us not as mothers spend too much time on happiness for our daughters but spend time on holiness for our daughters.

Another important thing to teach our daughters is how much God loves them. God doesn’t use a measuring cup to determine how much He loves them according to how good they are. He loves them. They don’t have to keep working for that love. That love for them is there all the time.

Nurturing continues for us mothers to our daughters even into Adulthood. God Bless each of us as we seek His guidance in nurturing our daughters.

CHECK IT OUT

Growing Little Women
*Capturing teachable Moments with Your Daughter
By Donna J Miller

Do you have a daughter whose time with you is suddenly half over.

Take the time to ask yourself these questions:
· am I sharing my insights an d experiences with her?
· Am I preparing her to become a godly woman?
· Am I establishing a bond with her that will smooth her passge to
womanhood?

This book , Growing Little Women , is designed to capture those fleeting moment before she becomes a woman. Within the pages of the book you will discover engaging store, fun activities, and lessons on life to be shared between a 9 to 12 year old girl and her mother, grandmother, or mentor. In just one hour a week you can impact the future of that special young lady and create a bond that will last forever.

Yes! Use it with your daughter, your granddaughter and encourage others in your congregations to use it also. It will be a blessing for generations to come.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

One Size Doesn’t Fit All

Being in full-time ministry often includes the opportunity to practice hospitality. People of all ages, with many different needs, can be blessed by the opening of our homes’ doors. The sharing of a meal, or simply a glass of lemonade, can tell people that they have found a safe and accepting place to share their joys, hurts, and struggles.

One simple way I’ve found that lets people know they are a special guest in my home, is to serve their meal or snack on unusual dishes. I’ve had the privilege of living in several areas where I’ve been given or purchased “fun” dinnerware pieces. Using them brings me the joy of special memories and the delight of seeing people enjoying being served in something different than the everyday norm.

For children: Even if you don’t have little ones in your home, do you have some child friendly dishes and utensils? Cheery unbreakable plates seem to make everything taste better. How about some easy to handle plastic tumblers for little hands to grasp? When we have children into our home (in addition to our own), I love pulling out my Looney Tunes plastic cups. Drinking juice out of a Tweetie Bird mug has made many a little one smile. Also, visiting moms and dads will feel much more relaxed knowing their little sweeties won’t break your great aunt’s glass goblets.

Teens: They’re always hungry and thirsty aren’t they? When my sons’ friends come over I break out the big A&W mugs, get some divided Chinet paper plates, and have plenty of napkins on hand. For teen girls, bring out some of your pretty dishes, colorful tablecloths, and a vase of flowers from the backyard. Girls of all ages enjoy feeling special, don’t they? I still have girls who’ve eaten off my vibrant flower plates that ask me if I still have them several years later. I’m happy to say yes, although a few have been broken with moves and wear.

Men: When I married my husband he had no less than twenty-two Big Gulp Twins glasses from 7-Eleven. I was quick to liquidate that supply, but have learned through the years to keep a few replacements on hand. Why? Because he and his friends like BIG tumblers much better than my dainty water glasses. I guess Mountain Dew was meant to be enjoyed 32 oz. at a time. Also - do you have big mugs in your home for serving coffee? So much easier for many men to use rather than the standard cup size.

Women: Having a friend, or a group of ladies over? Do you have a special set of dessert plates that you save for special occasions? Break them out and enjoy! I love using my hand painted Portuguese dishes that seem to make something as simple as a brownie and cup of chai seem more delicious. Don’t have pieces on hand? Check out your local thrift store, garage sale, or attic, for fun mismatched heirloom style dishes to use.

Enjoy welcoming people into your home, making them feel comfortable and loved, and the benefits may very well last not just for a lifetime, but for eternity.

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: Romans 12:2, Hebrews 12:14-15

Emotional Healing – It’s basically forgiveness and reconciliation. Physically we don’t see the pain but it’s manifested in our behaviors and/or physical health. Emotions are God’s gift so we may have abundant life! Emotions aren’t designed to trap and torture us. We live in a fallen world where trauma, hurt, sin, embarrassment, rejection, fear, accidents or death are all around us. We respond negatively or positively. Our response determines our need for healing.

Between 80-90% of all illnesses are psychosomatic. This does not mean they are not real. It means it involves both the mind (psyche) and the body (soma). Research and science have determined emotional pain as the root cause for many diseases: hypertension, cardiovascular disease, immune system diseases, infections, allergies – to name a few. Harmful emotions, which lead to diseases, are: hostility, anger, stress, bitterness, self-bitterness, unforgiveness, jealousy, envy, rejection, fear. Harmful emotions can trigger the development of various diseases because hormones plus chemical and physical responses are released into the body to do battle.

Positive Solutions

Find verses that directly speak to the problem so healing can be applied. If an emotional button is pushed, repeated input of reading or hearing God’s Word can change our thought patterns or transform our minds.

Separation from God, others or ourselves? Recognize it, acknowledge it, confess it and repent of it.

Emotional Healing Involving Others (Present or Not)

1) Recall emotionally painful event.
2) Verbally forgive the person responsible.
3) Verbally ask God to forgive you for your attitude towards them.
4) Ask Jesus to give you a scene in your mind of Him being there with you

when the event took place.

Jesus is Omnipresent – always with us. His presence brings healing and we are no longer a victim but the victor with His help.

Resources: “The Word on Health” By Michael D. Jacobson, Moody Press
“Healing Academy Manual” By Rev. Larry and Audrey Eddings
Seminar Manual by Wind of the Spirit Ministries, P.O. Box 175, Silverdale, WA 98383

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Banana Pumpkin Bread

Ingredients
2 ripe bananas, mashed
2 eggs
1/3 cup vegetable oil
1 1/3 cups canned pumpkin puree
1/2 cup honey
1/2 cup white sugar
2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
3/4 cup raisins (optional)

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9x5 inch loaf pan.
2. In a large bowl, stir together the mashed banana, eggs, oil, pumpkin, honey and sugar. Combine the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, pie spice and cinnamon, stir into the banana mixture until just combined. Fold in the raisins and walnuts if desired. Pour batter into the prepared pan.
3. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 45 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the loaf comes out clean. Cool loaf in the pan for 10 minutes before moving to a wire rack to cool completely.

From: allrecipes.com

Twice Baked Potatoes

Ingredients
4 large baking potatoes
4 tablespoons milk
salt to taste
2 tablespoons butter
1/4 cup shredded mild Cheddar cheese

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
2. Clean and scrub baking potatoes. Pierce skin with a fork once or twice. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for approximately 1 hour or until the potatoes are soft and firm.
3. Let potatoes cool slightly. Cut baked potatoes in half and scoop out pulp within 1/4 inch of the shell edge. Mash the pulp with milk, salt and butter to taste. Stuff shells with mashed pulp mixture sprinkle tops with grated cheddar cheese. Place potatoes on a baking sheet and bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 15 minutes or until cheese is melted and bubbly.

From: Allrecipes.com

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Titus 2:3-5 "the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."

Lord, Cause within us a desire to be clear reflections of Your love as we serve as examples to young woman in our family of faith. May we realize that the tasks that often seem menial to us, have great value to You. The work we do today may seem so temporary in it's worth, but please Lord, remind us that it has eternal value. Show us how to serve our families and friends with purpose in our hearts and hands. May we teach by word and by action that a life lived for Jesus is a blessed life, to our daughters, grand-daughters, and other family members. Help us to remember that we have the greatest treasure ever to share with those we will one day say good-bye to on this earth - the promise of eternity with You in our heavenly home.Amen.

FOCUS

INTERVIEW WITH
GLORIA LEE

Gloria Lee is the wife of Pastor Robert L Lee. Pastor Lee is now a teacher at our AFLBS. Gloria is the mother of two children and five grandchildren.

When I asked Gloria what she felt her ministry was when her and her husband were serving the churches she said, “First of all my home was first priority.” “I feel that my husband needed a Place of Peace.” “ I also taught Sunday School, lead WMF Bible Studies and directed children’s choirs.” “ Sometimes it was four parishes that had WMF Bible Studies to go to.” “ I counted it a privilege to go to the different WMF Bible Studies as it was there that I learned from other women and grew in the Lord.” As I visited more with Gloria I found out that hospitality was one of their main ministries. She said, “When people came over on the spur of the moment it was fun to just put on the coffee and just visit together in a relaxed atmosphere and to get to know the people.”

I asked Gloria if she could leave words of encouragement to all of us pastor’s wives as she looked back over the years. She said, “Keep your relationship with the Lord the utmost of importance in your life.” She encouraged us to ask our husbands to purchase a second pastor’s handbook and use it during your devotions to pray for each pastor, pastor’s family and all of the committee members including the AFLBS,AFLTS and AFLC staff. She had found it to be most rewarding and felt it was good to pray for one another. Gloria stated with a loving tone, “You know going into the ministry people are waiting to love you more than in any other occupation.” So from that I gathered that we should allow the people to love us and to be so grateful for all of that love. Another idea she has for us is to make a book of all of the weddings, funerals, anniversaries and baptisms that your husband performed or was involved in to look back and remember all of the people that you had been involved with over the years.” “Another thing” she said “I tried to sit in a different place each Sunday with my children because then I would be able to sit around different ones and could visit with them on a more personal basis.” “I also taught Sunday School so that I could share the word of Jesus with the children and to get to know the children at the church better.” When I talked to her about the involvement in the church she said, “It is good to just find out what needs there are in the church that are not covered and then if you see a need then ask if we could start it.” “Remember though,” she warned, “ you can’t do everything all of the time.” Pastor’s wives think they have to be super at everything that they do and they don’t have to be.”

Gloria’s life verse is Isaiah 40:31. But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint. That verse then has flowed now into Psalm 18:1. I love you, O Lord, my strength.

July 8, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

WORDS TO INSPIRE

"Continuing in our series on Biblical Womanhood concerning the topic:

The Authority Structure that
Releases Women to Fulfill their Creation Design.

We teach our children that mom and dad are the authority at home – as well; we need to teach them that the Elders, (Deacons, Church Council) are the authority in the church. We all, as members of the church, voluntarily place ourselves in submission to them. As we do this submitting voluntarily, we are positioning ourselves to receive the blessings, benefits and protection of the church.

We as redeemed helpers are not threatened by this type of headship in the church, instead we value God’s design and order. Redeemed women know that this submission has nothing to do with status, but has to do with function. This is similar to the functional submission in the Holy Trinity (as explained further in a previous article.) Submission is built into the way God has ordered life in the kingdom, and it is good because God is good. Headship and submission are God’s ordained order for achieving oneness in marriage and unity in the church.

Those of us who are married want our husband to be a leader who cherishes us – but we don’t want to be coddled. Coddling will lead to immaturity and weakness. In 1978, when I was in the process of being healed from an acute depression, my husband learned this truth – I had remained immature and weak because of being coddled. He learned skills that enabled me to be strong and carry on the daily routine when he was absent – yet I remained submissive to him as the head of our home and family. You too are strongest when you fulfill all your duties in the strength of the Lord, and under the headship of your husband.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Liberated Through Submission

Sometimes we get submission and surrender mixed up when we are thinking about submissiveness. Let’s look at some definitions. Submission according to Webster’s Dictionary defines the word submit as ‘to Yield,’ which is voluntary. Submission in our world today and in the past has not received the right definition applied to it by many. When the word submission is stated the thoughts go more towards Surrender. According to Webster’s Dictionary surrender means “to give oneself up into the power of another.” The word surrender is a military term. It means a war is taking place and someone wins and someone will lose. Submission is yielding it is not a war.

Did you know that submission is powerful because it operates on faith? “Without faith it is impossible to please God.” Heb. 11:6. Whether we are talking to married women or single women in the ministry we must explain to them that it is faith that submission operates on. God is the intervention and we must allow Him to do so. A small example is the yield sign when we are driving. We must yield to the other car that may be coming. Yielding is submission. While we operate on faith patience is one of the largest ingredients in submission. Yet, by today’s standards to have patience only means that we are releasing control of the situation. When we don’t have the patience to wait and the faith to believe then sometimes God can’t intervene. We simply get in the way and try to figure out how best we can handle the situation. Submission then has stopped and we are standing in the way of the Lord’s intervention.

A constant prayer over the situation is immensely important. Talking and praying to the Lord. Even saying one word that reminds you of the situation in prayer helps us to get back on track and to have faith and patience. This allows you then to yield again to the Lord’s intervention. Let’s try to make submission to God, to our husbands and situations a priority in our lives.

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Becoming a Vessel GOD CAN USE –by Donna Partow

What does it take to be a woman who makes a difference in her world? Do you have to be perfect? Do your spices have to be in alphabetical order?

Those are quite the questions; aren’t they ? What do you think? For several years I have had on my refrig a little saying “If you want to change the world, you yourself must be changed” I have found it to be true in my life that His allowing me to be broken, to be humbled, to be transformed all of this, has been His process of helping me to “become” . To Become a Vessel GOD Can Use. There isn’t a one of use who doesn’t want to feel that our lives have use and value but sometimes (actually many times) His means of using us and His means of helping us to BECOME is far different then we would have ever though (or chosen)! This book is indeed a must read to help turn your heart towards Him in this process. It comes with a study quide included in it.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

A New Point of View

Many of us as a pastor’s wife live far away from our mother, sisters, and long time friends. Because of this challenge, we often miss out on the friendly, trusted advice and counsel those dear women provide for us in the caring of our homes, families, and selves. I encourage each of you to find someone in your present circle who can help fill those areas in your life. Finding such a friend wherever we have lived, has been such a blessing to me as I manage our home and family.

My Mom is a talented nurse and super Grandma. She also is an excellent pantry organizer! I really think she could get her own Pantry Makeover TV show, but she’d rather put her efforts into arranging my soup cans and Tupperware when she makes visits to my home. In handing my jumble of plastic lids and canned goods over to my mother’s hands four times a year, I’m providing her with a way to express her gift, and I gain tidy cupboards.

When it’s time to go through my closet, I enlist the eyes of a local friend who knows what I really wear, will eventually wear, and will never wear. My dear friend Victoria was my set of eyes and voice of reason during our days in Iowa. She would perch herself on my bed with a good cup of tea and kindly but firmly say “Give Away,” “Throw Away”, and “Keep.” My husband also recognized her gift and allowed her to do the same with his side of the closet. We gained much closet space and Victoria was blessed to help us in a way that expressed her time and talent well.

Currently, I am experiencing my second season as a U.P. gardener. The growing season is short, the weather unpredictable, and my skills are much in need of improving. God has blessed us with a wonderful neighbor, Ron, who is known as THE gardener in our community. Recognizing the needs of our large family to be able to put up vegetables for the winter months, Ron blessed us with tomato, pepper, and bean plants. He gives us the thumbs up when it’s time to plant, gives advice about the local soil and how to treat it, and when to cover plants on nights of possible frost. By using his expertise, we’ll be the recipients of scrumptious produce, and Ron has been blessed to help his new neighbors.

I pray for you that you will find a new set of eyes to assist you in your home, and in doing so strengthen friendships with those in your church and community.

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: I Corinthians 9:25-27

Exercise

“What can you do consistently?” Memorable words from my doctor regarding exercise. Start with small goals – increase those goals as you become stronger.

Alternate between aerobics 3-5 times a week and stretching/strength training the other times a week. Aerobics (fast walking, running, water aerobics, etc.) brings oxygen into our bodies, builds stamina, strengthens our hearts, flushes toxins, and reduces adrenal stress. Anaerobics/Stretching/Strength Training (lifting weights, isometric contractions, weight machines, push-ups, chin-ups, stomach crunches, sit-ups, slow stretching exercises, etc.) builds strength and makes our muscles strong. Muscle burns fats and flushes toxins.

Check with your doctor first. As you find exercises you enjoy, you will be more consistent and look forward to your workouts.

Benefits of Exercise

Rapid breathing eliminates gases in our body that become harmful if they build up. Increased blood flow helps keep plaque from building up in your arteries while stimulating your liver to do its duties. Cell function improves with acceleration of carbon dioxide, oxygen and nutrient exchange. Exercise normalizes levels of cortisol, insulin, blood glucose, growth hormone, thyroid and other hormones and puts more oxygen into your brain. These are only some of the benefits of exercise. The greatest advantage of exercise is how much better it makes you feel!

Rest

Our bodies require at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Short naps are wonderful between 3 pm – 5 pm when our adrenal glands are screaming for a break (10-15 minutes is great)! We also need to take at least one day off a week. We need to guard our rest time so we can continue our duties. Another quote from a doctor, “No one has the right to your energy. Learn to say, “No.” when you need to guard your rest time.” The Lord will give us balance as we pray for wisdom!

Resource: www.sparkpeople.com

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Glazed Teriyaki Meatballs & Noodles

12 oz. Uncooked spaghetti noodles
1 ¾ Pounds 90% lean ground beef
½ Cup finely chopped onion
¼ Cup plain dry bread crumbs
1 egg
2 tbsp Asian Seasoning Mix
1 bag (16 oz) frozen stir- fry vegetable blend such as broccoli carrots and pea pods thawed
1 Cup prepared teriyaki base and glaze divided
2 tbsp vegetable oil
3 garlic cloves, pealed and sliced

Directions:
1. Cook noodles according to package directions, drain and set aside. Meanwhile combine beef, onion, bread crumbs egg and seasoning mix in mixing bowl. Mix well. Using a scoop form 24 meatballs place into pan microwave, covered, n high 5-7 minutes or until outside surfaces of meatballs are no longer pink; drain. Add vegetables and ¾ cup of the base and glaze. Cover, microwave 4-6 minutes or until internal temperature of meatballs reaches 160F.

2. Meanwhile, heat oil I (12 inch) skillet over medium-high heat 1-3 minutes or until shimmering. Cook garlic 1-2 minutes or until light brown, stirring occasionally. Add noodles and remaining ¼ cup base and glaze; cook 3-4 minutes or until hot. Divide noodles evenly among bowls. Top with glazed meatballs and vegetables.

**Recipe provided by Pampered Chef**

Mint Chocolate Ice Cream Cake

Crust Filling
1 Pkg fudge covered mint cookies 1 qt mint chocolate chip ice cream
2 Tbs butter melted 1 qt chocolate ice cream
½ cup heavy whipping cream
2 tbs powdered sugar
1/8 tsp peppermint extract

1. For crust place 25 of the cookies in a resalable plastic bag and crush into fine crumbs. Place crumbs into bowl. Add butter mix well. Press crumb mixture into bottom of spring form pan and place pan in freezer until ready to fill.

2. Line inside collar of pan with remaining cookies. For filling place mint chocolate chip ice cream in refrigerator for 20 minutes to soften. Scoop mint chocolate chip ice cream onto crust. Carefully spread ice cream evenly over crust. Cove rand freeze for 1 hour. Place chocolate ice cream in refrigerator 20 minutes before removing cake from freezer. Scoop chocolate ice cream over mint ice cream. Carefully spread evenly and return to freezer.

3. Place cream in chilled bowl beat on high speed of electric hand mixer until soft peaks form. Add powdered sugar and peppermint extract. Continue beating just until still peaks form. Spread cream over chocolate ice cream. Freeze cake until firm at least 6 hours or overnight.

**Recipe provided by Pampered Chef**

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Dear Father,
So many days, in so many ways, we struggle with the idea of submission. The world teaches us that we are liberated to do what we want to do, when we want to do it, and however we want to carry out our desires. Lord, please cause us to remember that our one and true liberation is in the forgiveness you provided us through Jesus’ death and triumphant resurrection. May your Word remind us daily that as we submit, we are doing so “as unto the Lord.” May we find abundant joy in living our lives to the fullest according to your perfect plan. Your Word exhorts us to 15Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” As women of grace, help us live a life of bold beauty and creative compassion as we name Your name, the name above all names. We seek to submit ultimately to You in every area of our lives. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With Pam Cherney

Pam and her husband Frank Cherney serve Trinity Free Lutheran in Janesville, WI. They have four grown daughters and ten grandchildren.

I asked Pam what she felt the Lord has shown her to be her ministry in the present church that she is in. “Well, she said, that would have to be visiting with the shut INS and those in the hospital.” “There were many years that I could not go with my husband to visit but now I can.” “It is such a blessing and I truly believe the people enjoy it also.” She said. “I would have to say the other ministry that God has given me is to take care of children.” “I remember how someone took care of our children and helped me when Frank was in Seminary and I was in Bible School.” “Now at this time in my life I am able to do that for other couples that are in need of childcare also.” Pam recited Philippians 4:13 immediately when I asked her what her favorite Bible verse was. “In our first parish, someone brought over a plaque with this verse on it and it has blessed me since.” “There has been many a time that I have gotten through with this verse.”

I asked Pam for words of encouragement for all of the pastor’s wives and she quickly stated, “Prayer”. “Prayer is the key no matter if you are 25 years in the ministry or if you are just going out for the first time.” “You can be a good listener to your husband but he still may need prayer for the situation or the problem and you can give him that.” As an empty nester she said, “That God really prepared them when the last one left.” “It is a blessing to do things with your husband that you couldn’t do before and you can both concentrate on each other.”

May 6, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

WORDS TO INSPIRE

"Continuing in our series on Biblical Womanhood concerning the topic:

IT IS IN THE COVENANT COMMUNITY
WHERE WE ARE EQUIPPED TO LIVE OUT OUR DESIGN

As you know, being in the family is not just about your nuclear family, but also about being in the family of God. When children are confirmed into the faith they are identifying with the Lord as well as with the Lord’s family, the church. As well, all God’s children need to live covenantally before God and with His people.

The Biblical account of Ruth and Naomi gives a dramatic presentation of what it’s like to live covenantally. “Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you. (Ruth 1:16-17) As Ruth committed her life to Jehovah as her God, she understood that this meant changing her citizenship to the covenant community.

The last half of the meaning of the 3rd Article of the Apostles’ Creed, “…but the Holy Spirit has called me through the Gospel, enlightened me with His gifts, and sanctified and preserved me in the true faith; in like manner as He calls, gathers, enlightens, and sanctifies the whole Christian Church on earth…” This is the covenantal concept – that He calls not only me, but also others into relationship within the context of the Christian church.

Women of Christ are crushed when we emulate the pursuit of self-fulfillment and self-actualization in the culture. Countless mothers have told their daughters, “Learn to be independent. Self-sufficiency is power” – these misbeliefs make the helper design seems senseless! But in the covenant community, the church of our Lord Jesus Christ, the helper design is essential.

Redeemed women join together as corporate helpers in God’s church and care for the body of Christ, much like Mary Magdalene and Mary the mother of James, and Salome did when they bought spices so they might go and anoint the body of Christ. They made plans, decisions, and carried them out. They functioned well together. And even though they knew the stone was too big for them to roll, they still carried on. This is the essence of community and compassion in the church. It is the helper design in action.

Someone is teaching the women of our churches and our daughters what it means to be a woman. Is it the current culture or the church? How can we help our women? The life-giving culture of caring is not learned from books. They learn how to carry out this helper ministry as, by God’s grace, they watch us speak and live it!

It is in the church that believers are equipped “for the work of ministry, for the building up of the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God” (Ephesians 4:12-13).

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Legacy of Fruitfulness

Do we want to leave a Legacy of Fruitfulness? Do we care about leaving a legacy of fruitfulness? Have we even thought of leaving a legacy of fruitfulness? If we know Jesus as our Personal Savior and Lord the answer to that should be yes I want to leave a legacy of fruitfulness. What is the fruitfulness that I must leave? What does God want me to leave as a legacy? I know what I want to leave but more importantly what does God want me to leave.

First of all I must go to the word and read. Jesus drew people to himself to teach and encourage and many other things. God wants me to be approachable. People should want to be with me. I want to make sure that I am not concentrating on myself. Jesus did not concentrate on himself. As I grow older I don’t want to concentrate on my aches and pains but to ask about them and their concerns. My focus must always show that my concentration is on Jesus. Whether that is by being in the Word with Bible Study and prayer or worship. I must always be a voice of encouragement and thankfulness.

On the practical side, is to be a life long learner. Never stop learning. Especially, when it comes to relating to the things that my children or my grandchildren know about. Keeping in touch with things. Sometimes seeing the dangers and praying for them or warning them when the time is right and the spirit has prepared the way. When they talk to me, be willing to listen to their ideas and thoughts. Being a mentor. Learning from others is important. One practical point is to be honest that I don’t understand and would they teach me.

Laughter is another aspect of the legacy. “A merry heart doeth good” I want to be able to laugh and enjoy life that the Lord has given me.

One of the traits that can turn an example of a good legacy sour is to live in the past. We must learn from the past. We must see the hand of God in the past. We must see how we came through the suffering and pain in the past. Most of all see God’s eternal faithfulness during that time. I don’t want to be remembered as someone who complains or tells of all of my terrible past. But rather I want to pass on a legacy of how God has blessed me, abided in me and been my strength.

And when death is at the door of a loved one or friend I want to have a biblical view of suffering and death. Here I remember the 23rd Psalm. Let us be encouraged to leave a God filled legacy of fruitfulness.

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By Design –God’s Distinctive Calling for Women by Susan Hunt

In the Old Testament, Zion refers to the fortified mound between the Kidron and Tyropean valleys. When David captured this area, it became known as the city of David. It sometimes refers to the temple vicinity and even to Jerusalem itself. In the new covenant, Zion has reference to the Church. As women who love the Lord, who are a part of this Church, we are the daughters of Zion. This book helps us, as women, to understand who we are as a daughter of Zion. It (the book) can be helpful in helping one understand the helper design which was stamped upon us, as woman, at creation. It reinforces the implications of our creational design by looking at women in history and contemporary women who have been and are faithful to this calling. The book presents a plea to the church to equip and mobilize women to help a hurting world and capture a culture for Christ through ministries of mercy and compassion. A must read for one who understands the times in which she lives and desires to have her life, as a daughter of Zion, glorify Him for such as time as this.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

A Recipe for Smoother Sundays

I have a suspicion that it’s not just at our house that Sunday mornings can become a bit stressful. If you have more than just yourself to get ready for church, you can plan on taking at least twice as long to get out the door and into your pew.

Twenty years of being a pastor’s wife, and nearly nineteen of being a mom has given me lots of practice at trying to make Sunday mornings more of a joyful experience, and less of a frantic flight to church. I’m still learning, but would like to share with you a few tips that have helped me over the years.

Saturday evenings we try and keep as a quiet family night at home as much as possible. Because we still have children, and many of them, at home, we try to get everyone bathed, fed, and to bed at a decent hour. We all function better Sunday mornings, including my pastor husband, if Saturday evenings are kept calm.

It sounds simple, and it is – if you actually do it – but selecting everyone’s outfits (even Dad’s) on Saturday, will make your Sunday morning much easier. It takes a very long time, and causes elevated blood pressure, to try and gather matching socks or intact nylons for eight people if left till the last minute. Plan and prepare the evening before for everyone’s wardrobe needs and you’ll be very thankful you did.

Setting the breakfast table the evening before and having your morning foods gathered and easy to serve also saves much time and energy. How many times have you, like me, opened the refrigerator to find out that the milk you had yesterday is now gone, and church starts in just half an hour? We all do better when our bodies are well nourished before going to feed on God’s Word at our church services.

If it’s your custom to eat at home for Sunday dinner, or to invite others over for a noon meal, try preparing it in the crock-pot beforehand so it’s one less thing to be thinking about as you’re leaving church. Our family has found that Sunday dinner is not the best time for us personally to welcome people into our home. After service, our youngest ones are often ready for some quiet time, and so is Dad after having preached and taught all morning. Instead, Sunday evenings have been a time we enjoy inviting others to our home for dessert, conversation, and sometimes games.

Sunday is my most cherished day of the week, and I hope it is yours as well!

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

OUR BODY / HIS TEMPLE
“Premium Fuel”

Read: Hosea 4:6

It’s no surprise that our bodies require proper fuel to run efficiently. God made premium fuel for our bodies. Shop the outside aisles in the grocery store where “God-made” food is located – fruits, vegetables, meats, whole grains. A garden, raising our own meats and making our own breads and pasta is the best option. Second best – organic fruits, vegetables, meats, and quality, store-bought, whole grain breads and pasta. Impossible? Then you need to become a label reader. If ingredients say - enriched, preservative, nitrate or words you cannot pronounce – it’s best to stay away from them. Chemicals reek havoc within our bodies! Our bodies turn them into fat and/or can cause sicknesses (i.e., cancers, etc.). Other things to stay away from: sugar, caffeine, hydrogenated fats (i.e., peanut butter, shortening, fried foods). The Best - give our bodies what they crave – God’s food!

Water is extremely important! Our bodies are made up of approximately 70% water. We are literally an aquarium! Drink 8-10 glasses a day. Herbal teas count as a glass of water.

We should pray that our minds are not disconnected from how our bodies feel. If we feel ill, we should ask the Lord, “What can I do to change?” Food/water is an easy first step to take. We would not put muddy water in our gas tank to make our car run. Bad food/water should not go into our bodies (His Temple) - only “premium”! Make small, permanent changes and add to those changes as time goes along.

Resources:

Food: http://www.pwlp.com/ Weight loss or not, this program educates proper nutrition.
Chemicals: Spray produce with equal amounts of white vinegar and purified water to dissolve chemicals. Leave on ½ hour or not – rinse in purified water.
Water: www.mcvitamins.com/water.htm. Explains water’s importance. Water filters or purifying pitchers are good choices.

HERE’S WHAT’S COOKING

Annie's Fruit Salsa and Cinnamon Chips

Ingredients

2 kiwis, peeled and diced
2 Golden Delicious apples - peeled, cored and diced
8 ounces raspberries
1 pound strawberries
2 tablespoons white sugar
1 tablespoon brown sugar
3 tablespoons fruit preserves, any flavor
10 (10 inch) flour tortillas
butter flavored cooking spray
2 cups cinnamon sugar

Directions

In a large bowl, thoroughly mix kiwis, Golden Delicious apples, raspberries, strawberries, white sugar, brown sugar and fruit preserves. Cover and chill in the refrigerator at least 15 minutes.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).

Coat one side of each flour tortilla with butter flavored cooking spray. Cut into wedges and arrange in a single layer on a large baking sheet. Sprinkle wedges with desired amount of cinnamon sugar. Spray again with cooking spray.
Bake in the preheated oven 8 to 10 minutes. Repeat with any remaining tortilla wedges. Allow to cool approximately 15 minutes. Serve with chilled fruit mixture.

From Allrecipes.com

White Chocolate Fruit Tart

Ingredients

3/4 cup butter, softened
1/2 cup confectioners' sugar
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

FILLING:
1 (10 ounce) package vanilla or white chips, melted and cooled
1/4 cup heavy whipping cream
1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1 (20 ounce) can pineapple chunks, undrained
1 pint fresh strawberries, sliced
1 (11 ounce) can mandarin oranges, drained
2 kiwifruit, peeled and sliced

GLAZE:
3 tablespoons sugar
2 teaspoons cornstarch
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice

Directions

In a small mixing bowl, cream butter and confectioners' sugar until light and fluffy. Gradually add flour; mix well. Press into an ungreased 11-in. tart pan with removable bottom or 12-in. pizza pan with sides. Bake at 300 degrees F for 25-30 minutes or until lightly browned. Cool on a wire rack.

For filling, in a small mixing bowl, beat melted chips and cream. Add cream cheese and beat until smooth. Spread over crust. Refrigerate for 30 minutes. Drain pineapple, reserving 1/2 cup juice; set juice aside. Arrange the pineapple, strawberries, oranges and kiwi over filling.

For glaze, in a small saucepan, combine sugar and cornstarch. Stir in lemon juice and reserved pineapple juice until smooth. Bring to a boil over medium heat; cook and stir for 2 minutes or until thickened. Cool; brush over fruit. Refrigerate for 1 hour before serving. Refrigerate leftovers.

From Taste of Home

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

John 15: 4-5

4"Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.
5"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.

Dear Father, Thank you for being the One who knows us best. Thank you for loving us and desiring that each of us as women be pruned and fit for Your service. As you clip away the undesirable parts of our lives, help us to remember that although painful, the process is for Your Glory and for our good. Place within us the desire to abide in You through the study of Your Word and time with you in prayer. May we be faithful to be You, Your Word, and thus leave behind fruitful legacies when our days on earth are finished. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With Laurie Nash
By Mary Pollestad

Laurie is the wife of Home Mission Director Paul Nash. She is the mother of three children and a grandmother of nine. When I asked Laurie what she thought her ministry for the Lord was she promptly said, “ Supporting my husband, mentor to my children, women’s ministries and helping international students at the AFLBS.”

Her favorite Bible verse is Isaiah 25:1 the last part of the verse says, “I will give thanks to your name for thou has worked wonders plans formed long ago with perfect faithfulness.” This verse shows God is in control and has a plan and we can trust Him.

When I asked Laurie what encouraging words would she have for all of us women especially pastor’s wives she spoke of her passion for women to be Women of the Word. In Jeremiah chapter 9 she said, “It talks about hearing the Word and receiving the Word.” “So much is going on in the rest of the world that is contrary to what God wants” she said. “We need the Word more and more.” “Our culture shouts and pulls us away from the Word of God and the joy that we can have.” “We must soak in the Word, dwell in the Word, meditate on the Word and abide in the Word.” “This is the strong passion that I have had through out this year.” She said.

Thank you Laurie for these encouraging words. Heavenly Father, may we be women of the Word of God.

March 4, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

WORDS TO INSPIRE

BY CHERYL SKORDAHL

Last month I wrote about the helper design that God gave women at creation. We’ll continue this topic under the theme:

THE GOSPEL EMPOWERS AND COMPELS US
TO EXERCISE OUR DESIGN

“I believe that I cannot by my own reason or strength believe in Jesus Christ my Lord or come to Him. But the Holy Spirit has called me through the gospel…” I memorized that when I was 15 years old, and the message grows more precious year by year.

It is because of this “calling” this “redemption” that we can live our helper design – not in our own reason or strength, but through grace in the power of the Holy Spirit, as our catechism states. This grace, this redeeming love, breaks the grip of sin in our lives and empowers us to fulfill our creation mission. Is this truth so deeply ingrained in your mind, so that you will never become entangled in works righteousness? Even as a young seminarian’s wife, I was at the point of giving up on God because I was discouraged at my lack of ability to live the Christian life… works righteousness. When I realized that I needed to let go and let God, true Christian freedom came and I began living and doing in His power alone.

It is couched with this grace knowledge that I want to proceed to share some of the characteristics of a redeemed woman who is a true helper and fulfills her life-giving mission.

1. She is so grateful for God’s mercy that she gives forgiveness to others. Christ’s righteousness causes her to joyfully extend love and acceptance to others.
2. Her sights are on her heavenly home which restrains her from materialism.
3. She values the calling of wife and mother, but not so that they become her idol. She holds her family loosely before God.
4. She moves gracefully through different seasons and circumstances of life.
5. She is not focused on herself but extends herself to the elderly, the sick, the oppressed, needy and afflicted. Taking along her children or a younger woman to help train the next generation.
6. The redeemed helper knows that her marriage is a gospel picture to her children, the Christian community, and the world.
7. She knows that elevating herself, an individualistic approach, causes marriage and motherhood to be trivialized whereas a biblical perspective raises these relationships to the eternal.
8. She understands that her children are gifts to the church and she wants them to grow up as a part of this community. She teaches about the privilege to live and move among believers and to assume responsibilities to this covenant community.

What other ways are you living out your helper design? As pastor’s wives we remember that this design is foreign and offensive to the fallen world. The devil and the world tell women that there is a better way – a way of autonomy and independence. Instead the Lord through the gospel teaches and empowers us to live out our helper design. It is in the context of the Word where this design truly makes sense. Prov. 13:14, Prov 14:30, Prov 15:4. Can you find other Scriptures that teach and encourage women to live out their helper design?

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

PORTRAIT OF A WOMAN USED BY GOD
By Mary Pollestad

What is a picture of a woman who is used by God? What comes to your mind when you ask yourself, “Am I a portrait of a woman used by God”? I think there are several areas that come to our minds if we were sitting in a group of ladies right now. Let’s try and look at some of these. First and foremost she is a woman who is in the Word of God daily. When we are women who are in the Word of God we will then be able to respond in a right manner to everything in our lives because our lives are built on the Lord and His Word. A woman used by God has only one agenda and one focus that of Jesus Christ. She doesn’t think of herself first. Also her heart is willing and open to Gods’ leading to be used.

I think of an ordinary woman. We don’t have to be extraordinary in our talents and abilities God uses ordinary people like you and me.

Secondly, the picture is of a woman who knows it is only because of God’s grace that she can be who she is.

Thirdly women are nurturers and if we are women who love God we have been chosen to do that very thing. Nurturing other women in the Faith of the Lord Jesus. This may be a young woman at church or even as a young woman you can nurture other older women.

Fourthly, it is a woman who listens intently to the Holy Spirit. A portrait of a woman used by God actually listens all day long to the words that the Holy Spirit may say to her. She is always mindful of the Spirit. She also listens to the Spirit and does what the Spirit leads her to do even if it means she has to get out of her comfort zone.

Fifthly she does not have a negative spirit. She believes in her Lord. She talks of what He can do for her and for others. She doesn’t whine when the tough things come along. She goes forth believing that God is in control and He will help her through all of it.

Also this is a woman who is available. This may mean even pulling your car over and parking so that you can help a woman who has called you on your cell phone and she needs you to listen to her right now. Or maybe talking to your 13 year old daughter who needs to talk and you only have 10 minutes to get the supper ready for the family. Or, talking to a grandmother who is very disheartened because her grandchildren are not going to Sunday School. Maybe even helping out a sick one whose family is exhausted as care givers.

These are only a few items in the picture. How many more can you add for yourself as you look at the Portrait of a Woman Used By God?

CHECK IT OUT

WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART
By Elizabeth George

Our transformation into being a woman after God’s own heart is indeed God’s work. But what this book offers are the disciplines we can follow to place ourselves before God—disciplines regarding our devotional life, our husband, our children, our home, our personal growth, and our ministry –so that he can do that work in our heart. In this book you’ll find practical insights about what it means to follow God in every area of life, insights about nurturing an impassioned relationship with God, loving your husband, enjoying your children, caring for your home, experiencing personal growth, and giving to others. This book leads you on an exciting journey, and it is one where you will find much joy along the way. Let’s join together in becoming women who seek to be what God calls us and will empower us to be, a WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Spring is in the air, and with it comes Spring Cleaning! I used to be one of those people who would take a day and clean my house from top to bottom. It felt great to accomplish so much and to put my feet up at the end of the day with a clean house. Now that I have two children under two, I have had to modify my approach to cleaning. No longer do I have the luxury of taking a whole day to clean our house, much less taking time for spring cleaning that needs to be done. My house is just not as company ready as it used to be.

I was visiting at my girlfriend’s house and noticed a cute box on her kitchen countertop. The little tag attached to the tin box said “Spring Clean Year Round.” When I asked her about it, she explained that inside were cards that break down house cleaning chores at various intervals (weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, bi-monthly etc…) Following the cards, she can clean a little bit each day. She received this box as a gift, but gave me the blog spot where one can go to see how the system works and order a box if desired: www.cleanyearround.blogspot.com. Perhaps you may be interested to go to this site and order a box. Or maybe you could read about it and get some ideas on how to create a system of your own for breaking down your house cleaning chores. Happy Cleaning!

IDEAS THAT WORK

BY LORI WILLARD

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; Romans 14:7-8;
Romans 12:1-2

We are the temple of the Holy Spirit! God commands that no one (ourselves included) is to defile or destroy our bodies! We are the Lord’s! We are to come apart from the world’s behavior! We must offer our bodies to Him, as a living sacrifice, for His service! Strong words for His people!

Do the following questions sound familiar?

How do I change my body, mind, will, emotions and spirit to reflect a transformed life? Do I want to be healed in all areas of my life? Do I want to fully serve the Lord? Do I only pay attention to my health when a crisis hits? How can I work for Him while I neglect the gift of life the Lord has given me? Do I see that neglect as a sin against the Lord?

We will address these thoughts in the next issues of Heartline. Resources will be shared to help improve your life and others around you.

When visiting a Naturopathic Doctor, she questioned, “Why do people in ministry push hard, give everything to ministry, and yet don’t take care of themselves? If you ever get a chance to tell others in ministry to take care of themselves, do it!”

CHOOSE LIFE! As I read Deuteronomy 30:19-20, the Lord impressed upon me that I had a responsibility to fulfill. It was simple. Make the decision to choose life. The Holy Spirit will come alongside to strengthen us.

Will you choose life?

Resource: Medical (Allopathic) Doctors (MDs) treat patients through medications (which mask root causes) and surgery. They are good at diagnosing symptoms. Naturopathic Doctors (NDs) treat patients through nutrition, supplements and exercise. NDs are good at dealing with root causes to stimulate the body’s natural healing process. Check out www.naturopathic.org to find an ND near you.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Fresh Spring Broccoli Salad

5 Cups Fresh Broccoli Florets
½ Cup Raisins
½ cup sunflower seeds
½ cup cooked crumbled bacon
3 cups purple grapes
¼ cup of red onion, chopped

Dressing:
1 cup mayonnaise
2 tablespoons vinegar
½ cup sugar

Alternative:
Use KRAFT cucumber ranch dressing for a fresh spring taste also to avoid food allergies for those who cannot eat mayonnaise.

Combine all ingredients and dressing to desired thickness

Lemon Cheesecake Bars (from McCormick)

1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs

1/3 cup butter, melted

1/2 teaspoon Ginger, Ground

3 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened

1 cup sugar

1/4 cup milk

2 tablespoons flour

1 1/2 teaspoons Pure Lemon Extract

1 teaspoon Pure Vanilla Extract

3 eggs

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Mix graham cracker crumbs, butter and ginger. Press firmly onto bottom of foil-lined 13x9-inch baking pan. Refrigerate until ready to use.

2. Beat cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until well blended. Add milk, flour and extracts; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating on low speed after each addition just until blended. Pour over crust.

3. Bake 40 to 45 minutes or until center is almost set. Cool completely on wire rack.

4. Refrigerate 4 hours or overnight. Lift out of pan onto cutting board. Cut into bars. Garnish as desired. Store leftover bars in refrigerator.

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
2 Peter 1:3-8

Lord, you have created us as Women. As we study your word, teach us how you want us to live as Christian Women. Your word says you have already given us, “everything we need for life and godliness.” Give us the strength and obedience to exercise our design so we can be effective and productive in our calling for your glory. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With Evonne Skramstad
By Mary Pollestad

Evonne Skramstad and her husband Tim Skramstad who serves Living Word Lutheran in Eagan, Minnesota have served this church for eight years. “This is the longest time we have been in one place in the ministry” she said. Evonne is the mother of one son and two daughters who all live in the Minneapolis area.

When I asked Evonne what she thought her ministry was in the church she said. “Leading a women’s weekly Bible Study.” That Bible study sometimes in the fall goes into two times a day so giving more opportunity for the women to attend. “The most important ministry I have is listening to my husband and praying for him” she replied. She also helps with Vacation Bible School and with the prayer chain in the church.

If she could encourage all of us pastor’s wives she would say to stay in the Word. It is there where the strength is. “We’ve heard it and heard it over again that staying in the Word is the most important from other older women so we need to do that.” To those of us who are awake during the night or early early morning she encourages us to read the Word of God then. The second thing she encouraged us with is to be a real prayer warrior. “Also, remember that if you are asked to pray about something or you ask someone to pray for you be sure that the prayer is kept and not shared with anyone.” She replied. Another encouragement would be for us women to be quiet before we speak. “Sometimes I just step back and not get involved in a situation.” “Sometimes we should just listen or just get out of the situation so that we don’t regret it later.” She encouraged all the women who are going into their first church for the first time to just sit back in the first year and wait for the Lord to show you what doors he has open for you in the church. “Sometimes in a young family it is hard to be involved” she said, “because the children do need care.” “Just wait for the doors to be opened for you.” Prayer and reading the Word of God is what we need to do as women today.

January 4, 2010

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

WORDS TO INSPIRE

WOMAN - CREATED BY GOD TO BE A HELPER
By Cheryl Skordahl

A helper? Hopefully you don’t think that sound denigrating. Many women, world wide, react to the word helper in this negative way. But would that reaction be accurate when compared to the truth in the Word of God?

Genesis 1:27 says,
“God created man in his own image, in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.”

The man and the woman were equal, but different. Being created in God’s image gives identity and purpose. There is no preferential treatment in our union with Christ, but God’s design and order is clearly delineated in Galatians 3:28 where Paul writes,

“It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.”
God’s design for woman is that she be a helper.

But, why didn’t God want man to be alone? Prior to the creation, God was alone, and man and woman were called into being because the Lord yearned for relationships. Recalling that human kind is created in God’s image helps us to realize why people also yearn for a relationship with God and with each other. The unity of marriage is where we see gender distinctiveness flowing out of equality in a complementary way. The male/female distinctiveness was essential before God gave His approval on this creation by saying: “It is very good.”

The Hebrew word “ezer” is primarily translated “helper.” In the Old Testament it refers to God as our helper. Considering that God is our helper causes us to reflect on the richness and strength of this word. This same word “ezer” is used in Exodus 18:4 when Moses spoke of God as his helper, saving him from Pharaoh’s sword. In Psalms 10:14; 72:12; and 86:17 we read that God is the helper of the victim, the fatherless, the needy, and the afflicted. In other Psalms God is also referred to as a helper who is our support, strength, and shield. (20:2; 27:7; 33:20)

Today’s hostile feminist philosophy, which says that equality means sameness between male and female has brought chaos and confusion to our world. The original helper design God gave woman has been marred by this feminist belief system, and now many think of womanhood in terms of their own self-fulfillment, their own completeness, their own authority, their own happiness.

The helper design that God gave us at creation is intrinsic to who we are. It does not change with these whims of culture – it is never outdated. The word “helper” is indicative of a life-giving ministry of nurture, defense, and comfort of others. May the Lord be a helper to AFLC pastor’s wives, that we be characterized in the scriptural manner.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

A Wife’s Responsibility to Help Her Husband

Here are some helpful and some practical ways in which to help our husbands. First of all, the more that I study the Word the more I will grow in my faith. The more that I grow in my faith the more I will be able to be open to the Holy Spirit and His leading in order to help my husband more.

The word help makes us think of assisting or lending a helping hand. When a wife thinks of it that way and keeps Christ at the center of her life then it puts helping into perspective.

Another important thing to remember when we want to get involved in something or add to our duties is to ask ourselves is what I want to do going to help my husband. If we keep this in our hearts and minds at all times it will sometimes help deter us from doing something that will only hinder and not help our husbands. f we honor this God will truly bless us.

Praying for our husbands is one of the best things we can do to help our husbands. This sometimes seems like it doesn’t have much value in helping our husband but it truly does. You can talk to the Lord about many things for your husband and he will be blessed and the Holy Spirit will reveal things to him.

Let’s take our instruction from the scripture. The proverbs 31 lady watches over the affairs of her household. She is a caretaker of the house. Also her husband trusts in her. If our husbands trust in us they know that whatever needs to be done will be done. They don’t have to worry or try to get it done themselves. They will trust in us.

Let’s ask ourselves these questions. Do I manage my time that helps my husband or serves my agenda? Do I care for my home in a manner that helps my husband or serves myself?

Helping means to assist to carry on with what is needed and to take instruction and follow through. Helping our husband could be just sitting and listening to him talk. Maybe taking care of something for him that he needs to get done but doesn’t have time.

Putting our husbands ahead of ourselves is important. Sometimes that means putting aside all of our plans for the day and doing that which he may need or want us to do. We will be blessed if we do that. God understands that we have sometimes a lot to do but God will provide the time to finish what we need to do if we have put our husbands first ahead of what we have to do.

Some more practical ways are making sure he has clean clothes, ironed shirts and prepared food for him. Also make sure he has time to devote to his work. If he takes care of his work then he can concentrate on you and the family. Be a good steward of what you and your husband have. Maybe our home isn’t always clean but keeping an orderly home will also make a comfortable home.

With all the pressures of work sometimes our husbands need us to remind him of things that he needs to do. Being a list maker for him will sometimes help him stay on top of things that need to be done.

Another way you can help your husband is to make some time for dates with him. Also make time for you and him to be alone. Alone time is good for prayer, communication and sharing blessings and concerns.

Wives have a wonderful position that the Lord has provided for us. It is a wonderful role. It is wonderful to be a woman and to know that God has provided a definite role for us according to scripture.