HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

One Size Doesn’t Fit All

Being in full-time ministry often includes the opportunity to practice hospitality. People of all ages, with many different needs, can be blessed by the opening of our homes’ doors. The sharing of a meal, or simply a glass of lemonade, can tell people that they have found a safe and accepting place to share their joys, hurts, and struggles.

One simple way I’ve found that lets people know they are a special guest in my home, is to serve their meal or snack on unusual dishes. I’ve had the privilege of living in several areas where I’ve been given or purchased “fun” dinnerware pieces. Using them brings me the joy of special memories and the delight of seeing people enjoying being served in something different than the everyday norm.

For children: Even if you don’t have little ones in your home, do you have some child friendly dishes and utensils? Cheery unbreakable plates seem to make everything taste better. How about some easy to handle plastic tumblers for little hands to grasp? When we have children into our home (in addition to our own), I love pulling out my Looney Tunes plastic cups. Drinking juice out of a Tweetie Bird mug has made many a little one smile. Also, visiting moms and dads will feel much more relaxed knowing their little sweeties won’t break your great aunt’s glass goblets.

Teens: They’re always hungry and thirsty aren’t they? When my sons’ friends come over I break out the big A&W mugs, get some divided Chinet paper plates, and have plenty of napkins on hand. For teen girls, bring out some of your pretty dishes, colorful tablecloths, and a vase of flowers from the backyard. Girls of all ages enjoy feeling special, don’t they? I still have girls who’ve eaten off my vibrant flower plates that ask me if I still have them several years later. I’m happy to say yes, although a few have been broken with moves and wear.

Men: When I married my husband he had no less than twenty-two Big Gulp Twins glasses from 7-Eleven. I was quick to liquidate that supply, but have learned through the years to keep a few replacements on hand. Why? Because he and his friends like BIG tumblers much better than my dainty water glasses. I guess Mountain Dew was meant to be enjoyed 32 oz. at a time. Also - do you have big mugs in your home for serving coffee? So much easier for many men to use rather than the standard cup size.

Women: Having a friend, or a group of ladies over? Do you have a special set of dessert plates that you save for special occasions? Break them out and enjoy! I love using my hand painted Portuguese dishes that seem to make something as simple as a brownie and cup of chai seem more delicious. Don’t have pieces on hand? Check out your local thrift store, garage sale, or attic, for fun mismatched heirloom style dishes to use.

Enjoy welcoming people into your home, making them feel comfortable and loved, and the benefits may very well last not just for a lifetime, but for eternity.

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)


Read: Romans 12:2, Hebrews 12:14-15

Emotional Healing – It’s basically forgiveness and reconciliation. Physically we don’t see the pain but it’s manifested in our behaviors and/or physical health. Emotions are God’s gift so we may have abundant life! Emotions aren’t designed to trap and torture us. We live in a fallen world where trauma, hurt, sin, embarrassment, rejection, fear, accidents or death are all around us. We respond negatively or positively. Our response determines our need for healing.

Between 80-90% of all illnesses are psychosomatic. This does not mean they are not real. It means it involves both the mind (psyche) and the body (soma). Research and science have determined emotional pain as the root cause for many diseases: hypertension, cardiovascular disease, immune system diseases, infections, allergies – to name a few. Harmful emotions, which lead to diseases, are: hostility, anger, stress, bitterness, self-bitterness, unforgiveness, jealousy, envy, rejection, fear. Harmful emotions can trigger the development of various diseases because hormones plus chemical and physical responses are released into the body to do battle.

Positive Solutions

Find verses that directly speak to the problem so healing can be applied. If an emotional button is pushed, repeated input of reading or hearing God’s Word can change our thought patterns or transform our minds.

Separation from God, others or ourselves? Recognize it, acknowledge it, confess it and repent of it.

Emotional Healing Involving Others (Present or Not)

1) Recall emotionally painful event.
2) Verbally forgive the person responsible.
3) Verbally ask God to forgive you for your attitude towards them.
4) Ask Jesus to give you a scene in your mind of Him being there with you

when the event took place.

Jesus is Omnipresent – always with us. His presence brings healing and we are no longer a victim but the victor with His help.

Resources: “The Word on Health” By Michael D. Jacobson, Moody Press
“Healing Academy Manual” By Rev. Larry and Audrey Eddings
Seminar Manual by Wind of the Spirit Ministries, P.O. Box 175, Silverdale, WA 98383

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Banana Pumpkin Bread

Ingredients
2 ripe bananas, mashed
2 eggs
1/3 cup vegetable oil
1 1/3 cups canned pumpkin puree
1/2 cup honey
1/2 cup white sugar
2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
3/4 cup raisins (optional)

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9x5 inch loaf pan.
2. In a large bowl, stir together the mashed banana, eggs, oil, pumpkin, honey and sugar. Combine the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, pie spice and cinnamon, stir into the banana mixture until just combined. Fold in the raisins and walnuts if desired. Pour batter into the prepared pan.
3. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 45 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the loaf comes out clean. Cool loaf in the pan for 10 minutes before moving to a wire rack to cool completely.

From: allrecipes.com

Twice Baked Potatoes

Ingredients
4 large baking potatoes
4 tablespoons milk
salt to taste
2 tablespoons butter
1/4 cup shredded mild Cheddar cheese

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
2. Clean and scrub baking potatoes. Pierce skin with a fork once or twice. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for approximately 1 hour or until the potatoes are soft and firm.
3. Let potatoes cool slightly. Cut baked potatoes in half and scoop out pulp within 1/4 inch of the shell edge. Mash the pulp with milk, salt and butter to taste. Stuff shells with mashed pulp mixture sprinkle tops with grated cheddar cheese. Place potatoes on a baking sheet and bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 15 minutes or until cheese is melted and bubbly.

From: Allrecipes.com

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Titus 2:3-5 "the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things- that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."

Lord, Cause within us a desire to be clear reflections of Your love as we serve as examples to young woman in our family of faith. May we realize that the tasks that often seem menial to us, have great value to You. The work we do today may seem so temporary in it's worth, but please Lord, remind us that it has eternal value. Show us how to serve our families and friends with purpose in our hearts and hands. May we teach by word and by action that a life lived for Jesus is a blessed life, to our daughters, grand-daughters, and other family members. Help us to remember that we have the greatest treasure ever to share with those we will one day say good-bye to on this earth - the promise of eternity with You in our heavenly home.Amen.

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INTERVIEW WITH
GLORIA LEE

Gloria Lee is the wife of Pastor Robert L Lee. Pastor Lee is now a teacher at our AFLBS. Gloria is the mother of two children and five grandchildren.

When I asked Gloria what she felt her ministry was when her and her husband were serving the churches she said, “First of all my home was first priority.” “I feel that my husband needed a Place of Peace.” “ I also taught Sunday School, lead WMF Bible Studies and directed children’s choirs.” “ Sometimes it was four parishes that had WMF Bible Studies to go to.” “ I counted it a privilege to go to the different WMF Bible Studies as it was there that I learned from other women and grew in the Lord.” As I visited more with Gloria I found out that hospitality was one of their main ministries. She said, “When people came over on the spur of the moment it was fun to just put on the coffee and just visit together in a relaxed atmosphere and to get to know the people.”

I asked Gloria if she could leave words of encouragement to all of us pastor’s wives as she looked back over the years. She said, “Keep your relationship with the Lord the utmost of importance in your life.” She encouraged us to ask our husbands to purchase a second pastor’s handbook and use it during your devotions to pray for each pastor, pastor’s family and all of the committee members including the AFLBS,AFLTS and AFLC staff. She had found it to be most rewarding and felt it was good to pray for one another. Gloria stated with a loving tone, “You know going into the ministry people are waiting to love you more than in any other occupation.” So from that I gathered that we should allow the people to love us and to be so grateful for all of that love. Another idea she has for us is to make a book of all of the weddings, funerals, anniversaries and baptisms that your husband performed or was involved in to look back and remember all of the people that you had been involved with over the years.” “Another thing” she said “I tried to sit in a different place each Sunday with my children because then I would be able to sit around different ones and could visit with them on a more personal basis.” “I also taught Sunday School so that I could share the word of Jesus with the children and to get to know the children at the church better.” When I talked to her about the involvement in the church she said, “It is good to just find out what needs there are in the church that are not covered and then if you see a need then ask if we could start it.” “Remember though,” she warned, “ you can’t do everything all of the time.” Pastor’s wives think they have to be super at everything that they do and they don’t have to be.”

Gloria’s life verse is Isaiah 40:31. But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint. That verse then has flowed now into Psalm 18:1. I love you, O Lord, my strength.

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Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

"Continuing in our series on Biblical Womanhood concerning the topic:

The Authority Structure that
Releases Women to Fulfill their Creation Design.

We teach our children that mom and dad are the authority at home – as well; we need to teach them that the Elders, (Deacons, Church Council) are the authority in the church. We all, as members of the church, voluntarily place ourselves in submission to them. As we do this submitting voluntarily, we are positioning ourselves to receive the blessings, benefits and protection of the church.

We as redeemed helpers are not threatened by this type of headship in the church, instead we value God’s design and order. Redeemed women know that this submission has nothing to do with status, but has to do with function. This is similar to the functional submission in the Holy Trinity (as explained further in a previous article.) Submission is built into the way God has ordered life in the kingdom, and it is good because God is good. Headship and submission are God’s ordained order for achieving oneness in marriage and unity in the church.

Those of us who are married want our husband to be a leader who cherishes us – but we don’t want to be coddled. Coddling will lead to immaturity and weakness. In 1978, when I was in the process of being healed from an acute depression, my husband learned this truth – I had remained immature and weak because of being coddled. He learned skills that enabled me to be strong and carry on the daily routine when he was absent – yet I remained submissive to him as the head of our home and family. You too are strongest when you fulfill all your duties in the strength of the Lord, and under the headship of your husband.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Liberated Through Submission

Sometimes we get submission and surrender mixed up when we are thinking about submissiveness. Let’s look at some definitions. Submission according to Webster’s Dictionary defines the word submit as ‘to Yield,’ which is voluntary. Submission in our world today and in the past has not received the right definition applied to it by many. When the word submission is stated the thoughts go more towards Surrender. According to Webster’s Dictionary surrender means “to give oneself up into the power of another.” The word surrender is a military term. It means a war is taking place and someone wins and someone will lose. Submission is yielding it is not a war.

Did you know that submission is powerful because it operates on faith? “Without faith it is impossible to please God.” Heb. 11:6. Whether we are talking to married women or single women in the ministry we must explain to them that it is faith that submission operates on. God is the intervention and we must allow Him to do so. A small example is the yield sign when we are driving. We must yield to the other car that may be coming. Yielding is submission. While we operate on faith patience is one of the largest ingredients in submission. Yet, by today’s standards to have patience only means that we are releasing control of the situation. When we don’t have the patience to wait and the faith to believe then sometimes God can’t intervene. We simply get in the way and try to figure out how best we can handle the situation. Submission then has stopped and we are standing in the way of the Lord’s intervention.

A constant prayer over the situation is immensely important. Talking and praying to the Lord. Even saying one word that reminds you of the situation in prayer helps us to get back on track and to have faith and patience. This allows you then to yield again to the Lord’s intervention. Let’s try to make submission to God, to our husbands and situations a priority in our lives.

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Becoming a Vessel GOD CAN USE –by Donna Partow

What does it take to be a woman who makes a difference in her world? Do you have to be perfect? Do your spices have to be in alphabetical order?

Those are quite the questions; aren’t they ? What do you think? For several years I have had on my refrig a little saying “If you want to change the world, you yourself must be changed” I have found it to be true in my life that His allowing me to be broken, to be humbled, to be transformed all of this, has been His process of helping me to “become” . To Become a Vessel GOD Can Use. There isn’t a one of use who doesn’t want to feel that our lives have use and value but sometimes (actually many times) His means of using us and His means of helping us to BECOME is far different then we would have ever though (or chosen)! This book is indeed a must read to help turn your heart towards Him in this process. It comes with a study quide included in it.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

A New Point of View

Many of us as a pastor’s wife live far away from our mother, sisters, and long time friends. Because of this challenge, we often miss out on the friendly, trusted advice and counsel those dear women provide for us in the caring of our homes, families, and selves. I encourage each of you to find someone in your present circle who can help fill those areas in your life. Finding such a friend wherever we have lived, has been such a blessing to me as I manage our home and family.

My Mom is a talented nurse and super Grandma. She also is an excellent pantry organizer! I really think she could get her own Pantry Makeover TV show, but she’d rather put her efforts into arranging my soup cans and Tupperware when she makes visits to my home. In handing my jumble of plastic lids and canned goods over to my mother’s hands four times a year, I’m providing her with a way to express her gift, and I gain tidy cupboards.

When it’s time to go through my closet, I enlist the eyes of a local friend who knows what I really wear, will eventually wear, and will never wear. My dear friend Victoria was my set of eyes and voice of reason during our days in Iowa. She would perch herself on my bed with a good cup of tea and kindly but firmly say “Give Away,” “Throw Away”, and “Keep.” My husband also recognized her gift and allowed her to do the same with his side of the closet. We gained much closet space and Victoria was blessed to help us in a way that expressed her time and talent well.

Currently, I am experiencing my second season as a U.P. gardener. The growing season is short, the weather unpredictable, and my skills are much in need of improving. God has blessed us with a wonderful neighbor, Ron, who is known as THE gardener in our community. Recognizing the needs of our large family to be able to put up vegetables for the winter months, Ron blessed us with tomato, pepper, and bean plants. He gives us the thumbs up when it’s time to plant, gives advice about the local soil and how to treat it, and when to cover plants on nights of possible frost. By using his expertise, we’ll be the recipients of scrumptious produce, and Ron has been blessed to help his new neighbors.

I pray for you that you will find a new set of eyes to assist you in your home, and in doing so strengthen friendships with those in your church and community.

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: I Corinthians 9:25-27

Exercise

“What can you do consistently?” Memorable words from my doctor regarding exercise. Start with small goals – increase those goals as you become stronger.

Alternate between aerobics 3-5 times a week and stretching/strength training the other times a week. Aerobics (fast walking, running, water aerobics, etc.) brings oxygen into our bodies, builds stamina, strengthens our hearts, flushes toxins, and reduces adrenal stress. Anaerobics/Stretching/Strength Training (lifting weights, isometric contractions, weight machines, push-ups, chin-ups, stomach crunches, sit-ups, slow stretching exercises, etc.) builds strength and makes our muscles strong. Muscle burns fats and flushes toxins.

Check with your doctor first. As you find exercises you enjoy, you will be more consistent and look forward to your workouts.

Benefits of Exercise

Rapid breathing eliminates gases in our body that become harmful if they build up. Increased blood flow helps keep plaque from building up in your arteries while stimulating your liver to do its duties. Cell function improves with acceleration of carbon dioxide, oxygen and nutrient exchange. Exercise normalizes levels of cortisol, insulin, blood glucose, growth hormone, thyroid and other hormones and puts more oxygen into your brain. These are only some of the benefits of exercise. The greatest advantage of exercise is how much better it makes you feel!

Rest

Our bodies require at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Short naps are wonderful between 3 pm – 5 pm when our adrenal glands are screaming for a break (10-15 minutes is great)! We also need to take at least one day off a week. We need to guard our rest time so we can continue our duties. Another quote from a doctor, “No one has the right to your energy. Learn to say, “No.” when you need to guard your rest time.” The Lord will give us balance as we pray for wisdom!

Resource: www.sparkpeople.com

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Glazed Teriyaki Meatballs & Noodles

12 oz. Uncooked spaghetti noodles
1 ¾ Pounds 90% lean ground beef
½ Cup finely chopped onion
¼ Cup plain dry bread crumbs
1 egg
2 tbsp Asian Seasoning Mix
1 bag (16 oz) frozen stir- fry vegetable blend such as broccoli carrots and pea pods thawed
1 Cup prepared teriyaki base and glaze divided
2 tbsp vegetable oil
3 garlic cloves, pealed and sliced

Directions:
1. Cook noodles according to package directions, drain and set aside. Meanwhile combine beef, onion, bread crumbs egg and seasoning mix in mixing bowl. Mix well. Using a scoop form 24 meatballs place into pan microwave, covered, n high 5-7 minutes or until outside surfaces of meatballs are no longer pink; drain. Add vegetables and ¾ cup of the base and glaze. Cover, microwave 4-6 minutes or until internal temperature of meatballs reaches 160F.

2. Meanwhile, heat oil I (12 inch) skillet over medium-high heat 1-3 minutes or until shimmering. Cook garlic 1-2 minutes or until light brown, stirring occasionally. Add noodles and remaining ¼ cup base and glaze; cook 3-4 minutes or until hot. Divide noodles evenly among bowls. Top with glazed meatballs and vegetables.

**Recipe provided by Pampered Chef**

Mint Chocolate Ice Cream Cake

Crust Filling
1 Pkg fudge covered mint cookies 1 qt mint chocolate chip ice cream
2 Tbs butter melted 1 qt chocolate ice cream
½ cup heavy whipping cream
2 tbs powdered sugar
1/8 tsp peppermint extract

1. For crust place 25 of the cookies in a resalable plastic bag and crush into fine crumbs. Place crumbs into bowl. Add butter mix well. Press crumb mixture into bottom of spring form pan and place pan in freezer until ready to fill.

2. Line inside collar of pan with remaining cookies. For filling place mint chocolate chip ice cream in refrigerator for 20 minutes to soften. Scoop mint chocolate chip ice cream onto crust. Carefully spread ice cream evenly over crust. Cove rand freeze for 1 hour. Place chocolate ice cream in refrigerator 20 minutes before removing cake from freezer. Scoop chocolate ice cream over mint ice cream. Carefully spread evenly and return to freezer.

3. Place cream in chilled bowl beat on high speed of electric hand mixer until soft peaks form. Add powdered sugar and peppermint extract. Continue beating just until still peaks form. Spread cream over chocolate ice cream. Freeze cake until firm at least 6 hours or overnight.

**Recipe provided by Pampered Chef**

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Dear Father,
So many days, in so many ways, we struggle with the idea of submission. The world teaches us that we are liberated to do what we want to do, when we want to do it, and however we want to carry out our desires. Lord, please cause us to remember that our one and true liberation is in the forgiveness you provided us through Jesus’ death and triumphant resurrection. May your Word remind us daily that as we submit, we are doing so “as unto the Lord.” May we find abundant joy in living our lives to the fullest according to your perfect plan. Your Word exhorts us to 15Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” As women of grace, help us live a life of bold beauty and creative compassion as we name Your name, the name above all names. We seek to submit ultimately to You in every area of our lives. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With Pam Cherney

Pam and her husband Frank Cherney serve Trinity Free Lutheran in Janesville, WI. They have four grown daughters and ten grandchildren.

I asked Pam what she felt the Lord has shown her to be her ministry in the present church that she is in. “Well, she said, that would have to be visiting with the shut INS and those in the hospital.” “There were many years that I could not go with my husband to visit but now I can.” “It is such a blessing and I truly believe the people enjoy it also.” She said. “I would have to say the other ministry that God has given me is to take care of children.” “I remember how someone took care of our children and helped me when Frank was in Seminary and I was in Bible School.” “Now at this time in my life I am able to do that for other couples that are in need of childcare also.” Pam recited Philippians 4:13 immediately when I asked her what her favorite Bible verse was. “In our first parish, someone brought over a plaque with this verse on it and it has blessed me since.” “There has been many a time that I have gotten through with this verse.”

I asked Pam for words of encouragement for all of the pastor’s wives and she quickly stated, “Prayer”. “Prayer is the key no matter if you are 25 years in the ministry or if you are just going out for the first time.” “You can be a good listener to your husband but he still may need prayer for the situation or the problem and you can give him that.” As an empty nester she said, “That God really prepared them when the last one left.” “It is a blessing to do things with your husband that you couldn’t do before and you can both concentrate on each other.”

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

"Continuing in our series on Biblical Womanhood concerning the topic:

IT IS IN THE COVENANT COMMUNITY
WHERE WE ARE EQUIPPED TO LIVE OUT OUR DESIGN

As you know, being in the family is not just about your nuclear family, but also about being in the family of God. When children are confirmed into the faith they are identifying with the Lord as well as with the Lord’s family, the church. As well, all God’s children need to live covenantally before God and with His people.

The Biblical account of Ruth and Naomi gives a dramatic presentation of what it’s like to live covenantally. “Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you. (Ruth 1:16-17) As Ruth committed her life to Jehovah as her God, she understood that this meant changing her citizenship to the covenant community.

The last half of the meaning of the 3rd Article of the Apostles’ Creed, “…but the Holy Spirit has called me through the Gospel, enlightened me with His gifts, and sanctified and preserved me in the true faith; in like manner as He calls, gathers, enlightens, and sanctifies the whole Christian Church on earth…” This is the covenantal concept – that He calls not only me, but also others into relationship within the context of the Christian church.

Women of Christ are crushed when we emulate the pursuit of self-fulfillment and self-actualization in the culture. Countless mothers have told their daughters, “Learn to be independent. Self-sufficiency is power” – these misbeliefs make the helper design seems senseless! But in the covenant community, the church of our Lord Jesus Christ, the helper design is essential.

Redeemed women join together as corporate helpers in God’s church and care for the body of Christ, much like Mary Magdalene and Mary the mother of James, and Salome did when they bought spices so they might go and anoint the body of Christ. They made plans, decisions, and carried them out. They functioned well together. And even though they knew the stone was too big for them to roll, they still carried on. This is the essence of community and compassion in the church. It is the helper design in action.

Someone is teaching the women of our churches and our daughters what it means to be a woman. Is it the current culture or the church? How can we help our women? The life-giving culture of caring is not learned from books. They learn how to carry out this helper ministry as, by God’s grace, they watch us speak and live it!

It is in the church that believers are equipped “for the work of ministry, for the building up of the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God” (Ephesians 4:12-13).

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Legacy of Fruitfulness

Do we want to leave a Legacy of Fruitfulness? Do we care about leaving a legacy of fruitfulness? Have we even thought of leaving a legacy of fruitfulness? If we know Jesus as our Personal Savior and Lord the answer to that should be yes I want to leave a legacy of fruitfulness. What is the fruitfulness that I must leave? What does God want me to leave as a legacy? I know what I want to leave but more importantly what does God want me to leave.

First of all I must go to the word and read. Jesus drew people to himself to teach and encourage and many other things. God wants me to be approachable. People should want to be with me. I want to make sure that I am not concentrating on myself. Jesus did not concentrate on himself. As I grow older I don’t want to concentrate on my aches and pains but to ask about them and their concerns. My focus must always show that my concentration is on Jesus. Whether that is by being in the Word with Bible Study and prayer or worship. I must always be a voice of encouragement and thankfulness.

On the practical side, is to be a life long learner. Never stop learning. Especially, when it comes to relating to the things that my children or my grandchildren know about. Keeping in touch with things. Sometimes seeing the dangers and praying for them or warning them when the time is right and the spirit has prepared the way. When they talk to me, be willing to listen to their ideas and thoughts. Being a mentor. Learning from others is important. One practical point is to be honest that I don’t understand and would they teach me.

Laughter is another aspect of the legacy. “A merry heart doeth good” I want to be able to laugh and enjoy life that the Lord has given me.


One of the traits that can turn an example of a good legacy sour is to live in the past. We must learn from the past. We must see the hand of God in the past. We must see how we came through the suffering and pain in the past. Most of all see God’s eternal faithfulness during that time. I don’t want to be remembered as someone who complains or tells of all of my terrible past. But rather I want to pass on a legacy of how God has blessed me, abided in me and been my strength.


And when death is at the door of a loved one or friend I want to have a biblical view of suffering and death. Here I remember the 23rd Psalm. Let us be encouraged to leave a God filled legacy of fruitfulness.

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By Design –God’s Distinctive Calling for Women by Susan Hunt

In the Old Testament, Zion refers to the fortified mound between the Kidron and Tyropean valleys. When David captured this area, it became known as the city of David. It sometimes refers to the temple vicinity and even to Jerusalem itself. In the new covenant, Zion has reference to the Church. As women who love the Lord, who are a part of this Church, we are the daughters of Zion. This book helps us, as women, to understand who we are as a daughter of Zion. It (the book) can be helpful in helping one understand the helper design which was stamped upon us, as woman, at creation. It reinforces the implications of our creational design by looking at women in history and contemporary women who have been and are faithful to this calling. The book presents a plea to the church to equip and mobilize women to help a hurting world and capture a culture for Christ through ministries of mercy and compassion. A must read for one who understands the times in which she lives and desires to have her life, as a daughter of Zion, glorify Him for such as time as this.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

A Recipe for Smoother Sundays

I have a suspicion that it’s not just at our house that Sunday mornings can become a bit stressful. If you have more than just yourself to get ready for church, you can plan on taking at least twice as long to get out the door and into your pew.

Twenty years of being a pastor’s wife, and nearly nineteen of being a mom has given me lots of practice at trying to make Sunday mornings more of a joyful experience, and less of a frantic flight to church. I’m still learning, but would like to share with you a few tips that have helped me over the years.

Saturday evenings we try and keep as a quiet family night at home as much as possible. Because we still have children, and many of them, at home, we try to get everyone bathed, fed, and to bed at a decent hour. We all function better Sunday mornings, including my pastor husband, if Saturday evenings are kept calm.

It sounds simple, and it is – if you actually do it – but selecting everyone’s outfits (even Dad’s) on Saturday, will make your Sunday morning much easier. It takes a very long time, and causes elevated blood pressure, to try and gather matching socks or intact nylons for eight people if left till the last minute. Plan and prepare the evening before for everyone’s wardrobe needs and you’ll be very thankful you did.

Setting the breakfast table the evening before and having your morning foods gathered and easy to serve also saves much time and energy. How many times have you, like me, opened the refrigerator to find out that the milk you had yesterday is now gone, and church starts in just half an hour? We all do better when our bodies are well nourished before going to feed on God’s Word at our church services.

If it’s your custom to eat at home for Sunday dinner, or to invite others over for a noon meal, try preparing it in the crock-pot beforehand so it’s one less thing to be thinking about as you’re leaving church. Our family has found that Sunday dinner is not the best time for us personally to welcome people into our home. After service, our youngest ones are often ready for some quiet time, and so is Dad after having preached and taught all morning. Instead, Sunday evenings have been a time we enjoy inviting others to our home for dessert, conversation, and sometimes games.

Sunday is my most cherished day of the week, and I hope it is yours as well!

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

OUR BODY / HIS TEMPLE
“Premium Fuel”

Read: Hosea 4:6

It’s no surprise that our bodies require proper fuel to run efficiently. God made premium fuel for our bodies. Shop the outside aisles in the grocery store where “God-made” food is located – fruits, vegetables, meats, whole grains. A garden, raising our own meats and making our own breads and pasta is the best option. Second best – organic fruits, vegetables, meats, and quality, store-bought, whole grain breads and pasta. Impossible? Then you need to become a label reader. If ingredients say - enriched, preservative, nitrate or words you cannot pronounce – it’s best to stay away from them. Chemicals reek havoc within our bodies! Our bodies turn them into fat and/or can cause sicknesses (i.e., cancers, etc.). Other things to stay away from: sugar, caffeine, hydrogenated fats (i.e., peanut butter, shortening, fried foods). The Best - give our bodies what they crave – God’s food!

Water is extremely important! Our bodies are made up of approximately 70% water. We are literally an aquarium! Drink 8-10 glasses a day. Herbal teas count as a glass of water.

We should pray that our minds are not disconnected from how our bodies feel. If we feel ill, we should ask the Lord, “What can I do to change?” Food/water is an easy first step to take. We would not put muddy water in our gas tank to make our car run. Bad food/water should not go into our bodies (His Temple) - only “premium”! Make small, permanent changes and add to those changes as time goes along.

Resources:

Food: http://www.pwlp.com/ Weight loss or not, this program educates proper nutrition.
Chemicals: Spray produce with equal amounts of white vinegar and purified water to dissolve chemicals. Leave on ½ hour or not – rinse in purified water.
Water: www.mcvitamins.com/water.htm. Explains water’s importance. Water filters or purifying pitchers are good choices.

HERE’S WHAT’S COOKING

Annie's Fruit Salsa and Cinnamon Chips

Ingredients

2 kiwis, peeled and diced
2 Golden Delicious apples - peeled, cored and diced
8 ounces raspberries
1 pound strawberries
2 tablespoons white sugar
1 tablespoon brown sugar
3 tablespoons fruit preserves, any flavor
10 (10 inch) flour tortillas
butter flavored cooking spray
2 cups cinnamon sugar

Directions

In a large bowl, thoroughly mix kiwis, Golden Delicious apples, raspberries, strawberries, white sugar, brown sugar and fruit preserves. Cover and chill in the refrigerator at least 15 minutes.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).

Coat one side of each flour tortilla with butter flavored cooking spray. Cut into wedges and arrange in a single layer on a large baking sheet. Sprinkle wedges with desired amount of cinnamon sugar. Spray again with cooking spray.
Bake in the preheated oven 8 to 10 minutes. Repeat with any remaining tortilla wedges. Allow to cool approximately 15 minutes. Serve with chilled fruit mixture.

From Allrecipes.com

White Chocolate Fruit Tart

Ingredients

3/4 cup butter, softened
1/2 cup confectioners' sugar
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

FILLING:
1 (10 ounce) package vanilla or white chips, melted and cooled
1/4 cup heavy whipping cream
1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1 (20 ounce) can pineapple chunks, undrained
1 pint fresh strawberries, sliced
1 (11 ounce) can mandarin oranges, drained
2 kiwifruit, peeled and sliced

GLAZE:
3 tablespoons sugar
2 teaspoons cornstarch
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice

Directions

In a small mixing bowl, cream butter and confectioners' sugar until light and fluffy. Gradually add flour; mix well. Press into an ungreased 11-in. tart pan with removable bottom or 12-in. pizza pan with sides. Bake at 300 degrees F for 25-30 minutes or until lightly browned. Cool on a wire rack.

For filling, in a small mixing bowl, beat melted chips and cream. Add cream cheese and beat until smooth. Spread over crust. Refrigerate for 30 minutes. Drain pineapple, reserving 1/2 cup juice; set juice aside. Arrange the pineapple, strawberries, oranges and kiwi over filling.

For glaze, in a small saucepan, combine sugar and cornstarch. Stir in lemon juice and reserved pineapple juice until smooth. Bring to a boil over medium heat; cook and stir for 2 minutes or until thickened. Cool; brush over fruit. Refrigerate for 1 hour before serving. Refrigerate leftovers.

From Taste of Home

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

John 15: 4-5

4"Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.
5"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.

Dear Father, Thank you for being the One who knows us best. Thank you for loving us and desiring that each of us as women be pruned and fit for Your service. As you clip away the undesirable parts of our lives, help us to remember that although painful, the process is for Your Glory and for our good. Place within us the desire to abide in You through the study of Your Word and time with you in prayer. May we be faithful to be You, Your Word, and thus leave behind fruitful legacies when our days on earth are finished. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With Laurie Nash
By Mary Pollestad

Laurie is the wife of Home Mission Director Paul Nash. She is the mother of three children and a grandmother of nine. When I asked Laurie what she thought her ministry for the Lord was she promptly said, “ Supporting my husband, mentor to my children, women’s ministries and helping international students at the AFLBS.”

Her favorite Bible verse is Isaiah 25:1 the last part of the verse says, “I will give thanks to your name for thou has worked wonders plans formed long ago with perfect faithfulness.” This verse shows God is in control and has a plan and we can trust Him.

When I asked Laurie what encouraging words would she have for all of us women especially pastor’s wives she spoke of her passion for women to be Women of the Word. In Jeremiah chapter 9 she said, “It talks about hearing the Word and receiving the Word.” “So much is going on in the rest of the world that is contrary to what God wants” she said. “We need the Word more and more.” “Our culture shouts and pulls us away from the Word of God and the joy that we can have.” “We must soak in the Word, dwell in the Word, meditate on the Word and abide in the Word.” “This is the strong passion that I have had through out this year.” She said.

Thank you Laurie for these encouraging words. Heavenly Father, may we be women of the Word of God.

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

BY CHERYL SKORDAHL

Last month I wrote about the helper design that God gave women at creation. We’ll continue this topic under the theme:

THE GOSPEL EMPOWERS AND COMPELS US
TO EXERCISE OUR DESIGN

“I believe that I cannot by my own reason or strength believe in Jesus Christ my Lord or come to Him. But the Holy Spirit has called me through the gospel…” I memorized that when I was 15 years old, and the message grows more precious year by year.

It is because of this “calling” this “redemption” that we can live our helper design – not in our own reason or strength, but through grace in the power of the Holy Spirit, as our catechism states. This grace, this redeeming love, breaks the grip of sin in our lives and empowers us to fulfill our creation mission. Is this truth so deeply ingrained in your mind, so that you will never become entangled in works righteousness? Even as a young seminarian’s wife, I was at the point of giving up on God because I was discouraged at my lack of ability to live the Christian life… works righteousness. When I realized that I needed to let go and let God, true Christian freedom came and I began living and doing in His power alone.

It is couched with this grace knowledge that I want to proceed to share some of the characteristics of a redeemed woman who is a true helper and fulfills her life-giving mission.

1. She is so grateful for God’s mercy that she gives forgiveness to others. Christ’s righteousness causes her to joyfully extend love and acceptance to others.
2. Her sights are on her heavenly home which restrains her from materialism.
3. She values the calling of wife and mother, but not so that they become her idol. She holds her family loosely before God.
4. She moves gracefully through different seasons and circumstances of life.
5. She is not focused on herself but extends herself to the elderly, the sick, the oppressed, needy and afflicted. Taking along her children or a younger woman to help train the next generation.
6. The redeemed helper knows that her marriage is a gospel picture to her children, the Christian community, and the world.
7. She knows that elevating herself, an individualistic approach, causes marriage and motherhood to be trivialized whereas a biblical perspective raises these relationships to the eternal.
8. She understands that her children are gifts to the church and she wants them to grow up as a part of this community. She teaches about the privilege to live and move among believers and to assume responsibilities to this covenant community.

What other ways are you living out your helper design? As pastor’s wives we remember that this design is foreign and offensive to the fallen world. The devil and the world tell women that there is a better way – a way of autonomy and independence. Instead the Lord through the gospel teaches and empowers us to live out our helper design. It is in the context of the Word where this design truly makes sense. Prov. 13:14, Prov 14:30, Prov 15:4. Can you find other Scriptures that teach and encourage women to live out their helper design?

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

PORTRAIT OF A WOMAN USED BY GOD
By Mary Pollestad

What is a picture of a woman who is used by God? What comes to your mind when you ask yourself, “Am I a portrait of a woman used by God”? I think there are several areas that come to our minds if we were sitting in a group of ladies right now. Let’s try and look at some of these. First and foremost she is a woman who is in the Word of God daily. When we are women who are in the Word of God we will then be able to respond in a right manner to everything in our lives because our lives are built on the Lord and His Word. A woman used by God has only one agenda and one focus that of Jesus Christ. She doesn’t think of herself first. Also her heart is willing and open to Gods’ leading to be used.

I think of an ordinary woman. We don’t have to be extraordinary in our talents and abilities God uses ordinary people like you and me.

Secondly, the picture is of a woman who knows it is only because of God’s grace that she can be who she is.

Thirdly women are nurturers and if we are women who love God we have been chosen to do that very thing. Nurturing other women in the Faith of the Lord Jesus. This may be a young woman at church or even as a young woman you can nurture other older women.

Fourthly, it is a woman who listens intently to the Holy Spirit. A portrait of a woman used by God actually listens all day long to the words that the Holy Spirit may say to her. She is always mindful of the Spirit. She also listens to the Spirit and does what the Spirit leads her to do even if it means she has to get out of her comfort zone.

Fifthly she does not have a negative spirit. She believes in her Lord. She talks of what He can do for her and for others. She doesn’t whine when the tough things come along. She goes forth believing that God is in control and He will help her through all of it.

Also this is a woman who is available. This may mean even pulling your car over and parking so that you can help a woman who has called you on your cell phone and she needs you to listen to her right now. Or maybe talking to your 13 year old daughter who needs to talk and you only have 10 minutes to get the supper ready for the family. Or, talking to a grandmother who is very disheartened because her grandchildren are not going to Sunday School. Maybe even helping out a sick one whose family is exhausted as care givers.

These are only a few items in the picture. How many more can you add for yourself as you look at the Portrait of a Woman Used By God?

CHECK IT OUT

WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART
By Elizabeth George

Our transformation into being a woman after God’s own heart is indeed God’s work. But what this book offers are the disciplines we can follow to place ourselves before God—disciplines regarding our devotional life, our husband, our children, our home, our personal growth, and our ministry –so that he can do that work in our heart. In this book you’ll find practical insights about what it means to follow God in every area of life, insights about nurturing an impassioned relationship with God, loving your husband, enjoying your children, caring for your home, experiencing personal growth, and giving to others. This book leads you on an exciting journey, and it is one where you will find much joy along the way. Let’s join together in becoming women who seek to be what God calls us and will empower us to be, a WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Spring is in the air, and with it comes Spring Cleaning! I used to be one of those people who would take a day and clean my house from top to bottom. It felt great to accomplish so much and to put my feet up at the end of the day with a clean house. Now that I have two children under two, I have had to modify my approach to cleaning. No longer do I have the luxury of taking a whole day to clean our house, much less taking time for spring cleaning that needs to be done. My house is just not as company ready as it used to be.

I was visiting at my girlfriend’s house and noticed a cute box on her kitchen countertop. The little tag attached to the tin box said “Spring Clean Year Round.” When I asked her about it, she explained that inside were cards that break down house cleaning chores at various intervals (weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, bi-monthly etc…) Following the cards, she can clean a little bit each day. She received this box as a gift, but gave me the blog spot where one can go to see how the system works and order a box if desired: www.cleanyearround.blogspot.com. Perhaps you may be interested to go to this site and order a box. Or maybe you could read about it and get some ideas on how to create a system of your own for breaking down your house cleaning chores. Happy Cleaning!

IDEAS THAT WORK

BY LORI WILLARD

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; Romans 14:7-8;
Romans 12:1-2

We are the temple of the Holy Spirit! God commands that no one (ourselves included) is to defile or destroy our bodies! We are the Lord’s! We are to come apart from the world’s behavior! We must offer our bodies to Him, as a living sacrifice, for His service! Strong words for His people!

Do the following questions sound familiar?

How do I change my body, mind, will, emotions and spirit to reflect a transformed life? Do I want to be healed in all areas of my life? Do I want to fully serve the Lord? Do I only pay attention to my health when a crisis hits? How can I work for Him while I neglect the gift of life the Lord has given me? Do I see that neglect as a sin against the Lord?

We will address these thoughts in the next issues of Heartline. Resources will be shared to help improve your life and others around you.

When visiting a Naturopathic Doctor, she questioned, “Why do people in ministry push hard, give everything to ministry, and yet don’t take care of themselves? If you ever get a chance to tell others in ministry to take care of themselves, do it!”

CHOOSE LIFE! As I read Deuteronomy 30:19-20, the Lord impressed upon me that I had a responsibility to fulfill. It was simple. Make the decision to choose life. The Holy Spirit will come alongside to strengthen us.

Will you choose life?

Resource: Medical (Allopathic) Doctors (MDs) treat patients through medications (which mask root causes) and surgery. They are good at diagnosing symptoms. Naturopathic Doctors (NDs) treat patients through nutrition, supplements and exercise. NDs are good at dealing with root causes to stimulate the body’s natural healing process. Check out www.naturopathic.org to find an ND near you.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Fresh Spring Broccoli Salad

5 Cups Fresh Broccoli Florets
½ Cup Raisins
½ cup sunflower seeds
½ cup cooked crumbled bacon
3 cups purple grapes
¼ cup of red onion, chopped

Dressing:
1 cup mayonnaise
2 tablespoons vinegar
½ cup sugar

Alternative:
Use KRAFT cucumber ranch dressing for a fresh spring taste also to avoid food allergies for those who cannot eat mayonnaise.

Combine all ingredients and dressing to desired thickness

Lemon Cheesecake Bars (from McCormick)

1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs

1/3 cup butter, melted

1/2 teaspoon Ginger, Ground

3 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened

1 cup sugar

1/4 cup milk

2 tablespoons flour

1 1/2 teaspoons Pure Lemon Extract

1 teaspoon Pure Vanilla Extract

3 eggs

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Mix graham cracker crumbs, butter and ginger. Press firmly onto bottom of foil-lined 13x9-inch baking pan. Refrigerate until ready to use.

2. Beat cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until well blended. Add milk, flour and extracts; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating on low speed after each addition just until blended. Pour over crust.

3. Bake 40 to 45 minutes or until center is almost set. Cool completely on wire rack.

4. Refrigerate 4 hours or overnight. Lift out of pan onto cutting board. Cut into bars. Garnish as desired. Store leftover bars in refrigerator.

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
2 Peter 1:3-8

Lord, you have created us as Women. As we study your word, teach us how you want us to live as Christian Women. Your word says you have already given us, “everything we need for life and godliness.” Give us the strength and obedience to exercise our design so we can be effective and productive in our calling for your glory. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With Evonne Skramstad
By Mary Pollestad

Evonne Skramstad and her husband Tim Skramstad who serves Living Word Lutheran in Eagan, Minnesota have served this church for eight years. “This is the longest time we have been in one place in the ministry” she said. Evonne is the mother of one son and two daughters who all live in the Minneapolis area.

When I asked Evonne what she thought her ministry was in the church she said. “Leading a women’s weekly Bible Study.” That Bible study sometimes in the fall goes into two times a day so giving more opportunity for the women to attend. “The most important ministry I have is listening to my husband and praying for him” she replied. She also helps with Vacation Bible School and with the prayer chain in the church.

If she could encourage all of us pastor’s wives she would say to stay in the Word. It is there where the strength is. “We’ve heard it and heard it over again that staying in the Word is the most important from other older women so we need to do that.” To those of us who are awake during the night or early early morning she encourages us to read the Word of God then. The second thing she encouraged us with is to be a real prayer warrior. “Also, remember that if you are asked to pray about something or you ask someone to pray for you be sure that the prayer is kept and not shared with anyone.” She replied. Another encouragement would be for us women to be quiet before we speak. “Sometimes I just step back and not get involved in a situation.” “Sometimes we should just listen or just get out of the situation so that we don’t regret it later.” She encouraged all the women who are going into their first church for the first time to just sit back in the first year and wait for the Lord to show you what doors he has open for you in the church. “Sometimes in a young family it is hard to be involved” she said, “because the children do need care.” “Just wait for the doors to be opened for you.” Prayer and reading the Word of God is what we need to do as women today.

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

WOMAN - CREATED BY GOD TO BE A HELPER
By Cheryl Skordahl

A helper? Hopefully you don’t think that sound denigrating. Many women, world wide, react to the word helper in this negative way. But would that reaction be accurate when compared to the truth in the Word of God?

Genesis 1:27 says,
“God created man in his own image, in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.”

The man and the woman were equal, but different. Being created in God’s image gives identity and purpose. There is no preferential treatment in our union with Christ, but God’s design and order is clearly delineated in Galatians 3:28 where Paul writes,

“It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.”
God’s design for woman is that she be a helper.

But, why didn’t God want man to be alone? Prior to the creation, God was alone, and man and woman were called into being because the Lord yearned for relationships. Recalling that human kind is created in God’s image helps us to realize why people also yearn for a relationship with God and with each other. The unity of marriage is where we see gender distinctiveness flowing out of equality in a complementary way. The male/female distinctiveness was essential before God gave His approval on this creation by saying: “It is very good.”

The Hebrew word “ezer” is primarily translated “helper.” In the Old Testament it refers to God as our helper. Considering that God is our helper causes us to reflect on the richness and strength of this word. This same word “ezer” is used in Exodus 18:4 when Moses spoke of God as his helper, saving him from Pharaoh’s sword. In Psalms 10:14; 72:12; and 86:17 we read that God is the helper of the victim, the fatherless, the needy, and the afflicted. In other Psalms God is also referred to as a helper who is our support, strength, and shield. (20:2; 27:7; 33:20)

Today’s hostile feminist philosophy, which says that equality means sameness between male and female has brought chaos and confusion to our world. The original helper design God gave woman has been marred by this feminist belief system, and now many think of womanhood in terms of their own self-fulfillment, their own completeness, their own authority, their own happiness.

The helper design that God gave us at creation is intrinsic to who we are. It does not change with these whims of culture – it is never outdated. The word “helper” is indicative of a life-giving ministry of nurture, defense, and comfort of others. May the Lord be a helper to AFLC pastor’s wives, that we be characterized in the scriptural manner.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

A Wife’s Responsibility to Help Her Husband

Here are some helpful and some practical ways in which to help our husbands. First of all, the more that I study the Word the more I will grow in my faith. The more that I grow in my faith the more I will be able to be open to the Holy Spirit and His leading in order to help my husband more.

The word help makes us think of assisting or lending a helping hand. When a wife thinks of it that way and keeps Christ at the center of her life then it puts helping into perspective.

Another important thing to remember when we want to get involved in something or add to our duties is to ask ourselves is what I want to do going to help my husband. If we keep this in our hearts and minds at all times it will sometimes help deter us from doing something that will only hinder and not help our husbands. f we honor this God will truly bless us.

Praying for our husbands is one of the best things we can do to help our husbands. This sometimes seems like it doesn’t have much value in helping our husband but it truly does. You can talk to the Lord about many things for your husband and he will be blessed and the Holy Spirit will reveal things to him.

Let’s take our instruction from the scripture. The proverbs 31 lady watches over the affairs of her household. She is a caretaker of the house. Also her husband trusts in her. If our husbands trust in us they know that whatever needs to be done will be done. They don’t have to worry or try to get it done themselves. They will trust in us.

Let’s ask ourselves these questions. Do I manage my time that helps my husband or serves my agenda? Do I care for my home in a manner that helps my husband or serves myself?

Helping means to assist to carry on with what is needed and to take instruction and follow through. Helping our husband could be just sitting and listening to him talk. Maybe taking care of something for him that he needs to get done but doesn’t have time.

Putting our husbands ahead of ourselves is important. Sometimes that means putting aside all of our plans for the day and doing that which he may need or want us to do. We will be blessed if we do that. God understands that we have sometimes a lot to do but God will provide the time to finish what we need to do if we have put our husbands first ahead of what we have to do.

Some more practical ways are making sure he has clean clothes, ironed shirts and prepared food for him. Also make sure he has time to devote to his work. If he takes care of his work then he can concentrate on you and the family. Be a good steward of what you and your husband have. Maybe our home isn’t always clean but keeping an orderly home will also make a comfortable home.

With all the pressures of work sometimes our husbands need us to remind him of things that he needs to do. Being a list maker for him will sometimes help him stay on top of things that need to be done.

Another way you can help your husband is to make some time for dates with him. Also make time for you and him to be alone. Alone time is good for prayer, communication and sharing blessings and concerns.

Wives have a wonderful position that the Lord has provided for us. It is a wonderful role. It is wonderful to be a woman and to know that God has provided a definite role for us according to scripture.

CHECK IT OUT

The Excellent Wife--a Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace

A scripturally based book that gives a detailed portrait of a godly wife. God’s standard is high and holy but in this book, the author demonstrates that by God’s grace, it is attainable. A good book (with its study guide) for personal or group use.

Heart to Heart with Pastors’ Wives by Lynne Dugan

Twelve women share the wisdom they’ve gained alongside husbands who are in ministry. These stories that will encourage you as you minister along side your husband to others within your sphere of influence.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Every year at Christmas time, my family would have a “decorate the tree” night. Mom put on Christmas music, made hot Russian Tea and set out a plate of our traditional Christmas cookies. Dad would string the lights on the tree. We three kids would look through our box of ornaments we had collected through the years and then decide which one we would hang first, second etc. Dad and mom would hang the first ornament, and we kids would take turns hanging our favorites. It was our tradition. We looked forward to it as children. Now as adults, we fondly look back and remember those evenings decorating the tree.

Traditions. Now that I am married and have small children, I have been intentional about incorporating old traditions and starting new ones for our family. One tradition we are implementing in January is to pray for those who sent us a Christmas card. Each evening after supper, we take a card from our Christmas card basket, re-read it and pray for those who sent it. Then we follow up with a quick note or email of encouragement to them.

How does a person go about finding ideas for building family memories? Ask older family members for their memories of family traditions. I have found it helpful to talk with friends about any traditions their families have. I have also gotten great ideas from the book “Let’s Make a Memory” by Gloria Gaither and Shirley Dobson. Of course, you can be creative and make up your own.

It is never too late to start a tradition no matter the age or stage of your family (whether it is with your spouse, children or grandchildren). Be creative and start building memories with your family this new year.

IDEAS THAT WORK

Do you have some? Ideas, that is. Probably after you’ve read the shared thoughts you do have some of your own ideas! That is what this is meant to do. Challenge you personally. How it is worked out is between the three of you: the Lord, your husband and you. Pray that the Lord will continue his work in your life until He accomplishes His purpose and sees His reflection in you. (that may be a painful process!) However, I do have an idea I know that some churches have tried and even individual couples have used, and that is: #1 the viewing of the Fireproof DVD and #2 the Love Dare book study (by Stephen & Alex Kendrick). If you don’t do it as a couple how about you doing is yourself?! Applying its thoughts to your life personally. It will be an Idea (God’s idea!) That Works!

HERE’S WHAT’S COOKING

CHEX MIX PUPPY CHOW

9 cup Chex

1 cup chocolate chips

1/2 cup peanut butter

1/4 cup butter

1/4 teaspoon vanilla

1 1/2 cup powdered sugar

Put cereal in large bowl. Melt chocolate chips, peanut butter, and butter. Remove from heat and stir in vanilla.
Pour over Chex cereal, put into a large plastic bag with powdered sugar and shake well to coat.
Spread mixture evenly on wax paper and allow to cool.

This recipe is very good. It is from Cooks.com and I use it for all my get togethers. Great hit but kinda messy!!! Great for Youthgroups!!!!

McCormick Chili Recipe

Ingredients:
1 lb. lean (at least 80%) ground beef
1 medium onion, chopped (1/2 cup)
1 package (1.25 oz) Tex-Mex chili seasoning mix
1 can (28 oz) diced tomatoes, undrained
1 can (28 oz) crushed tomatoes, undrained
1 can (15 oz) spicy chili beans, undrained1 can (15 ounce) red kidney beans, undrained1 package McCormick® Chili Seasoning Mix, Original1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese 1/4 cup sliced green onion

DIRECTIONS
1. In 10-inch skillet, cook beef and onion over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until beef is thoroughly cooked; drain.2. Stir in tomatos, beans and Seasoning Mix. Bring to boil. Reduce heat to low; cover and simmer 10 minutes.

3. Spray 4- to 5-quart slow cooker with cooking spray and place chili in slow cooker.

4. Cover; cook on Low heat setting 4 to 6 hours. Stir well before serving. Sprinkle with shredded cheese and onion. Serve with sour cream, if desired.

High Altitude (3500-6500 ft): No change

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Titus 2:4: “That they may teach the young women to…love their husbands…”

Lord, I desire to be obedient to your word by loving my husband. I cannot love perfectly the way you can. Help me to love my husband the way he needs to be shown love. Thank You, Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With Dawn Johnson
By Mary Pollestad

Dawn and her husband Les have served Christ the King church in Wilson, WI for eight years. They have four children and three grandchildren.

When I asked Dawn what she felt her ministry in the church was she said, “It is with the women and the children.” “Sometimes it is leading a Bible Study or leading Kids Club.” “Also it is encouraging the women.”

If she were going to encourage all of the pastor’s wives she would leave these thoughts. “The first thing is to keep your relationship with the Lord strong.” One way to do this would be to sit down and write out verses that are of encouragement and put them somewhere where you could pick them up and read them.” “Another thing, is to find a woman whom you can talk with.” “Find someone you can go to for advise, support and encouragement.” “We need our husbands for this too but we do need another woman to talk to.” Since Dawn and her husband are “empty nesters” now, she would leave encouragement to all empty nesters to build up your relationship with your mate and nourish your relationship.” “A lot of people look to the pastor’s wife for performance.” She said, “but don’t be concerned about performance be concerned that the work that you are doing is for the work of the Lord.”

With the theme in mind of being a helpmate to our husbands I asked her if she had some thoughts on that. She said, “Be there for him, whether it be a sounding board or helping in someway.” Of course the most important thing is to pray for him. “Being available for him is important too and God will give you the time to finish whatever you were doing in order that you could help him first.”

A Bible verse that Dawn has had for years as her verse is I Corinthians 13:13.“ But now abide Faith, Hope and Love, these tree; but the greatest of these is love.”

FOCUS

“But thank God! He gives the victory…always work enthusiastically for the Lord, for you know that nothing you do for the Lord is ever useless.”

I Cor. 15:57-58 NLT

WORDS TO INSPIRE

Your Labor in the Lord is not in Vain
By Paula Jo Nyman

I’m sitting in my empty Sunday School classroom…all the busy sounds are gone for the morning. I’m wondering why I only had one student show up for my class this morning out of seven. Perhaps there was something else going on. Or maybe I’m just not connecting with the students. Or worse yet, maybe I’m not even supposed to be teaching these kids!

Does this sound familiar to you? Maybe your “empty classroom” is wondering if you are supposed to be working with the youth in your church. Maybe it comes after a particularly hard day of homeschooling where you wonder, why am I doing this? Maybe it is when you wonder why you seem to be the only one who ever does any of the work in the WMF and what is it all for anyway?

“But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my dear brothers (and sisters), stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”

The context of this Scripture is the great “Resurrection Chapter”, 1 Corinthians 15. Paul makes the case for the Resurrection, explaining what it would be like if there had been no Resurrection. He ends by telling us what it will be like when Jesus returns and our natural bodies become spiritual bodies and imperishable. What is the victory mentioned in the verses above? It is the victory over death! THANKS BE TO GOD THAT JESUS GAVE US VICTORY OVER DEATH. Death no longer has any sting for us…THEREFORE…let nothing move you! That’s right, it says let NOTHING move you. Even when you are in your empty classroom and you feel like giving up, your labor in the Lord is not in vain. Perhaps what I taught that day was just what God wanted that one student to hear! I may never know how it impacted him but God does.

Take heart and know deep down that as you give thanks to God and continue in His work He will not let it return void!!

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Rich Frugality
By Sarah Nelson

A lesson God has been teaching me is that living frugally doesn’t mean living poorly. When I think we have less, is often when I discover we have more. The times I’ve fretted about what we will eat, and what will we wear, I open our pantry and closets, and while I don’t find cashmere or caviar inside of them, I find more than enough to keep us fed and clothed. I am reminded of the Scripture promise from Jesus in Matthew 6:25: “For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?

While I still have much to learn in the area of frugal living, I’d like to share a few ideas that have helped our family.

Food: I cook up large amounts of dried pinto and black beans to stretch soups, stews, and chili. Lentils, cooked just till tender, are a great ground meat extender. Our consumption of sweets, including homemade, has been cut back. When fruits and veggies are in season, I prep and freeze as much as possible for later use. Soda has become a rare treat, including my Diet Coke. Preparing as much food as possible from scratch with basic ingredients has been our biggest saver.

Clothing: When there is a need, I search our local thrift stores first, hit garage sales when possible, and if necessary check out the clearance racks. Adding a new scarf, necklace, or layering sweater can easily update an entire outfit for the fraction of the cost.

Entertainment: We cut out our TV cable service and found our local library to be a great resource for not only terrific books, but for good family DVD’s. Eating in rather than eating out, board game nights at home, and getting outside to enjoy creation are other richly frugal activities.

Gifts: I’ve re-discovered the joy of making gifts from the heart. This years Christmas gifts include aprons from a vintage sheet and matching p.j.’s from fabric I had on hand. Go through your cupboards and closets and find what you can fashion into something new.

Decorating: The urge to strip my orange and brown flowered wallpaper and cover my mint green painted walls colors is strong, but it must wait. A decorating friend came and arranged pictures and furniture into a pleasing arrangement, making our home transform from eye-popping clashing to eclectic cozy in style. Re-arrange, and swap talents with a neighbor and see what you come up with for little to no cost.

Most importantly, I’ve learned to trust on God more. What should and can we all do during these times? Pray! We have seen His provision for us through gifts of groceries, paper products, and clothing. He truly sees our needs, and yours. God hears you, loves you, and cares for you. Live frugally and see how rich you are in the love of the Lord!

CHECK IT OUT

Check out these websites for “helps” in parenting, and for your walk with the Lord:

reviveourhearts.com
authenticgirl.com
parentingtodaysteen.com
motherwise.org
focusonthefamily.org
Lifeway.com (under “helps for ministers’ wives”)

Do you have some that you’d like to share with others? Please send to Faith at efnelson@usfamily.net

How about your church’s website? Do you have a link just for the women in your church? Check this one out at gracefreelutheran.org (under “for women”)

Would you like to share yours with us? Please send the info to Faith at efnelson@usfamily.net

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Last week we put childproof locks on our bathroom and kitchen cupboard doors to keep our toddler safe from finding and handling our household cleaners. As I put the cleaners away behind the locked door, I began to think about how dangerous these chemicals could be to my child should she get into them. This sparked my interest into checking out how to make my own nontoxic household cleaners. (Not to mention making my own cleaners would be frugal!)

I turned to the Internet to get some ideas and recipes. I learned that there are some basic, nontoxic ingredients in homemade cleaners: baking soda and white vinegar. There are also some key ingredients: soap (dish soap or liquid castile soap-found in health food stores) olive oil, club soda, and glycerin. Many recipes call for essential oils (found in health food stores or special health food sections in some grocery stores). Essential oils disguise the smell of vinegar and some (tea tree oil) have cleaning properties.

Finding a recipe is easy by simply typing, “making household cleaners” into your search engine of choice. In my researching, I found Tipnut.com to be a helpful website. I also came across what looks to be a helpful book by Karen Logan, Clean House Clean Planet- Clean Your House for Pennies a Day, the Safe Nontoxic Way. It is available at local bookstores or maybe at your local library

IDEAS THAT WORK

Consider a woman’s world in the early 1960’s about the time that our National WMF and AFLC came into being. Almost everyone got married and the average age for getting married was 20 years old for girls. The divorce rate was very low; chastity and virginity were virtues. Sex outside of marriage was considered shameful. Only 30% of the women worked outside the home. Life for women was very different 50 years ago! Contrast the 1950’s TV mom, June Cleaver (Leave it to Beaver) who was a happy fulfilled housewife to today’s TV icon, Ellen Degeneres, an avowed lesbian and comedian.

Ministry to women has been greatly affected by these changes in our culture. Yet the need to minister to women has never been greater!! How do we as pastor’s wives and WMF leaders effectively reach and encourage our women?
Our message must be solidly based only on God’s Word. In a recent email survey to the ladies of my church, the ladies consistently asked to dig deep into Bible study. Our message must not change but how, when and where we provide such opportunities to study God’s Word is where we can creatively adapt to reach this culture.

Take a hard look at the women already within your church, their ages and the seasons of their lives. Look at women in the neighborhoods around your home and church. What are their needs? Find out through surveys, email surveys, facebook, or just pick up the phone and ask. One church moved their women’s Bible study to Wednesday night because their children were involved in church activities that night and that freed up a night for them to be at home. Offer other studies at different times or on another days based on the schedules of all your women. One church with many young mothers just started a MOPS group to encourage these young mommies and to also reach out to their neighborhood. I know of several pastor’s wives who are effectively reaching out to their unsaved neighbors through a cooking class or a Bible study on marriage.

The needs are great and often overwhelming but my God is greater and HE IS ABLE!!! Prayerfully seek His direction to creatively minister in these days for He promises that

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally... and it shall be given him”. James 1:5

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter DESSERT SQUARES

1 package yellow cake mix; set aside one cup

½ cup butter, melted

3 eggs, large

1 jar of Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter

2 tbsp milk

1 tbsp flour

2 tbsp sugar

¼ cup butter, softened

1 tsp cinnamon

Preheat oven to 350° F. Divide yellow cake mix, placing all but one cup in a mixing bowl. Stir the melted butter and one egg into the cake mix. Press the mixture into the bottom of a greased 9" × 13" pan. Mix the jar of Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter with two eggs and milk. Pour this result over the cake mix. Stir the reserved cup of cake mix with the flour, sugar, softened butter, and cinnamon. Mix together until crumbly. Sprinkle over top of the pumpkin layer. Bake for 35 to 40 minutes or until golden brown. Cool. Cut into "2 squares. Serves 24.

*** I received this recipe from Williams Sonoma company they are EXCELLENT!!! You can substitute the Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin butter for a pumpkin butter you find in your local grocery store****

Chocolate Brownie and Peanut Butter Cup Torte

Ingredients
1 (18-21 ounce) package brownie mix
3 eggs
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/4 cup water
1/4 cup creamy peanut butter
6 (1 1/2 ounce) peanut butter cups, bars
1 2/3 cups peanut butter chips (10 oz. pkg)
2 cups miniture marshmallows

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Spray two torte pans with nonstick cooking spray with flour. Place 8 inches circles of parchment or wax paper over centers of pans, set aside. In mixing bowl combine brownie mix, eggs, 1/2 cup oil, water and peanut butter, mix well. Divide batter between 2 pans spreading to edges. Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until centers feel firm to the touch.

Meanwhile, dice peanut butter cups, set aside. In microwavable bowl, combine peanut butter morsels and remaining 1 tbsp of oil, microwave on HIGH 1-2 minutes or until melted and smooth, stirring after each 30 second interval. Spoon 1/4 cup of the peanut butter mixture into a re-sealable plastic bag, set aside. Fold marshmallows into remaining peanut butter mixture.

Remove pans from oven to cooling rack. Let brownies stand in pans for 4 minutes. To assemble torte, invert one brownie well side up onto large round platter. Make sure to remove paper from bottoms of brownies. Using scraper spread marshmallow filling into brownie well. Invert remaining brownie well side up onto cooling rack then slide onto top of bottom layer. Evenly distribute diced peanut butter cups into brownie well. Snip tip of corner of baggie to allow peanut butter mixture to flow through, drizzle over torte. Serve immediately.

*** Recipe from Recipe Zaar ***

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

“But Thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ” 1 Cor. 15:57

Recently I have been struggling with worry. Having two babies at home lends opportunity for this new mother to worry. Uncertainty causes me to worry. Putting on an extra pound or two causes me to worry. The thought of harm or danger coming to my family causes me to worry.

I shared the growing struggle of mine with a woman I greatly respect. She directed me to Philippians 4: 6-7, which says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” She reminded me that scripture says we have not because we ask not. She also reminded me to thank Him for His answers.

I did bring my requests to the Lord as I was tempted to steep in my worry. Each time the worry re-appears in my mind, I remind myself that my life and the life of my family is in the Lord’s hands and He has our best in mind. Claiming these truths and choosing to believe them gives me the peace of God, which does go beyond my understanding.

Join me in praying:
“Lord, thank you that because of Jesus we can have victory over sin. Please show me an area in my life today where I need to confess sin that is keeping me from serving you. I want to be free to serve you with my whole mind, body and soul. Thank you Jesus. Amen”

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview with Andrea Christenson
By Mary Pollestad

Andrea Christenson is the wife of Lay pastor Eric Christenson who serves Amery Free Lutheran in Amery WI. They have two girls.

I asked Andrea to tell us what she knew the Lord had called her to do in the ministry at Amery Free. “Well she said, I would have to say that my ministry is encouragement.” She replied, “First of all it is to my husband. To love him and support him in anyway that I can. To encourage him and help him.” “The second thing is to minister to my family.” “ I would have to say the third thing is to encourage different groups of people in the church.” “Sometimes,” she said, “that might be to come along side in various ways for ideas or projects and supporting them in whatever they may need.” “It may not be to lead something but to just give an idea.” “One of the things that I am working on in this area is to write a small note of encouragement or do a phone call.” I am trying to become intentional about meeting peoples needs on a one to one basis.” “Of course” she said, “There is always serving in and amongst the youth of the church.”

Following through with our theme for this month I asked her if she were to give a word of encouragement for the pastor’s wife what would that be. She promptly said, “The Bible verses that come to me are “God will never leave you or forsake you. And another one is “God never Changes He is always the same”. “And still another one that I have been really blessed with lately is, The Joy of the Lord is my strength.”

If Andrea was going to give a bit of encouragement to all of us Pastor’s wives it would be stated like this. “Lately she said I have had a very Freeing thought come over me in the last year that the only expectations we should have to live up to are those of God’s.” “Sometimes we have expectations of what we should be like.” “Or we look at others and we think we should be like them.” “God has called each one of us for a purpose, we don’t have to fit into man’s mold but into God’s.” “We should not expect ourselves to fit into this Christian woman mold that is unrealistic.” “If I could say it this way, be whom God created you to be not a victim of your own expectations or anyone else’s.”

I asked her for some words of wisdom for those women going into a different part of ministry within their church or even being called to a different church she said, As we look at where God may be taking us next within the church or in another church let us remember it may not look exactly the same but God will use you.” “He equips who He calls.”