HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

A Recipe for Smoother Sundays

I have a suspicion that it’s not just at our house that Sunday mornings can become a bit stressful. If you have more than just yourself to get ready for church, you can plan on taking at least twice as long to get out the door and into your pew.

Twenty years of being a pastor’s wife, and nearly nineteen of being a mom has given me lots of practice at trying to make Sunday mornings more of a joyful experience, and less of a frantic flight to church. I’m still learning, but would like to share with you a few tips that have helped me over the years.

Saturday evenings we try and keep as a quiet family night at home as much as possible. Because we still have children, and many of them, at home, we try to get everyone bathed, fed, and to bed at a decent hour. We all function better Sunday mornings, including my pastor husband, if Saturday evenings are kept calm.

It sounds simple, and it is – if you actually do it – but selecting everyone’s outfits (even Dad’s) on Saturday, will make your Sunday morning much easier. It takes a very long time, and causes elevated blood pressure, to try and gather matching socks or intact nylons for eight people if left till the last minute. Plan and prepare the evening before for everyone’s wardrobe needs and you’ll be very thankful you did.

Setting the breakfast table the evening before and having your morning foods gathered and easy to serve also saves much time and energy. How many times have you, like me, opened the refrigerator to find out that the milk you had yesterday is now gone, and church starts in just half an hour? We all do better when our bodies are well nourished before going to feed on God’s Word at our church services.

If it’s your custom to eat at home for Sunday dinner, or to invite others over for a noon meal, try preparing it in the crock-pot beforehand so it’s one less thing to be thinking about as you’re leaving church. Our family has found that Sunday dinner is not the best time for us personally to welcome people into our home. After service, our youngest ones are often ready for some quiet time, and so is Dad after having preached and taught all morning. Instead, Sunday evenings have been a time we enjoy inviting others to our home for dessert, conversation, and sometimes games.

Sunday is my most cherished day of the week, and I hope it is yours as well!

IDEAS THAT WORK

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

OUR BODY / HIS TEMPLE
“Premium Fuel”

Read: Hosea 4:6

It’s no surprise that our bodies require proper fuel to run efficiently. God made premium fuel for our bodies. Shop the outside aisles in the grocery store where “God-made” food is located – fruits, vegetables, meats, whole grains. A garden, raising our own meats and making our own breads and pasta is the best option. Second best – organic fruits, vegetables, meats, and quality, store-bought, whole grain breads and pasta. Impossible? Then you need to become a label reader. If ingredients say - enriched, preservative, nitrate or words you cannot pronounce – it’s best to stay away from them. Chemicals reek havoc within our bodies! Our bodies turn them into fat and/or can cause sicknesses (i.e., cancers, etc.). Other things to stay away from: sugar, caffeine, hydrogenated fats (i.e., peanut butter, shortening, fried foods). The Best - give our bodies what they crave – God’s food!

Water is extremely important! Our bodies are made up of approximately 70% water. We are literally an aquarium! Drink 8-10 glasses a day. Herbal teas count as a glass of water.

We should pray that our minds are not disconnected from how our bodies feel. If we feel ill, we should ask the Lord, “What can I do to change?” Food/water is an easy first step to take. We would not put muddy water in our gas tank to make our car run. Bad food/water should not go into our bodies (His Temple) - only “premium”! Make small, permanent changes and add to those changes as time goes along.

Resources:

Food: http://www.pwlp.com/ Weight loss or not, this program educates proper nutrition.
Chemicals: Spray produce with equal amounts of white vinegar and purified water to dissolve chemicals. Leave on ½ hour or not – rinse in purified water.
Water: www.mcvitamins.com/water.htm. Explains water’s importance. Water filters or purifying pitchers are good choices.

HERE’S WHAT’S COOKING

Annie's Fruit Salsa and Cinnamon Chips

Ingredients

2 kiwis, peeled and diced
2 Golden Delicious apples - peeled, cored and diced
8 ounces raspberries
1 pound strawberries
2 tablespoons white sugar
1 tablespoon brown sugar
3 tablespoons fruit preserves, any flavor
10 (10 inch) flour tortillas
butter flavored cooking spray
2 cups cinnamon sugar

Directions

In a large bowl, thoroughly mix kiwis, Golden Delicious apples, raspberries, strawberries, white sugar, brown sugar and fruit preserves. Cover and chill in the refrigerator at least 15 minutes.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).

Coat one side of each flour tortilla with butter flavored cooking spray. Cut into wedges and arrange in a single layer on a large baking sheet. Sprinkle wedges with desired amount of cinnamon sugar. Spray again with cooking spray.
Bake in the preheated oven 8 to 10 minutes. Repeat with any remaining tortilla wedges. Allow to cool approximately 15 minutes. Serve with chilled fruit mixture.

From Allrecipes.com

White Chocolate Fruit Tart

Ingredients

3/4 cup butter, softened
1/2 cup confectioners' sugar
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

FILLING:
1 (10 ounce) package vanilla or white chips, melted and cooled
1/4 cup heavy whipping cream
1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1 (20 ounce) can pineapple chunks, undrained
1 pint fresh strawberries, sliced
1 (11 ounce) can mandarin oranges, drained
2 kiwifruit, peeled and sliced

GLAZE:
3 tablespoons sugar
2 teaspoons cornstarch
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice

Directions

In a small mixing bowl, cream butter and confectioners' sugar until light and fluffy. Gradually add flour; mix well. Press into an ungreased 11-in. tart pan with removable bottom or 12-in. pizza pan with sides. Bake at 300 degrees F for 25-30 minutes or until lightly browned. Cool on a wire rack.

For filling, in a small mixing bowl, beat melted chips and cream. Add cream cheese and beat until smooth. Spread over crust. Refrigerate for 30 minutes. Drain pineapple, reserving 1/2 cup juice; set juice aside. Arrange the pineapple, strawberries, oranges and kiwi over filling.

For glaze, in a small saucepan, combine sugar and cornstarch. Stir in lemon juice and reserved pineapple juice until smooth. Bring to a boil over medium heat; cook and stir for 2 minutes or until thickened. Cool; brush over fruit. Refrigerate for 1 hour before serving. Refrigerate leftovers.

From Taste of Home

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

John 15: 4-5

4"Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.
5"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.

Dear Father, Thank you for being the One who knows us best. Thank you for loving us and desiring that each of us as women be pruned and fit for Your service. As you clip away the undesirable parts of our lives, help us to remember that although painful, the process is for Your Glory and for our good. Place within us the desire to abide in You through the study of Your Word and time with you in prayer. May we be faithful to be You, Your Word, and thus leave behind fruitful legacies when our days on earth are finished. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

An Interview With Laurie Nash
By Mary Pollestad

Laurie is the wife of Home Mission Director Paul Nash. She is the mother of three children and a grandmother of nine. When I asked Laurie what she thought her ministry for the Lord was she promptly said, “ Supporting my husband, mentor to my children, women’s ministries and helping international students at the AFLBS.”

Her favorite Bible verse is Isaiah 25:1 the last part of the verse says, “I will give thanks to your name for thou has worked wonders plans formed long ago with perfect faithfulness.” This verse shows God is in control and has a plan and we can trust Him.

When I asked Laurie what encouraging words would she have for all of us women especially pastor’s wives she spoke of her passion for women to be Women of the Word. In Jeremiah chapter 9 she said, “It talks about hearing the Word and receiving the Word.” “So much is going on in the rest of the world that is contrary to what God wants” she said. “We need the Word more and more.” “Our culture shouts and pulls us away from the Word of God and the joy that we can have.” “We must soak in the Word, dwell in the Word, meditate on the Word and abide in the Word.” “This is the strong passion that I have had through out this year.” She said.

Thank you Laurie for these encouraging words. Heavenly Father, may we be women of the Word of God.

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

BY CHERYL SKORDAHL

Last month I wrote about the helper design that God gave women at creation. We’ll continue this topic under the theme:

THE GOSPEL EMPOWERS AND COMPELS US
TO EXERCISE OUR DESIGN

“I believe that I cannot by my own reason or strength believe in Jesus Christ my Lord or come to Him. But the Holy Spirit has called me through the gospel…” I memorized that when I was 15 years old, and the message grows more precious year by year.

It is because of this “calling” this “redemption” that we can live our helper design – not in our own reason or strength, but through grace in the power of the Holy Spirit, as our catechism states. This grace, this redeeming love, breaks the grip of sin in our lives and empowers us to fulfill our creation mission. Is this truth so deeply ingrained in your mind, so that you will never become entangled in works righteousness? Even as a young seminarian’s wife, I was at the point of giving up on God because I was discouraged at my lack of ability to live the Christian life… works righteousness. When I realized that I needed to let go and let God, true Christian freedom came and I began living and doing in His power alone.

It is couched with this grace knowledge that I want to proceed to share some of the characteristics of a redeemed woman who is a true helper and fulfills her life-giving mission.

1. She is so grateful for God’s mercy that she gives forgiveness to others. Christ’s righteousness causes her to joyfully extend love and acceptance to others.
2. Her sights are on her heavenly home which restrains her from materialism.
3. She values the calling of wife and mother, but not so that they become her idol. She holds her family loosely before God.
4. She moves gracefully through different seasons and circumstances of life.
5. She is not focused on herself but extends herself to the elderly, the sick, the oppressed, needy and afflicted. Taking along her children or a younger woman to help train the next generation.
6. The redeemed helper knows that her marriage is a gospel picture to her children, the Christian community, and the world.
7. She knows that elevating herself, an individualistic approach, causes marriage and motherhood to be trivialized whereas a biblical perspective raises these relationships to the eternal.
8. She understands that her children are gifts to the church and she wants them to grow up as a part of this community. She teaches about the privilege to live and move among believers and to assume responsibilities to this covenant community.

What other ways are you living out your helper design? As pastor’s wives we remember that this design is foreign and offensive to the fallen world. The devil and the world tell women that there is a better way – a way of autonomy and independence. Instead the Lord through the gospel teaches and empowers us to live out our helper design. It is in the context of the Word where this design truly makes sense. Prov. 13:14, Prov 14:30, Prov 15:4. Can you find other Scriptures that teach and encourage women to live out their helper design?

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

PORTRAIT OF A WOMAN USED BY GOD
By Mary Pollestad

What is a picture of a woman who is used by God? What comes to your mind when you ask yourself, “Am I a portrait of a woman used by God”? I think there are several areas that come to our minds if we were sitting in a group of ladies right now. Let’s try and look at some of these. First and foremost she is a woman who is in the Word of God daily. When we are women who are in the Word of God we will then be able to respond in a right manner to everything in our lives because our lives are built on the Lord and His Word. A woman used by God has only one agenda and one focus that of Jesus Christ. She doesn’t think of herself first. Also her heart is willing and open to Gods’ leading to be used.

I think of an ordinary woman. We don’t have to be extraordinary in our talents and abilities God uses ordinary people like you and me.

Secondly, the picture is of a woman who knows it is only because of God’s grace that she can be who she is.

Thirdly women are nurturers and if we are women who love God we have been chosen to do that very thing. Nurturing other women in the Faith of the Lord Jesus. This may be a young woman at church or even as a young woman you can nurture other older women.

Fourthly, it is a woman who listens intently to the Holy Spirit. A portrait of a woman used by God actually listens all day long to the words that the Holy Spirit may say to her. She is always mindful of the Spirit. She also listens to the Spirit and does what the Spirit leads her to do even if it means she has to get out of her comfort zone.

Fifthly she does not have a negative spirit. She believes in her Lord. She talks of what He can do for her and for others. She doesn’t whine when the tough things come along. She goes forth believing that God is in control and He will help her through all of it.

Also this is a woman who is available. This may mean even pulling your car over and parking so that you can help a woman who has called you on your cell phone and she needs you to listen to her right now. Or maybe talking to your 13 year old daughter who needs to talk and you only have 10 minutes to get the supper ready for the family. Or, talking to a grandmother who is very disheartened because her grandchildren are not going to Sunday School. Maybe even helping out a sick one whose family is exhausted as care givers.

These are only a few items in the picture. How many more can you add for yourself as you look at the Portrait of a Woman Used By God?

CHECK IT OUT

WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART
By Elizabeth George

Our transformation into being a woman after God’s own heart is indeed God’s work. But what this book offers are the disciplines we can follow to place ourselves before God—disciplines regarding our devotional life, our husband, our children, our home, our personal growth, and our ministry –so that he can do that work in our heart. In this book you’ll find practical insights about what it means to follow God in every area of life, insights about nurturing an impassioned relationship with God, loving your husband, enjoying your children, caring for your home, experiencing personal growth, and giving to others. This book leads you on an exciting journey, and it is one where you will find much joy along the way. Let’s join together in becoming women who seek to be what God calls us and will empower us to be, a WOMAN AFTER GOD’S OWN HEART

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Spring is in the air, and with it comes Spring Cleaning! I used to be one of those people who would take a day and clean my house from top to bottom. It felt great to accomplish so much and to put my feet up at the end of the day with a clean house. Now that I have two children under two, I have had to modify my approach to cleaning. No longer do I have the luxury of taking a whole day to clean our house, much less taking time for spring cleaning that needs to be done. My house is just not as company ready as it used to be.

I was visiting at my girlfriend’s house and noticed a cute box on her kitchen countertop. The little tag attached to the tin box said “Spring Clean Year Round.” When I asked her about it, she explained that inside were cards that break down house cleaning chores at various intervals (weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, bi-monthly etc…) Following the cards, she can clean a little bit each day. She received this box as a gift, but gave me the blog spot where one can go to see how the system works and order a box if desired: www.cleanyearround.blogspot.com. Perhaps you may be interested to go to this site and order a box. Or maybe you could read about it and get some ideas on how to create a system of your own for breaking down your house cleaning chores. Happy Cleaning!

IDEAS THAT WORK

BY LORI WILLARD

HEALTH for BODY (Physical) SOUL (Mind, Will, Emotions) SPIRIT (Spiritual)

Read: 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; Romans 14:7-8;
Romans 12:1-2

We are the temple of the Holy Spirit! God commands that no one (ourselves included) is to defile or destroy our bodies! We are the Lord’s! We are to come apart from the world’s behavior! We must offer our bodies to Him, as a living sacrifice, for His service! Strong words for His people!

Do the following questions sound familiar?

How do I change my body, mind, will, emotions and spirit to reflect a transformed life? Do I want to be healed in all areas of my life? Do I want to fully serve the Lord? Do I only pay attention to my health when a crisis hits? How can I work for Him while I neglect the gift of life the Lord has given me? Do I see that neglect as a sin against the Lord?

We will address these thoughts in the next issues of Heartline. Resources will be shared to help improve your life and others around you.

When visiting a Naturopathic Doctor, she questioned, “Why do people in ministry push hard, give everything to ministry, and yet don’t take care of themselves? If you ever get a chance to tell others in ministry to take care of themselves, do it!”

CHOOSE LIFE! As I read Deuteronomy 30:19-20, the Lord impressed upon me that I had a responsibility to fulfill. It was simple. Make the decision to choose life. The Holy Spirit will come alongside to strengthen us.

Will you choose life?

Resource: Medical (Allopathic) Doctors (MDs) treat patients through medications (which mask root causes) and surgery. They are good at diagnosing symptoms. Naturopathic Doctors (NDs) treat patients through nutrition, supplements and exercise. NDs are good at dealing with root causes to stimulate the body’s natural healing process. Check out www.naturopathic.org to find an ND near you.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Fresh Spring Broccoli Salad

5 Cups Fresh Broccoli Florets
½ Cup Raisins
½ cup sunflower seeds
½ cup cooked crumbled bacon
3 cups purple grapes
¼ cup of red onion, chopped

Dressing:
1 cup mayonnaise
2 tablespoons vinegar
½ cup sugar

Alternative:
Use KRAFT cucumber ranch dressing for a fresh spring taste also to avoid food allergies for those who cannot eat mayonnaise.

Combine all ingredients and dressing to desired thickness

Lemon Cheesecake Bars (from McCormick)

1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs

1/3 cup butter, melted

1/2 teaspoon Ginger, Ground

3 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened

1 cup sugar

1/4 cup milk

2 tablespoons flour

1 1/2 teaspoons Pure Lemon Extract

1 teaspoon Pure Vanilla Extract

3 eggs

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Mix graham cracker crumbs, butter and ginger. Press firmly onto bottom of foil-lined 13x9-inch baking pan. Refrigerate until ready to use.

2. Beat cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until well blended. Add milk, flour and extracts; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating on low speed after each addition just until blended. Pour over crust.

3. Bake 40 to 45 minutes or until center is almost set. Cool completely on wire rack.

4. Refrigerate 4 hours or overnight. Lift out of pan onto cutting board. Cut into bars. Garnish as desired. Store leftover bars in refrigerator.

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
2 Peter 1:3-8

Lord, you have created us as Women. As we study your word, teach us how you want us to live as Christian Women. Your word says you have already given us, “everything we need for life and godliness.” Give us the strength and obedience to exercise our design so we can be effective and productive in our calling for your glory. Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With Evonne Skramstad
By Mary Pollestad

Evonne Skramstad and her husband Tim Skramstad who serves Living Word Lutheran in Eagan, Minnesota have served this church for eight years. “This is the longest time we have been in one place in the ministry” she said. Evonne is the mother of one son and two daughters who all live in the Minneapolis area.

When I asked Evonne what she thought her ministry was in the church she said. “Leading a women’s weekly Bible Study.” That Bible study sometimes in the fall goes into two times a day so giving more opportunity for the women to attend. “The most important ministry I have is listening to my husband and praying for him” she replied. She also helps with Vacation Bible School and with the prayer chain in the church.

If she could encourage all of us pastor’s wives she would say to stay in the Word. It is there where the strength is. “We’ve heard it and heard it over again that staying in the Word is the most important from other older women so we need to do that.” To those of us who are awake during the night or early early morning she encourages us to read the Word of God then. The second thing she encouraged us with is to be a real prayer warrior. “Also, remember that if you are asked to pray about something or you ask someone to pray for you be sure that the prayer is kept and not shared with anyone.” She replied. Another encouragement would be for us women to be quiet before we speak. “Sometimes I just step back and not get involved in a situation.” “Sometimes we should just listen or just get out of the situation so that we don’t regret it later.” She encouraged all the women who are going into their first church for the first time to just sit back in the first year and wait for the Lord to show you what doors he has open for you in the church. “Sometimes in a young family it is hard to be involved” she said, “because the children do need care.” “Just wait for the doors to be opened for you.” Prayer and reading the Word of God is what we need to do as women today.

FOCUS

Biblical Womanhood

What is the Legacy of Biblical womanhood? What is Biblical Womanhood? It is not surprising that the secular world is confused about the identity and calling of woman. But what can be distressing is the extent to which this has happened within the evangelical world. To understand this heritage ourselves enables us to pass it on to the next generation (a Titus 2 approach to relationships) During the 2010 year we would like to present a series of 5 Themes concerning the topic of Biblical Womanhood. (these are possibly not all inclusive concerning the subject BUT they do give “food for thought”) We may also conclude our series with thoughts on seeing Biblical womanhood “lived out “ in our churches. God Bless you in your pursuit of holding to a Biblical Womanhood perspective in a secular world. LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE!

WORDS TO INSPIRE

WOMAN - CREATED BY GOD TO BE A HELPER
By Cheryl Skordahl

A helper? Hopefully you don’t think that sound denigrating. Many women, world wide, react to the word helper in this negative way. But would that reaction be accurate when compared to the truth in the Word of God?

Genesis 1:27 says,
“God created man in his own image, in the image of God He created him;
male and female He created them.”

The man and the woman were equal, but different. Being created in God’s image gives identity and purpose. There is no preferential treatment in our union with Christ, but God’s design and order is clearly delineated in Galatians 3:28 where Paul writes,

“It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.”
God’s design for woman is that she be a helper.

But, why didn’t God want man to be alone? Prior to the creation, God was alone, and man and woman were called into being because the Lord yearned for relationships. Recalling that human kind is created in God’s image helps us to realize why people also yearn for a relationship with God and with each other. The unity of marriage is where we see gender distinctiveness flowing out of equality in a complementary way. The male/female distinctiveness was essential before God gave His approval on this creation by saying: “It is very good.”

The Hebrew word “ezer” is primarily translated “helper.” In the Old Testament it refers to God as our helper. Considering that God is our helper causes us to reflect on the richness and strength of this word. This same word “ezer” is used in Exodus 18:4 when Moses spoke of God as his helper, saving him from Pharaoh’s sword. In Psalms 10:14; 72:12; and 86:17 we read that God is the helper of the victim, the fatherless, the needy, and the afflicted. In other Psalms God is also referred to as a helper who is our support, strength, and shield. (20:2; 27:7; 33:20)

Today’s hostile feminist philosophy, which says that equality means sameness between male and female has brought chaos and confusion to our world. The original helper design God gave woman has been marred by this feminist belief system, and now many think of womanhood in terms of their own self-fulfillment, their own completeness, their own authority, their own happiness.

The helper design that God gave us at creation is intrinsic to who we are. It does not change with these whims of culture – it is never outdated. The word “helper” is indicative of a life-giving ministry of nurture, defense, and comfort of others. May the Lord be a helper to AFLC pastor’s wives, that we be characterized in the scriptural manner.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD (ministering effectively)

**Practical ways to live out the truths you are reading

A Wife’s Responsibility to Help Her Husband

Here are some helpful and some practical ways in which to help our husbands. First of all, the more that I study the Word the more I will grow in my faith. The more that I grow in my faith the more I will be able to be open to the Holy Spirit and His leading in order to help my husband more.

The word help makes us think of assisting or lending a helping hand. When a wife thinks of it that way and keeps Christ at the center of her life then it puts helping into perspective.

Another important thing to remember when we want to get involved in something or add to our duties is to ask ourselves is what I want to do going to help my husband. If we keep this in our hearts and minds at all times it will sometimes help deter us from doing something that will only hinder and not help our husbands. f we honor this God will truly bless us.

Praying for our husbands is one of the best things we can do to help our husbands. This sometimes seems like it doesn’t have much value in helping our husband but it truly does. You can talk to the Lord about many things for your husband and he will be blessed and the Holy Spirit will reveal things to him.

Let’s take our instruction from the scripture. The proverbs 31 lady watches over the affairs of her household. She is a caretaker of the house. Also her husband trusts in her. If our husbands trust in us they know that whatever needs to be done will be done. They don’t have to worry or try to get it done themselves. They will trust in us.

Let’s ask ourselves these questions. Do I manage my time that helps my husband or serves my agenda? Do I care for my home in a manner that helps my husband or serves myself?

Helping means to assist to carry on with what is needed and to take instruction and follow through. Helping our husband could be just sitting and listening to him talk. Maybe taking care of something for him that he needs to get done but doesn’t have time.

Putting our husbands ahead of ourselves is important. Sometimes that means putting aside all of our plans for the day and doing that which he may need or want us to do. We will be blessed if we do that. God understands that we have sometimes a lot to do but God will provide the time to finish what we need to do if we have put our husbands first ahead of what we have to do.

Some more practical ways are making sure he has clean clothes, ironed shirts and prepared food for him. Also make sure he has time to devote to his work. If he takes care of his work then he can concentrate on you and the family. Be a good steward of what you and your husband have. Maybe our home isn’t always clean but keeping an orderly home will also make a comfortable home.

With all the pressures of work sometimes our husbands need us to remind him of things that he needs to do. Being a list maker for him will sometimes help him stay on top of things that need to be done.

Another way you can help your husband is to make some time for dates with him. Also make time for you and him to be alone. Alone time is good for prayer, communication and sharing blessings and concerns.

Wives have a wonderful position that the Lord has provided for us. It is a wonderful role. It is wonderful to be a woman and to know that God has provided a definite role for us according to scripture.

CHECK IT OUT

The Excellent Wife--a Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace

A scripturally based book that gives a detailed portrait of a godly wife. God’s standard is high and holy but in this book, the author demonstrates that by God’s grace, it is attainable. A good book (with its study guide) for personal or group use.

Heart to Heart with Pastors’ Wives by Lynne Dugan

Twelve women share the wisdom they’ve gained alongside husbands who are in ministry. These stories that will encourage you as you minister along side your husband to others within your sphere of influence.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Every year at Christmas time, my family would have a “decorate the tree” night. Mom put on Christmas music, made hot Russian Tea and set out a plate of our traditional Christmas cookies. Dad would string the lights on the tree. We three kids would look through our box of ornaments we had collected through the years and then decide which one we would hang first, second etc. Dad and mom would hang the first ornament, and we kids would take turns hanging our favorites. It was our tradition. We looked forward to it as children. Now as adults, we fondly look back and remember those evenings decorating the tree.

Traditions. Now that I am married and have small children, I have been intentional about incorporating old traditions and starting new ones for our family. One tradition we are implementing in January is to pray for those who sent us a Christmas card. Each evening after supper, we take a card from our Christmas card basket, re-read it and pray for those who sent it. Then we follow up with a quick note or email of encouragement to them.

How does a person go about finding ideas for building family memories? Ask older family members for their memories of family traditions. I have found it helpful to talk with friends about any traditions their families have. I have also gotten great ideas from the book “Let’s Make a Memory” by Gloria Gaither and Shirley Dobson. Of course, you can be creative and make up your own.

It is never too late to start a tradition no matter the age or stage of your family (whether it is with your spouse, children or grandchildren). Be creative and start building memories with your family this new year.

IDEAS THAT WORK

Do you have some? Ideas, that is. Probably after you’ve read the shared thoughts you do have some of your own ideas! That is what this is meant to do. Challenge you personally. How it is worked out is between the three of you: the Lord, your husband and you. Pray that the Lord will continue his work in your life until He accomplishes His purpose and sees His reflection in you. (that may be a painful process!) However, I do have an idea I know that some churches have tried and even individual couples have used, and that is: #1 the viewing of the Fireproof DVD and #2 the Love Dare book study (by Stephen & Alex Kendrick). If you don’t do it as a couple how about you doing is yourself?! Applying its thoughts to your life personally. It will be an Idea (God’s idea!) That Works!

HERE’S WHAT’S COOKING

CHEX MIX PUPPY CHOW

9 cup Chex

1 cup chocolate chips

1/2 cup peanut butter

1/4 cup butter

1/4 teaspoon vanilla

1 1/2 cup powdered sugar

Put cereal in large bowl. Melt chocolate chips, peanut butter, and butter. Remove from heat and stir in vanilla.
Pour over Chex cereal, put into a large plastic bag with powdered sugar and shake well to coat.
Spread mixture evenly on wax paper and allow to cool.

This recipe is very good. It is from Cooks.com and I use it for all my get togethers. Great hit but kinda messy!!! Great for Youthgroups!!!!

McCormick Chili Recipe

Ingredients:
1 lb. lean (at least 80%) ground beef
1 medium onion, chopped (1/2 cup)
1 package (1.25 oz) Tex-Mex chili seasoning mix
1 can (28 oz) diced tomatoes, undrained
1 can (28 oz) crushed tomatoes, undrained
1 can (15 oz) spicy chili beans, undrained1 can (15 ounce) red kidney beans, undrained1 package McCormick® Chili Seasoning Mix, Original1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese 1/4 cup sliced green onion

DIRECTIONS
1. In 10-inch skillet, cook beef and onion over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until beef is thoroughly cooked; drain.2. Stir in tomatos, beans and Seasoning Mix. Bring to boil. Reduce heat to low; cover and simmer 10 minutes.

3. Spray 4- to 5-quart slow cooker with cooking spray and place chili in slow cooker.

4. Cover; cook on Low heat setting 4 to 6 hours. Stir well before serving. Sprinkle with shredded cheese and onion. Serve with sour cream, if desired.

High Altitude (3500-6500 ft): No change

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Titus 2:4: “That they may teach the young women to…love their husbands…”

Lord, I desire to be obedient to your word by loving my husband. I cannot love perfectly the way you can. Help me to love my husband the way he needs to be shown love. Thank You, Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With Dawn Johnson
By Mary Pollestad

Dawn and her husband Les have served Christ the King church in Wilson, WI for eight years. They have four children and three grandchildren.

When I asked Dawn what she felt her ministry in the church was she said, “It is with the women and the children.” “Sometimes it is leading a Bible Study or leading Kids Club.” “Also it is encouraging the women.”

If she were going to encourage all of the pastor’s wives she would leave these thoughts. “The first thing is to keep your relationship with the Lord strong.” One way to do this would be to sit down and write out verses that are of encouragement and put them somewhere where you could pick them up and read them.” “Another thing, is to find a woman whom you can talk with.” “Find someone you can go to for advise, support and encouragement.” “We need our husbands for this too but we do need another woman to talk to.” Since Dawn and her husband are “empty nesters” now, she would leave encouragement to all empty nesters to build up your relationship with your mate and nourish your relationship.” “A lot of people look to the pastor’s wife for performance.” She said, “but don’t be concerned about performance be concerned that the work that you are doing is for the work of the Lord.”

With the theme in mind of being a helpmate to our husbands I asked her if she had some thoughts on that. She said, “Be there for him, whether it be a sounding board or helping in someway.” Of course the most important thing is to pray for him. “Being available for him is important too and God will give you the time to finish whatever you were doing in order that you could help him first.”

A Bible verse that Dawn has had for years as her verse is I Corinthians 13:13.“ But now abide Faith, Hope and Love, these tree; but the greatest of these is love.”

FOCUS

“But thank God! He gives the victory…always work enthusiastically for the Lord, for you know that nothing you do for the Lord is ever useless.”

I Cor. 15:57-58 NLT

WORDS TO INSPIRE

Your Labor in the Lord is not in Vain
By Paula Jo Nyman

I’m sitting in my empty Sunday School classroom…all the busy sounds are gone for the morning. I’m wondering why I only had one student show up for my class this morning out of seven. Perhaps there was something else going on. Or maybe I’m just not connecting with the students. Or worse yet, maybe I’m not even supposed to be teaching these kids!

Does this sound familiar to you? Maybe your “empty classroom” is wondering if you are supposed to be working with the youth in your church. Maybe it comes after a particularly hard day of homeschooling where you wonder, why am I doing this? Maybe it is when you wonder why you seem to be the only one who ever does any of the work in the WMF and what is it all for anyway?

“But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my dear brothers (and sisters), stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”

The context of this Scripture is the great “Resurrection Chapter”, 1 Corinthians 15. Paul makes the case for the Resurrection, explaining what it would be like if there had been no Resurrection. He ends by telling us what it will be like when Jesus returns and our natural bodies become spiritual bodies and imperishable. What is the victory mentioned in the verses above? It is the victory over death! THANKS BE TO GOD THAT JESUS GAVE US VICTORY OVER DEATH. Death no longer has any sting for us…THEREFORE…let nothing move you! That’s right, it says let NOTHING move you. Even when you are in your empty classroom and you feel like giving up, your labor in the Lord is not in vain. Perhaps what I taught that day was just what God wanted that one student to hear! I may never know how it impacted him but God does.

Take heart and know deep down that as you give thanks to God and continue in His work He will not let it return void!!

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

Rich Frugality
By Sarah Nelson

A lesson God has been teaching me is that living frugally doesn’t mean living poorly. When I think we have less, is often when I discover we have more. The times I’ve fretted about what we will eat, and what will we wear, I open our pantry and closets, and while I don’t find cashmere or caviar inside of them, I find more than enough to keep us fed and clothed. I am reminded of the Scripture promise from Jesus in Matthew 6:25: “For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?

While I still have much to learn in the area of frugal living, I’d like to share a few ideas that have helped our family.

Food: I cook up large amounts of dried pinto and black beans to stretch soups, stews, and chili. Lentils, cooked just till tender, are a great ground meat extender. Our consumption of sweets, including homemade, has been cut back. When fruits and veggies are in season, I prep and freeze as much as possible for later use. Soda has become a rare treat, including my Diet Coke. Preparing as much food as possible from scratch with basic ingredients has been our biggest saver.

Clothing: When there is a need, I search our local thrift stores first, hit garage sales when possible, and if necessary check out the clearance racks. Adding a new scarf, necklace, or layering sweater can easily update an entire outfit for the fraction of the cost.

Entertainment: We cut out our TV cable service and found our local library to be a great resource for not only terrific books, but for good family DVD’s. Eating in rather than eating out, board game nights at home, and getting outside to enjoy creation are other richly frugal activities.

Gifts: I’ve re-discovered the joy of making gifts from the heart. This years Christmas gifts include aprons from a vintage sheet and matching p.j.’s from fabric I had on hand. Go through your cupboards and closets and find what you can fashion into something new.

Decorating: The urge to strip my orange and brown flowered wallpaper and cover my mint green painted walls colors is strong, but it must wait. A decorating friend came and arranged pictures and furniture into a pleasing arrangement, making our home transform from eye-popping clashing to eclectic cozy in style. Re-arrange, and swap talents with a neighbor and see what you come up with for little to no cost.

Most importantly, I’ve learned to trust on God more. What should and can we all do during these times? Pray! We have seen His provision for us through gifts of groceries, paper products, and clothing. He truly sees our needs, and yours. God hears you, loves you, and cares for you. Live frugally and see how rich you are in the love of the Lord!

CHECK IT OUT

Check out these websites for “helps” in parenting, and for your walk with the Lord:

reviveourhearts.com
authenticgirl.com
parentingtodaysteen.com
motherwise.org
focusonthefamily.org
Lifeway.com (under “helps for ministers’ wives”)

Do you have some that you’d like to share with others? Please send to Faith at efnelson@usfamily.net

How about your church’s website? Do you have a link just for the women in your church? Check this one out at gracefreelutheran.org (under “for women”)

Would you like to share yours with us? Please send the info to Faith at efnelson@usfamily.net

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

Last week we put childproof locks on our bathroom and kitchen cupboard doors to keep our toddler safe from finding and handling our household cleaners. As I put the cleaners away behind the locked door, I began to think about how dangerous these chemicals could be to my child should she get into them. This sparked my interest into checking out how to make my own nontoxic household cleaners. (Not to mention making my own cleaners would be frugal!)

I turned to the Internet to get some ideas and recipes. I learned that there are some basic, nontoxic ingredients in homemade cleaners: baking soda and white vinegar. There are also some key ingredients: soap (dish soap or liquid castile soap-found in health food stores) olive oil, club soda, and glycerin. Many recipes call for essential oils (found in health food stores or special health food sections in some grocery stores). Essential oils disguise the smell of vinegar and some (tea tree oil) have cleaning properties.

Finding a recipe is easy by simply typing, “making household cleaners” into your search engine of choice. In my researching, I found Tipnut.com to be a helpful website. I also came across what looks to be a helpful book by Karen Logan, Clean House Clean Planet- Clean Your House for Pennies a Day, the Safe Nontoxic Way. It is available at local bookstores or maybe at your local library

IDEAS THAT WORK

Consider a woman’s world in the early 1960’s about the time that our National WMF and AFLC came into being. Almost everyone got married and the average age for getting married was 20 years old for girls. The divorce rate was very low; chastity and virginity were virtues. Sex outside of marriage was considered shameful. Only 30% of the women worked outside the home. Life for women was very different 50 years ago! Contrast the 1950’s TV mom, June Cleaver (Leave it to Beaver) who was a happy fulfilled housewife to today’s TV icon, Ellen Degeneres, an avowed lesbian and comedian.

Ministry to women has been greatly affected by these changes in our culture. Yet the need to minister to women has never been greater!! How do we as pastor’s wives and WMF leaders effectively reach and encourage our women?
Our message must be solidly based only on God’s Word. In a recent email survey to the ladies of my church, the ladies consistently asked to dig deep into Bible study. Our message must not change but how, when and where we provide such opportunities to study God’s Word is where we can creatively adapt to reach this culture.

Take a hard look at the women already within your church, their ages and the seasons of their lives. Look at women in the neighborhoods around your home and church. What are their needs? Find out through surveys, email surveys, facebook, or just pick up the phone and ask. One church moved their women’s Bible study to Wednesday night because their children were involved in church activities that night and that freed up a night for them to be at home. Offer other studies at different times or on another days based on the schedules of all your women. One church with many young mothers just started a MOPS group to encourage these young mommies and to also reach out to their neighborhood. I know of several pastor’s wives who are effectively reaching out to their unsaved neighbors through a cooking class or a Bible study on marriage.

The needs are great and often overwhelming but my God is greater and HE IS ABLE!!! Prayerfully seek His direction to creatively minister in these days for He promises that

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally... and it shall be given him”. James 1:5

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter DESSERT SQUARES

1 package yellow cake mix; set aside one cup

½ cup butter, melted

3 eggs, large

1 jar of Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter

2 tbsp milk

1 tbsp flour

2 tbsp sugar

¼ cup butter, softened

1 tsp cinnamon

Preheat oven to 350° F. Divide yellow cake mix, placing all but one cup in a mixing bowl. Stir the melted butter and one egg into the cake mix. Press the mixture into the bottom of a greased 9" × 13" pan. Mix the jar of Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin Butter with two eggs and milk. Pour this result over the cake mix. Stir the reserved cup of cake mix with the flour, sugar, softened butter, and cinnamon. Mix together until crumbly. Sprinkle over top of the pumpkin layer. Bake for 35 to 40 minutes or until golden brown. Cool. Cut into "2 squares. Serves 24.

*** I received this recipe from Williams Sonoma company they are EXCELLENT!!! You can substitute the Muirhead Pecan Pumpkin butter for a pumpkin butter you find in your local grocery store****

Chocolate Brownie and Peanut Butter Cup Torte

Ingredients
1 (18-21 ounce) package brownie mix
3 eggs
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/4 cup water
1/4 cup creamy peanut butter
6 (1 1/2 ounce) peanut butter cups, bars
1 2/3 cups peanut butter chips (10 oz. pkg)
2 cups miniture marshmallows

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Spray two torte pans with nonstick cooking spray with flour. Place 8 inches circles of parchment or wax paper over centers of pans, set aside. In mixing bowl combine brownie mix, eggs, 1/2 cup oil, water and peanut butter, mix well. Divide batter between 2 pans spreading to edges. Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until centers feel firm to the touch.

Meanwhile, dice peanut butter cups, set aside. In microwavable bowl, combine peanut butter morsels and remaining 1 tbsp of oil, microwave on HIGH 1-2 minutes or until melted and smooth, stirring after each 30 second interval. Spoon 1/4 cup of the peanut butter mixture into a re-sealable plastic bag, set aside. Fold marshmallows into remaining peanut butter mixture.

Remove pans from oven to cooling rack. Let brownies stand in pans for 4 minutes. To assemble torte, invert one brownie well side up onto large round platter. Make sure to remove paper from bottoms of brownies. Using scraper spread marshmallow filling into brownie well. Invert remaining brownie well side up onto cooling rack then slide onto top of bottom layer. Evenly distribute diced peanut butter cups into brownie well. Snip tip of corner of baggie to allow peanut butter mixture to flow through, drizzle over torte. Serve immediately.

*** Recipe from Recipe Zaar ***

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

“But Thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ” 1 Cor. 15:57

Recently I have been struggling with worry. Having two babies at home lends opportunity for this new mother to worry. Uncertainty causes me to worry. Putting on an extra pound or two causes me to worry. The thought of harm or danger coming to my family causes me to worry.

I shared the growing struggle of mine with a woman I greatly respect. She directed me to Philippians 4: 6-7, which says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” She reminded me that scripture says we have not because we ask not. She also reminded me to thank Him for His answers.

I did bring my requests to the Lord as I was tempted to steep in my worry. Each time the worry re-appears in my mind, I remind myself that my life and the life of my family is in the Lord’s hands and He has our best in mind. Claiming these truths and choosing to believe them gives me the peace of God, which does go beyond my understanding.

Join me in praying:
“Lord, thank you that because of Jesus we can have victory over sin. Please show me an area in my life today where I need to confess sin that is keeping me from serving you. I want to be free to serve you with my whole mind, body and soul. Thank you Jesus. Amen”

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview with Andrea Christenson
By Mary Pollestad

Andrea Christenson is the wife of Lay pastor Eric Christenson who serves Amery Free Lutheran in Amery WI. They have two girls.

I asked Andrea to tell us what she knew the Lord had called her to do in the ministry at Amery Free. “Well she said, I would have to say that my ministry is encouragement.” She replied, “First of all it is to my husband. To love him and support him in anyway that I can. To encourage him and help him.” “The second thing is to minister to my family.” “ I would have to say the third thing is to encourage different groups of people in the church.” “Sometimes,” she said, “that might be to come along side in various ways for ideas or projects and supporting them in whatever they may need.” “It may not be to lead something but to just give an idea.” “One of the things that I am working on in this area is to write a small note of encouragement or do a phone call.” I am trying to become intentional about meeting peoples needs on a one to one basis.” “Of course” she said, “There is always serving in and amongst the youth of the church.”

Following through with our theme for this month I asked her if she were to give a word of encouragement for the pastor’s wife what would that be. She promptly said, “The Bible verses that come to me are “God will never leave you or forsake you. And another one is “God never Changes He is always the same”. “And still another one that I have been really blessed with lately is, The Joy of the Lord is my strength.”

If Andrea was going to give a bit of encouragement to all of us Pastor’s wives it would be stated like this. “Lately she said I have had a very Freeing thought come over me in the last year that the only expectations we should have to live up to are those of God’s.” “Sometimes we have expectations of what we should be like.” “Or we look at others and we think we should be like them.” “God has called each one of us for a purpose, we don’t have to fit into man’s mold but into God’s.” “We should not expect ourselves to fit into this Christian woman mold that is unrealistic.” “If I could say it this way, be whom God created you to be not a victim of your own expectations or anyone else’s.”

I asked her for some words of wisdom for those women going into a different part of ministry within their church or even being called to a different church she said, As we look at where God may be taking us next within the church or in another church let us remember it may not look exactly the same but God will use you.” “He equips who He calls.”

FOCUS

“Never lag in zeal and in earnest endeavor; be aglow and burning with the Spirit, serving the Lord. Rejoice and exult in hope; be steadfast and patient in suffering and tribulation; be constant in prayer.”

Romans 12:11, 12 (Amplified Bible)

WORDS TO INSPIRE

PATIENT IN AFFLICTION
by Cheryl Skordahl

About Ireland and the Irish of 1843, the historical novel OF MEN & OF ANGELS by authors Bodie and Brock Thoene, teaches much about being patient in affliction. Set in the time when Ireland was owned and controlled entirely by the English, the story follows the life of Joseph Connor Burke who identifies with the commoners since he had been one himself, inheriting the estate and the lands of Ballynockanor later in life.

Seeing the tyranny of the English in every crevas of life, Joseph agrees to work with Daniel O’Connell and his Repeal movement, desiring true representation of the Irish in the English House of Commons – and to gain this representation without bloodshed. The story introduces the reader to multiple layers of villainy, all of whom have one thing in common – there desire for more power and the downfall of the Repeal movement. Joseph works prayerfully and tirelessly through much persecution, toward the goal of an Ireland that has true representation in the government.

Although the book was published in 1998, questions regarding the current issues in our country reverberated in my mind as I read the discussion questions at the end of this novel. Are there similarities between this novel and the plight of the United States under the current administration? Without trying to over dramatize, I believe the answer to the question is a resounding, “yes!” I am one who believes that the multiple bills that are currently before congress, will promote exorbitant changes in our country – changes that will affect the freedoms that American’s know today.

What are Christian Americans to do about these changes that the government seems bent on delivering? The WORD’S OF INSPIRATION in this article come in the form of a challenge. A challenge to put into practice the words of Romans 12:11 & 12.

1. BE AGLOW AND BURNING WITH THE SPIRIT. Check your spiritual temperature in light of the Word of God. Are you putting your complete trust and dependence in the Lord Jesus Christ? Are you sold out to him? Have you determined not to live for yourself, but for the Lord and others? Are you living empowered by the Holy Spirit?

2. BE CONSTANT IN PRAYER. Include prayer for our nation in your prayers – frequently each day. Pray for other Christians and Christian families to be inspired by the Holy spirit and strengthened to rise up and move as the Lord directs.

3. NEVER LAG IN ZEAL, AND IN EARNEST ENDEAVOR. Follow the leading of the Lord and WORK as He instructs you individually and corporately, to insure that our freedoms as Americans are protected. If we do nothing, they will win. Always maintain a hopeful attitude.

4. BE STEADFAST AND PATIENT IN SUFFERING AND TRIBULATION. Trust God for the future, even though persecutions may come. In our novel, when Joseph was persecuted through damage to his reputation, his earthly dwelling, and his physical body, he was counseled with these works, “circumstances are never as damaging’ to us as how we take on about them.” Don’t loose heart, God’s ultimate plan will succeed.

5. REJOICE AND EXULT IN HOPE. In patience, press on – not giving up until our freedoms are secure. In this you will be serving the Lord enthusiastically.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

In this time of so much disruption in every sector of our nation there still is a need for us to continue on as Christian women. Don’t give up. Times are tough. We need to press on. Even if we don’t seem to have any strength left and we are just drained of every ounce of life that we thought we had in the morning when we woke up. We still need to keep going. Why? Because Jesus said “you are the salt of the earth.” Matthew 5:13. How many of us have looked up the definition of salt or looked on the Internet to see all the uses of salt? If you have you will be amazed. Have you ever looked up all the uses of salt? Just like there are many uses for salt so there are many things left that God wants us to be doing for him. Has the salt in us lost it savor and is it being trampled under foot? Oh how I hope that it is not. I challenge you today ladies to ask Jesus what he wants you to do each day to be the “Salt of the earth”. Many of us are miles away from each other but we can be “Salt” in our “own little world” wherever that may be. It is time to stand on the principles of the Bible and not move off of them. It is time to stand on prayer and believe that God answers prayer. It is time to believe in forgiveness of sins and that someday Christ will return. Am I saying that we as Christians haven’t done that? No I am not I am saying that we have to keep on doing these principles. Some days I don’t feel like being the salt of the earth. Some days I just have an awful day at work where my co-workers have bashed me as a Christian woman. In these days’ people are trying in everyway possible to bash at Christians. In the book of Hebrews we read about that punishment or the way people treat us hurts. But afterwards it will bring a quiet growth in grace and character. We must stand firm. We must continue to be “Salt” to the world. Don’t worry about how will I do this just believe and pray that God will show you where and to whom he wants you to be salt to. Jesus said also “if salt loses it savor it might as well be thrown out and trampled.” Oh women of today don’t be like what Jesus is talking about when he talks about the salt losing its savor. Oh know, we must not lose the savor. If you have lost your savor repent and believe that God forgives you and press on even now as you read this go forth and be salt in your world.

CHECK IT OUT

Turning the Tide: Having More children Who follow Christ by Holly Elliff
We pray about what we should do with our money or what car to buy. But, she challenges us to seek God’s will regarding the size of our family. Holly share with us biblical principles God used to challenge her own heart in this area. She reveals the far-reaching impact of what happens when believers choose to have fewer children, or even not to have children at all. If Christians have fewer children who follow Christ, what will be the long-term effect on our culture and world? Finally, Holly share tips for raising godly Children to help cultivate and environment that encourages spiritual growth and fosters tender hearts. This is a short book with a big message. Order through ReviveOur Hearts.com or call #1-800-569-5959.

The Legacy of Biblical Womanhood by Susan Hunt and Barbara Thompson
This work is grounded in Scripture, in a biblical theology of womanhood. It inspires us with the incredible privilege to be a woman fulfilling our distinctive role in His grand redemptive plan. It challenges us to recapture the Legacy of Biblical Womanhood and carefully and intentionally pass it on to the next generation. A must read book . (to order see information)

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

By Ester Gudim

As a stay at home mom of two and a wife of a full time seminarian, I have learn a thing or two the last few years about saving money. One of the greatest ways that God has shown me is how to use coupons to dramatically cut our grocery/personal hygiene budget. By using coupons to their fullest the last few years, I have been able to maintain a budget of about $90 per month for these categories. Here are a few ideas on how to increase your coupon savings:

1. Collect Coupons-Sunday papers are a great place to start, but you can also find in grocery stores, on products, and even in gas stations.

2. Organize your coupons in a way that makes sense to you. You are more likely to use them if they make sense to you. Coupons could be organized by store layout, or categories used most often.

3. Get to know your stores' coupon policies (You can usually inquire at Customer Service). Different savings your stores might offer could include:
-Price matching other competitors

-Doubling coupons

-Taking expired coupons

-Accepting competitor's coupons

4. Trying matching coupons up with sale prices in your ads to maximize your savings.

5. Think about stockpiling. When you come across a good sale, don't be afraid to purchase alot. Often, if an item is free or very cheap, I will figure out how much my family will use before the expiration date and purchase that amount.

6. Start out small. Major couponing can be a little overwhelming. Try starting with just one store and when you master that one add another one.

7. Utilize the internet.

-Print coupons online. They are often of higher value then those in the Sunday paper.

-Read online forums to help you learn what deals are going on at local stores.
-Order extra coupons online from clipping services. They are online stores where you can purchase extra coupons for items you use often or to use on items that are already on sale that you want to pair with a good coupon and stock up.

Here are some websites that are helpful for getting started:
Hotcouponworld.com

afullcup.com

Clipping services

thecouponclippers.com

couponsandforms.com

couponcatcher.blogspot.com

Finally, it is important to realize that this will take some time and effort. It is worth it though. Not only has God provided abundently for my family through coupons, He has also given us so much that we are able to share with others who are in need.

IDEAS THAT WORK

In the spring of 2009 the women of Living Hope, an AFLC Church in a suburb of Minneapolis, MN, held a 24 hour Women’s Retreat. Many young women with busy households attended, precisely because of the limited time schedule. Lasting only 24 hours, beginning on a Friday night and closing on Saturday night, the women were able to be home on Sunday morning to attend church with their families.

From the beginning, the 3 member planning team involved about 10 other women by delegating the responsibilities of decorating, supper set up, small group leaders, worship, and advertizing. In this way there were close to 15 women who felt ownership for the event, virtually assuring their attendance.

The theme of the retreat was LOVING WELL, a Beth Moore Retreat In A Box – Liveway.com. Everything needed for planning the retreat was supplied in a box.

As well as large group events, the 30 – 35 women were divided into 4 small groups where time was spent in ice breakers, games, and Bible studies. One of the aims was for each women to get to know a few women – and to get to know them well. Says one of the planners, “It was rewarding to see women come and relationships made, tears, raw emotion, sharing in depth in small groups.” A truth that was explored is that a person “can’t love well until they know they’re loved by our Heavenly Father. He asks us to love all those He puts on our path – even the testy – the hard or easy to love women.” The retreat planning team wanted to be sure that all who attended felt loved, that people meshed, and that new friendships were formed. Each woman who came was given a special soft drink “Izzy”, some chocolate, a bookmark, and a personal journal that was a follow-up study to the event.

The retreat was held in a rustic retreat center – one way of helping us keep the cost down. We charged $50 - $60 per person, with the option of paying $25.00 extra for a high rope course, team building event.

What did the women like about the retreat? That it was close by home – not much travel time, the content was solid and dynamic, it was not superficial but got right to the tough subjects, it was fun, goofy games, good food, life transforming.

Questions about the Retreat in a box? Contact Julie Monseth 763-497-0653 or Naomi Halvorson 612-267-5757.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Something to not Heat up the Kitchen

Crunchy Curried Chicken Salad

Ingredients:

½ cup whole cashews
½ cup sweetened flaked coconut
1 tbs curry powder
2 tbs mango chutney
½ cup plain yogurt
3 cooked boneless, skinless chicken breasts
2 – 3 green onions with tops
1 large granny smith apple
4 cups mixed baby greens

1. Place cashews in steamer Microwave, uncovered, on HIGH 1-2 minutes or until cashews are fragrant, stirring every 30 seconds; remove and set aside. Place coconut in Micro-Cooker®. Microwave on HIGH 2-3 minutes or until deep golden brown, stirring every 20 seconds; set aside. Place curry powder into (8-in./20-cm) Sauté Pan; cook over medium-high heat 1-2 minutes or until fragrant.
2. In Stainless (2-qt./2-L) Mixing Bowl, combine chutney and curry powder. Add yogurt; stir until smooth. Reserve 1/4 cup (50 mL) of the dressing.
3. Using pearing knife, dice chicken into 1-in. (2.5-cm) pieces. Thinly slice green onions and apple. Add chicken and green onions to remaining dressing in mixing bowl; stir to coat. Combine apple and mixed greens in (4-qt./4-L) Mixing Bowl. To serve, divide greens mixture among serving plates and top with chicken mixture. Sprinkle with cashews and coconut. Drizzle with reserved dressing.

Yield: 4 servings Nutrients per serving: Nutrients per serving: Calories 410, Total Fat 15 g, Saturated Fat 5 g, Cholesterol 90 mg, Carbohydrate 30 g, Protein 39 g, Sodium 310 mg, Fiber 4 gDiabetic exchanges per serving: 2 fruit, 5 low-fat meat (2 carb) Cook’s Tips: It’s a good idea to cook extra chicken breasts when preparing dinner early in the week. You'll be a big step ahead in preparing meals like this one a couple of nights a week.

Any type of mango chutney, such as Major Grey's or hot mango chutney, can be used in this recipe. Any tart, crisp apple, such as Jonathan, can be substituted for the Granny Smith apple.

© 2009 The Pampered Chef used under license.


Something Festive for the fall gatherings

Spiced Pumpkin Butter Dip

1 10 oz jar of spiced pumpkin butter (Can be purchased at groceries, Williams Sonoma)
8 oz of softened cream cheese
1 cup powdered sugar
1 tsp vanilla
4 oz cool whip

Mix cream cheese and sugar together until smooth. Add vanilla and stir until blended. Next, stir in the spiced pumpkin butter. Then fold in the cool whip until well blended. Chill the mixture before serving at room temperature.

Serving suggestions:
Offer sliced, crisp apples with pear slices, cantaloupe, grapes, ginger snaps, or pretzels.

**From Oregon Hill Farms

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Each HEARTLINE will present you with a corporate prayer suggestion for AFLC Pastors' wives.

Let’s unite in asking the Lord to extend to us His mercy and grace to us in abundant measure when we find ourselves in situations beyond our understanding. Let’s be honest with Him about what He is showing us as a need of transformation in our lives and His desire to work through our found situations to bring it about. Let’s be willing to learn to know Him through the sufferings that He allows us to experience. Let’s ask Him to complete His work in us though we feel it is a painful process. Pray that through our time “in the process” we would learn to know His heart of compassion and be moved to extend it to others. Pray for those you know who are experiencing times of difficulty and how He would have you extend his hand of mercy to them through you. “…be steadfast and patient in suffering and tribulation; be constant in prayer.” Romans. 12:11,12

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview With
Michelle Mobley
By Mary Pollestad

Michelle Mobley is married to Pastor Wade Mobley. Wade and Michelle serve Living Word Free Lutheran Church in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Wade and Michelle have served Living Word Free for seven years. They have one daughter.

When I asked Michelle what she thought her ministry was in the church she replied, “My ministry is to Wade”. “I have led ladies Bible Studies and have helped in children’s ministry but I would have to say that praying for him and listening to him is my ministry.” “I am still learning to do that though.” She chuckled. “I also think listening is my ministry.” “Listening to Wade even when I don’t have an answer.” I asked Michelle what her strong point was in the ministry and she said it was flexibility. “I think that is so important in the ministry as schedules change and church responsibilities change.,” she said. “That isn’t easy for some to do,” she said, “but I have found it to be a great asset in the ministry.” I asked Michelle to look back over the 7 years and also look to the future to give a comparison of the years of ministry. “Well, she said in the beginning I struggled with should I do that or this compared to now I think more of am I called to do this in the church or is someone else called.” “As I look to the future I know that God will equip me or all of us women for what is ahead.” “Also, learn to serve and to love the congregation.” she replied. “It is very vital to love your congregation.” As she looked at the verses in Hebrews 12:11,12 she shared these thoughts with me. “The first thing is to acknowledge the pain.,” she said. “I learned during this adoption journey to acknowledge the pain and allow others to come along side me during the pain. “Also to trust others during the pain.” “The results is the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” “Being vulnerable is hard for me.” Michelle stated. “But being vulnerable has taught me also that God can do His work during the pain.” Michelle reminded me, “While the pain is occurring we still need to keep going.”

If Michelle were to leave a word of encouragement for all of us pastor’s wives it would be to stay fed in the Word. “Sometimes we become so busy in church work we forget to get fed.” she reminded. “I have found that just to take a few verses each day and just meditate on them all day long has been a blessing to me.” “Even though we are busy moms in the pews listening to God’s Word being taught or sung is a way to be fed also.” “We must be fed” she said, “ daily in God’s Word.” If I were going to have devotions in the same way that I did before children I probably wouldn’t have devotions at all”. She chuckled. “That is why meditating on just a few verses all day has blessed me.” Another word of encouragement would be some advice that I got from another pastor’s wife. “Don’t defend your husband.” Michelle said. “But to encourage those who have grievances to talk to your husband thus you are not getting involved in the situation.”

FOCUS

Endurance

“Your name, O Lord, ENDURES FOREVER, your renown, O Lord, through all generations. For the Lord will vindicate his people and have compassion on his servants.” Psalm 135:13&14

WORDS TO INSPIRE

By Linda Papillon

“What a caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Creator calls a butterfly.” (From A Path Through Suffering by Elisabeth Elliot).

My husband loves to roam among the book shelves of Goodwill and recently found a novel about a family in Colorado having to become refugees because of their offensive Christian beliefs--being right wing home schoolers, pro-life, attending a “fundamentalist” church, etc. This book was published in 1996 and what might have seemed far out 13 years ago, is actually becoming reality today. As I write this, the so-called “hate crimes” legislation has already passed the House and is in the Senate. Basically, this would make it legal to investigate, prosecute, and persecute anyone whose actions reflect their faith. Will our pastor husbands end up being arrested and hauled off to jail for reading a Bible passage that might offend certain minorities in America? Could this actually happen in the land of the free and the brave? How could we endure such hardship? It’s tempting to panic and give in to fear and isolation, maybe even stockpile food and ammunition to survive a little longer.

Life is a boot camp of sorts, learning endurance in various ways. There’s the physical kind like training for a marathon or 5K. Some of us have emotional trials like praying a prodigal child back into the faith or the ups and downs of caring for a loved one with cancer. But we all need to build up our strength in the spiritual disciplines of daily time with the Lord, memorizing His Word, and waiting on Him in prayer and meditation. God uses all of these ways to teach us to depend on His faithfulness.

Mark 11:22b simply states: “Have faith in God.” Hold on to His faithfulness. Christians who look forward to the future are Christians who have looked back at the faithfulness of God. Is there any doubt of God’s faithfulness? Read through Psalm 136 without skipping a word and you will read “His steadfast love endures forever” 26 times! It’s been so helpful for me to then journal what that means to me for even the routine things of the day. As we learn more of Who He is and what He’s done, we will have to humbly bow and worship the One who is the same yesterday and today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

GIVING GRACE

To be honest, there is only one relationship in my life where I struggle with harmony, and that is with our mentally-handicapped son. Many of his problems are not his fault. Because his birth-mother drank alcohol before he was born, his brain was permanently damaged. When we adopted him at one year of age, we knew he had “special needs,” but no diagnosis. I assumed that love, God’s Word, good training, discipline, and God’s healing would “fix it.” That is not the case. You have no idea how many times I have “died” to my hopes and dreams for Josh. I’ve had to learn to love and accept him JUST AS HE IS.
Josh is now 20, and the effects of fetal alcohol syndrome are very evident: ADHD, he’s impulsive, immature, has poor self-control, struggles academically and socially, and will probably never live independently. He doesn’t face an easy life as a vulnerable adult.
My biggest shock as a mother was realizing my own sin, critical spirit, and impatience. The greatest struggle that I have right now is that Josh doesn’t want his mother telling him what to do! I still correct him too much and praise him too little. Lyndon is much better in patience and understanding of Josh.
Here are a few thoughts I would share with parents of “special-needs” (and all!) children:

• Set priorities of the most important things you focus on. You can’t correct everything.
  
• Realize that some things will never change. Let them go and don’t make them an issue.
  
• Jesus never used shame to motivate anyone, and neither should we.
  
• There is no condemnation (to declare guilty, worthless, or unfit for use or service; conveying the idea of utter rejection, doom) in Jesus (Romans 8:1). Make sure to distinguish that you LOVE your children but hate their SIN.
• 
  Learn to laugh more. That eases the tension.
  
  Still growing in GRACE,
  Linda Korhonen

CHECK IT OUT

Daughters of the Faith Series

For your daughter in early teen years, consider the following book series: Daughters of the faith Series This collection of historical fiction tells the story or courageous women when they were still girls. It includes Courage to Run the account Harriet Tubman’s childhood. Events she experienced as a slave teach us to trust God to create the underground railroad . Another story The Tinkers Daughter tells of Mary Bunyan. Our favorite volume Shadow of His Hand, introduced us to aspiring ballerina Anita Dittman who survived the holocaust. Each young woman faced circumstances which required more strength than they had in themselves. They learned to depend on God. They found him faithful and claimed peace and joy, even as they experienced great personal loss.

Becoming a True woman—Discipleship Journal by Susan Hunt

Question? Who is teaching our teen and preteen girls what it means to be a Woman---the church or the culture? In a world where there are so many uncertainties, Becoming a True woman—Discipleship Journal by Susan Hunt will teach and train younger women how to become a True Woman. It is a curriculum that will help you to speak Biblically and boldly to the issue of womanhood. A curriculum is available for both teen and pre-teen girls. It can be for individual or group use. Check it out!

IN MY OPINION

In response to last blog's question: Which area of the country are you from?

100% of respondents stated they were born in the Midwest.

"In my Opinion" will be replaced by Helpful Hints for Home from now on.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

From Kristie Swenson

Are you sick of cooking the same old thing every month for supper? After only three years of marriage, I already found myself in the rut of repeating my menu plan. Then my mom tipped me off to a better way to meal plan that takes advantage of the weekly deals in the supermarket ad and provides new, good recipes.

1. Check out your local grocery ad from the newspaper or online and mark down the sale meat and/or vegetables your family likes.

2. Go online to www.allrecipes.com

3. At allrecipes.com, there is a search box where you can type in an ingredient(s). (I will often times type in the sale meat or vegetable to see what new recipe I can make with them.) The site will display all of the recipes that include that particular ingredient.

4. Print off the recipe(s) you would like to use.

5. Plan out your meals for the week and make a grocery list.

6. At the grocery store stick to your list or you may overbuy and overspend!

This website will give ingredients, directions, and the nutrition facts of each recipe, It also has ratings, reviews and recipe tweaking suggestions from other viewers. I have found this site to be very helpful. Other sites that I have found and liked are: www.cookinglight.com and www.rachaelray.com

IDEAS THAT WORK

By Mary Pollestad

Let me encourage each women’s group to always have one special event that women enjoy and one which they can invite their friends to come along. Every woman like to bring their friends to something just so they can be together. This also enables the Christian gal to bring her non Christian friend to a non threatening event in the church. This has really proven to be a wonderful time for outreach. Also, it helps the younger gals to have a special time with their Christian friends. In this busy world women don’t all have the time to get together. What could be a more wonderful way to get together than at the church around a Christ centered event. It proves to be a wonderful time for all! Away provide childcare for those single gals with children. The money issue of a sitter is not a stumbling block to sand in the way for the single gal. and don’t forget the older generation. They enjoy being there. It is a wonder time for them being around the younger gals. Hope this is can idea that you can possible use and that all can enjoy!

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING!

Warm Nutty Caramel Brownies

Ingredients:
1 pkg (12 oz) semi-sweet chocolate morsels, divided
1 pkg (18-21 oz) brownie mix (plus ingredients to make cake-like brownies)
¾ cup packed brown sugar, divided
1 cup salted mixed nuts, divided
5 rolls (1.7 oz each) milk chocolate-covered chewy caramels, divided (40 pieces total)
Vanilla ice cream (optional)

Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Lightly brush Large Bar Pan with vegetable oil using basting brush. Chop 1 1/2 cups of the chocolate morsels using a chopper. In medium bowl, combine brownie mix, water, oil, eggs and 1/4 cup of the brown sugar; mix well. Fold in chopped chocolate; pour batter into bar pan, spreading evenly using spatula.

2. Chop nuts using food chopper. Combine half of the nuts and remaining 1/2 cup brown sugar; sprinkle evenly over brownie batter. Bake 20-22 minutes or until wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean.

3. Meanwhile, using utility unife, cut 16 caramels into quarters. Place remaining 1/2 cup chocolate morsels in Prep Bowl; microwave on HIGH 1 minute or until melted, stirring after each 20-second interval. Spoon melted chocolate into resealable plastic bag; set aside.

4. Remove bar pan from oven to Stackable Cooling Rack. Immediately press remaining 24 caramels evenly into brownie in four rows of six caramels each. Sprinkle quartered caramels and remaining nuts over brownies. Trim corner of chocolate-filled bag with Utility Knife; drizzle chocolate evenly over brownies. Cut into squares; serve warm using Mini-Serving Spatula. Serve with ice cream, if desired.

Yield: 24 servings

Nutrients per serving: Calories 300, Total Fat 16 g, Saturated Fat 4.5 g, Cholesterol 25 mg, Carbohydrate 38 g, Protein 3 g, Sodium 135 mg, Fiber 2 g

Recipe taken from Pampered Chef

Cheese Bacon Hamburger

Ingredients:

3 lbs lean ground beef
1 cup American cheese
1 cup bread crumbs
5 slices bacon sliced with kitchen scissors
3 small onions, finely chopped
Webber grill grinder as desired

1. Heat coals or gas grill for direct heat. Mix beef, onions, bread crumbs, seasoning, bacon, and cheese. Shape into 12 medium sized patties, about ¾ inch thick

2. Cover and grill patties 10-11 minutes turning once, until no longer pink in center and juice is clear.

3. Serve and enjoy

Kirk Rautio

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER

Each HEARTLINE will present you with a corporate prayer suggestion for AFLC Pastors' wives.

Lord, sometimes we are tempted to feel overwhelmed and beaten down by the circumstances of our day. We see so many issues in our government that have been deemed "OK" that go against your precepts. So many life issues such as embryonic stem cell research and abortion are now rationalized as ethical and progressive. Our economy has found many losing jobs, homes, and financial security. Help us to remember that you are sovereign, and greater than our circumstances. Our security is not in our government or our finances, but rather in claiming the promise that you Lord are in control. We pray you would work in the minds of our elected officials, remind them of your precepts. You Lord are the creator of life, and we pray that our country would once again protect all life as sacred. Keep our minds stayed on you, for in that you promise to bring us peace. Amen

GETTING TO KNOW YOU

Interview with

KAY RAMSBACHER

by Mary Pollestad

Kay is the mother of one daughter. Her husband serves Bethel Community in Culbertson, Montana and Faith Free in Brockton, Montana.

When I asked Kay what she felt her ministry was within the church she said she thought it was “Filling in the Gaps”. “As a pastor’s wife you don’t want to take over in the church you want the people to lead but when there is a need I try to fill the “gap” wherever I can when I am asked.” “Of course, she said, praying and encouraging my husband would be my first ministry calling.”

When I asked Kay about the word “Endurance” and what came to her mind she said with a lot of confidence, “It reminds me of I Peter 4:19 Commit yourself to the Savior continue doing what is good.” She said when the tough times come and the road ahead is rough don’t run and hide from it but continue in what is good.” Maybe you can’t give as much in one area but in the areas you can continue doing good for the Lord in that area.” She discussed with me that it is just simply keeping the faith at all times in the good and in the bad. She was reminded of the song “What a Friend We Have in Jesus” In that song it says to take everything to God in prayer. “That is what we must do too.” She said.

I said, “As we look at our world today and all that is going on what words of encouragement would you give to our ladies”? She said, “get involved with your community even on a small scale like the “Food Bank” and in that you will see how your little community is doing good and then the whole picture of our world doesn’t look so overwhelming.” “I guess, she said with a sigh, that helps us see that there is good going on.” “Whatever it is that you can do even on a small scale in your community will help you see how the Lord is working and that helps.” she said.

So to us gals as pastor’s wives Kay would encourage us to Commit to the Savior and continue doing what is good.