January 23, 2012

FOCUS

So, here I am, a pastor’s wife?!


Whether you have been one of us for 2 weeks, 6 months, 2 years, or 65 years, we all have need of TRUTH spoken to us which render us: hope, grace, encouragement, and life transformational insights. We pray that you will receive just that (and more) through our various 2012 writers. The Heartline entries include timely insights into several scripture passages and life-applicable topics.


God bless you as you join us in gleaning!

WORDS TO INSPIRE


GOD’S WORD- Eternal Truth


“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.’ Isaiah 55:8-9

A little girl who comes into the house with mud on her shoes cannot hide her tracks. The mud must be removed. My sin leaves tracks, sometimes in my own spirit, that usually affect those around me. Several Sunday afternoons ago I was well on my way to a pity party. None of our children had called even though we had not seen them for some time. Instead of reaching out to help someone else who might also be lonesome, I felt very sorry for myself. Turning to study for an upcoming Bible lesson sent me to a verse I’d never noticed before. ”So if a person lives many years, let him rejoice in them all, but let him remember that the days of darkness will be many.” I was amazed at the timing and the message. Yes, I have many years. Come to think of it, I do rejoice! “And expect some dark days”--- lonesome days can feel like dark days. I can expect those, wise King Solomon said. A prayer for forgiveness for my attitude changed my perspective. God’s Word, His words, changed dark to light. And then, as if to accentuate the message, I came upon this word in Psalm 118, “Glad songs of salvation are in the tents of the righteous.” My house had not been joyous but I want it to be.

And again, last week, a deep disappointment sent me searching. Amy Carmichael helped this time. I read and re-read the Words of God she had chosen and the words of her own writing. In time my thoughts turned from hurt to a prayer for forgiveness. God’s Word changed dark to light. Today news came that a dear friend, someone much younger than I, one who has touched me deeply, is dying from cancer. I am sad to my core. But I am not “losing” a friend because I know her destination. God’s Word, through His promises, changes the darkness of sad news to hope.

“’For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,’ declares the LORD. ‘For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.’” Sometimes I want to stay in my dark closet. I think I have a right to be hurt; sometimes I find it difficult to believe God would forgive me again. Yes, even in my gray years such challenges continue to come. A dark closet is lonely. I need Light! His Light is the cure for my dark times. My distorted thought, my sins, are known to Him. “His ways are immeasurably higher than my ways” reminds me of my need and God’s resolution. I John 1:9 is another revelation of God’s way, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Our God is awesome! His conviction is a gift. His forgiveness is a gift. He, the One who is exalted above all others, sends Word that He will abundantly pardon—that means again and again. We can be cleaned and “go out in joy and be led forth in peace.” (Isaiah 55:12)


NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

HOW CAN GOD USE SOMEONE LIKE ME?!
( Mistakes and all)


First of all when I think of all of the mistakes that I have made as a Christian woman it overwhelms me so badly that I feel like I am in a locked cage. That is why I cannot concentrate on my mistakes

I have to remember that He is working with my imperfections to do what His will is. It has taken me awhile to understand this. With my nature I am a planner, organizer and a total detailed woman. So of course, I then am the planner or the doer and God is pushed out of the situations many times. I am always pushing myself out of the way and stretching my arms up to the heavens and asking God to forgive me for getting in the way and then quickly stepping aside in order that God can control the situation.

God is in situations even if I am trying to order it because He is sovereign. But I do think that sometimes I get in the way and it really does slow down the process for the Lord to work. God is sovereign. Absolutely nothing happens without God knowing. So, when I make the mistakes and are not a good example of Christ or I disobeyed Him He can use the situation to accomplish what He wants with out me. But, we are to be used of God. We are called to be Ambassadors for Christ. So if I am constantly getting in the way I am not pushing forward for Christ I am in the way.

I John 1:9 comes to mind, “If we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” The slate is clean and we can go on. Be careful that we do not sit in the mistakes and disobedience so much that we are no earthly good for the Lord to use.

When I sit and think of all of my mistakes then I am concentrating on the wrong and myself. I am not listening to the Lord and His leading in my life in order that I may be used for Him in a certain situation.

Sometimes, as I have experienced there is nothing we can do in situations and then too we must stretch out our hands and say Lord I am here if you want to use me please do, but I can’t see how anything in this situation is useable. We then are empty of what we are and God is now in control

So let us not concentrate on the mistakes that we have made or wrong doings or disobedience. Let us concentrate on asking for forgiveness and leave it at the cross and continue to be used even though we don’t think we can be used. Always remember that God is Sovereign. He doesn’t want our perfections He wants our availability even in our imperfections. He wants us.


CHECK IT OUT


Reading the biography Oswald Chambers: Abandoned to God – The Life Story of the Author of My Utmost for His Highest by David McCasland affected me deeply. I would like to share some of it with you.

Before reading this book, the only thing I knew about Oswald Chambers was that he was the author of the famous and well-loved devotional My Utmost for His Highest. I enjoy reading biographies of great Christians since their lives can be encouragements for us Christians living today. This book took me into the lives of Oswald Chambers, his parents and siblings, his wife, his child, and his many friends living for Christ in another time and place. He and his wife “Biddy” (Gertrude) were godly real life examples of Christians who lived and died within the past century. Oswald died in 1917 in World War I at the age of 43. His wife Biddy died in 1966.

He lived a life full of the Holy Spirit, which was the source of his joyful service. He refused to worry. He lived a “restlessly restful” life, as he liked to say. He did not value mere money and personal influence. Christ was his life, as the Apostle Paul said of himself.

Oswald was born in 1874 in England to a loving Christian family in which his father was a pastor and later, an evangelist, and his mother always cheerfully trusted God to work out whatever difficulties came to them. Oswald spent most of his happy boyhood in Scotland, but the family moved back to England later. Oswald gave his heart to Jesus Christ at age sixteen and grew in faith and service to his Lord. His schooling and career path was unclear for a number of years, as he was initially interested in serving God through art. He had a gift of art and music. His father favored more practical pursuits for Oswald, but Oswald did have two years of art schooling. He was also an astute learner of literature, philosophy, and history. Although he was offered a scholarship to continue his study of art, he decided not to accept it, as he observed moral problems with the study of art. Through various people, he felt God was leading him into the ministry of teaching God’s Word. Over time, he taught at three theological or Bible training schools, as well as teaching through Bible training correspondence courses. Part of his gift of teaching was his own “insatiable hunger for knowledge”.

Oswald had a spiritual “crisis of surrender” for four years from the ages of 23 to 27 (years 1897 – 1901). According to what I understand from this book, the crisis was due to the fact that he had not fully given himself to the Lord and had been relying on man’s high esteem of him and his obvious gifts in teaching and preaching God’s Word. Though on the outside, he seemed to be his usual likeable and outgoing self, inside he knew his sin and he struggled with it greatly. It seemed to me that he was trying to get closer to God, but was relying on his own efforts to do so. The praise of men kept him from God. Finally, he gave up his fear of what people would think of him and humbly repented and asked God to live in him. Clinging to the verse Luke 11:13 (“If ye being evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him.”), he asked the Holy Spirit to live in his life.

This spiritual breakthrough in 1901 changed his life forever. Though many aspects of his life appeared the same on the outside, one difference that some noticed was that before, on occasion, he could be caustic and bitter. He didn’t always accept criticism without defending himself. After this spiritual crisis, he was able to hear criticism without defending himself. Also, afterward, he exhibited tact, compassion, and love to a much greater degree. This was the time at which he put himself fully in God’s hands and trusted Him for his future in however God wanted to use him. One of his mottos was to “Trust God and do the next thing”. He felt that the one great crime for a disciple of Christ was worry. “Whenever we begin to calculate without God, we commit sin”. Instead of worry, his practice was to bathe the entire situation in prayer and then wait to see what God would do.

He was blessed with a pleasant personality and he loved people. People were drawn to him. He wrote, “Ever since I learned not to teach any consciously as an aim, men seem to come in many ways to me.” He was a man with “an energetic, inspiring personality”. He prayed every morning for others and prayed for an anointing from God. This gave him “such a skillful touch with souls”. The author wrote, “He was such a gloriously unconventional man.”

Besides teaching at the theological training school and the other Bible training colleges, he worked under the auspices of the Pentecostal League of Prayer. In exercising his duties and calling, he would travel to various parts of the world (England, Scotland, Japan, and America) and preach and teach God’s Word. Oswald led many people to Christ.

On May 25, 1910, he married Gertrude (“Biddy”) Hobbs, whom he had met at his brother Arthur’s church five years previously and then got reacquainted with her 2-1/2 years later when her mother asked him to look after her on the ship they both were taking to America. At this time, he wrote, “Life was always interesting in the providence of God.” In marriage, Oswald and Biddy were united in service to the Lord and in love for each other. They trusted God to lead them and to provide for them. A blessing to so many students, they opened their hearts and home to everyone in hospitality. They gave to anyone who asked for help. On May 24, 1913, their daughter Kathleen was born. What a blessing she was to them and all the students at the Bible college!

When World War I began on August 5, 1914, several Bible school students left for the war. Oswald prayed and struggled with how to handle responsibilities to his family, his country, and to the college. After this time of prayer, Oswald decided to join the war effort as a chaplain in the Y.M.C.A., which supported the British army. Since Egypt wasn’t in the combat zone, the Y.M.C.A. gave permission for his family to come to Egypt too.

As a Y.M.C.A. chaplain, Oswald came to serve the soldiers and strove to bring men to Christ. Everyone there realized that half of the men would be killed when they shipped out to battle. The men were ripe for hearing God’s truth. So, Oswald first started a nightly prayer meeting, which grew from just a couple men the first night. Then he added a midweek service, a Sunday service, and 45-minute nightly talks or lectures on Biblical topics that related to the issues that were on men’s minds. “Soldiers whom no one could accuse of being religious turned out night after night to study the Bible”.

Oswald and Biddy worked tirelessly for God among the soldiers for two years. Oswald became ill with appendicitis in October, 1917, developed a ruptured appendix, had surgery, and developed blood clots in the lung and died at age 43. It was a huge loss to all. In our day of modern medicine and in our practical mindset, it seems to be such a tragic waste. But, this too was in God’s hands and was used for His glory. His sermons and lectures were transcribed by Biddy into written format, and books were published, For three years, Biddy labored on the daily devotional that she titled one of Oswald’s often-used phrases My Utmost for His Highest.

Now that the background of Oswald Chambers’ life has been presented, the rest of the report will contain some more of Oswald’s statements and two of Biddy’s statements. Their lives as Christians have inspired and encouraged me to try, with God’s help, to live more as they did.

Their lives had no contradiction between what they believed and how they lived.

When Oswald and Biddy were faced with the unknown future, they would pray and wonder what God was going to do.

Oswald had a deep, settled peace in his soul. He felt the purpose of prayer was to get in step with God. He would ask Him and then wait.

From a letter to Florence, one of his sisters (1907):
“I feel unspeakably at home among men now [that] I know God.”

“One of the blessed things about this life is that a man carries his

kingdom on the inside, and that makes the outside lovely.”


From a letter to Biddy after their engagement, Oswald wrote:

Be patient and so utterly confident in God that you never question His

ways or your waiting time.

I am so amazed that God has altered me that I can never despair of

anybody.

Criticism of others kills spirituality every time.

To a friend, often he would write: “Be absolutely His!”

The author wrote, “Chambers had a rare capacity to trust matters to God in prayer and wait for Him to move.”

When Oswald got to Egypt in October, 1915, in his diary he wrote, “I am watching with interest the new things God will do and engineer.”

From his diary in 1916, “in any dilemma produced by providential circumstances, the temptation is to yield to ordinary common sense rather than wait for God to fulfill His purpose. God’s order comes to us through the haphazard.”

Chambers emphasized “discovering God’s will through what he called ‘the haphazard circumstances of life’”.

Oswald said, “The one right thing is to be a believer in Jesus Christ”. “To me (Biddy), he is always that preeminently.”

Biddy, upon leaving Egypt 19 months after Oswald’s death, wrote, “We thanked Him, for the abiding fellowship with the one who had lived before us the Great Life of believing in Jesus Christ”.

From Oswald Chambers’ book, Shade of His Hand, here is a quotation: “There will come one day a personal and direct touch from God when every tear and perplexity, every oppression and distress, every suffering and pain, and wrong and injustice will have a complete and ample and overwhelming explanation.”

I hope that these excerpts from the book have given you a better understanding of what kind of Christian man Oswald Chambers was. I thank the Lord for him and his wife Biddy and all they did for their fellow man on behalf of Jesus Christ. May they encourage us all to live for Him and serve Him in whatever we do for the glory of God.

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

What's It Like To Be A Pastor's Kid?


Once in awhile as we have been raising our three sons, I have asked them questions like “What’s it like to be a pastor’s kid? Do you like it?” They have had no complaints, really, and most of the time they have said that they don’t know what it’s like to not be a pastor’s kid!

Are there special precautions we should take in raising pastor’s kids? Should we do anything different than other Christian families?

The common complaint of some pastor’s kids is that they were in the church every time the doors were open. To be honest, yes, my family is at church most every time there is something happening. But I honestly feel it wouldn’t be much different if we weren’t a pastor’s family. In just living a life to honor God, my family would be a vital part of a church family. Where we can take precaution is, in stating why we are going to church tonight. It’s not because we are the pastor’s family. I can think of only a very few occasions where I have told my kids that we need to be there because we are the pastor’s family.

We need to be conscientious of how the attitudes about ‘church’ are formed in the minds of our children. If Dad is at council meeting or visiting, I would often say ‘Dad is working tonight’ instead of ‘Dad is at church tonight’. I didn’t want my kids to see ‘church’ as something that takes their father away from home. Be cautious of telling your children they must behave or dress a certain way because people at church expect them to. Shelter your children from the small or big conflicts that occur in church families. In the times in our ministry where we have had conflicts, our kids have been absolutely clueless that anything is going on.

The part about this that pricks our conscience is that our kids are very likely to have the same attitude about church that we do! Do we talk critically about people and events after church? Do we wake them up Sunday mornings with a joyful attitude, saying ‘This is the day! We get to go to Sunday School today!”

Let your church family become part of your family. At one point when we were contemplating a move that would take us away from our families, a seasoned pastor’s wife told me that God had always provided aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins in their church families. I have found that to be true. Encourage your children to visit after church. Have people into your home. ‘Let people in’ to your daily lives. Let them see that you aren’t perfect or on a pedestal.

Share the blessings of ministry with your children. In ministry, we get a window into people’s hearts and lives that other people don’t get to see. With respect to confidentiality, share those answers to prayer, the changed attitudes and lives, the miraculous provisions and the special conversations with your children. It may plant seeds in their hearts for where God may lead them in the future.

Our oldest left for AFLBS this fall, and we can tell he misses his church family. He asks about it often, and he chose a church in the Minneapolis area ‘because it reminds me of our church’. He didn’t have the choice whether to grow up in a pastor’s family, but hopefully he will see it as a gift from God.

IDEAS THAT WORK

NEW BEGINNINGS


That’s what we think about this time of year. What are your goals physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally? Consider sitting down with a pen and paper. Ask the Lord what is on His mind for you.

I recently was working out at the local health club and noticed a posting from one of the members. She is a woman in her sixties. In addition to her workouts at the health club, her physical goals also included a walk or run in a competition one time each month. She either met or exceeded her goals each month.
That was an inspiration to me!

I had heard it said, “If you do not have goals, you shoot at nothing.” You have more of a tendency of moving towards your goals if you write them down. Just ideas but will you…

Physically – Join a health club? Find a walking partner or walk on your own? Sign up for a water aerobics class?

Spiritually – Set aside time with the Lord each day – not just quality time but quantity too? Read directly from the Bible? Use a new devotional? Attend a new Bible study? Learn how you can serve Him in your local church, area, or in the world? Increase your prayer life?

Mentally – Challenge yourself to learn new things? Memorize scripture?

Emotionally – Take time with others to encourage them? Accept love from others? Trust in the Lord?

Bottom Line – Seek total healing in all areas of your life? Be realistic. The Lord will give you strength to accomplish what His goals are for you.

The Lord so desires for us to have an abundant life - all unseen things that add up to total health.



John 10:9-11 …“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly…”

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING

Morning Glory Muffins



Ingredients
1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
1/2 cup whole wheat flour
1 1/4 cups white sugar
1 tablespoon ground cinnamon
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 cups grated carrots
1 apple - peeled, cored, and chopped
1 cup raisins
1 egg
2 egg whites
1/2 cup apple butter
1/4 cup vegetable oil
1 tablespoon vanilla extract
2 tablespoons chopped walnuts
2 tablespoons toasted wheat germ

Directions
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Lightly oil 18 muffin cups, or coat with nonstick cooking spray.


In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs, egg whites, apple butter, oil and vanilla.


In a large bowl, stir together flours, sugar, cinnamon, baking powder, baking soda and salt. Stir in carrots, apples and raisins. Stir in apple butter mixture until just moistened. Spoon the batter into the prepared muffin cups, filling them about 3/4 full.


In a small bowl, combine walnuts and wheat germ; sprinkle over the muffin tops.


Bake at 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) for 15 to 20 minutes, or until the tops are golden and spring back when lightly pressed.




Raspberry-Glazed Rosemary Chicken


Ingredients
1 tablespoon crushed rosemary
1 teaspoon rubbed sage
1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
8 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves
1/4 cup fat-free chicken broth
1 cup raspberry preserves
1/2 teaspoon honey mustard
1 teaspoon chopped fresh rosemary leaves

Directions
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).


In a small bowl, stir together crushed rosemary, sage, and oregano.


Rub one side of each chicken breast with herb mixture. Place chicken herb-side up in a baking dish, and pour broth over the chicken.


Bake in preheated oven for 20 minutes.


Place raspberry preserves in a microwave-safe bowl, and heat for 20 to 30 seconds to soften. Stir in honey mustard and rosemary.


Spread about 1 tablespoon of preserve mixture over each breast. Bake 10 minutes more.

TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER


Lord, we’re here again and we continue to really mess up. You already know all about our mistakes, Lord, but you know and we know that communication…two-way communicating…is essential. Oh God, I am so sorry – in your grace extend your forgiveness to me once again. Cleanse me and make me clean, O Lord my God. Let the blood of Jesus wash me clean.


God says: You are my daughter; I forgive you because of the sacrifice made my Son on the Cross of Calvary. I invite you to continue on this journey, this faith walk. Move ahead with Me leading the way.


Lord we want to walk with you in faith, but admit that we sometimes wonder how You can love us – mistakes and all. Keep us aware Oh Lord, that it is through problems and failures, weakness and neediness that we learn to rely on you. Remind us that we are truly victorious by living a life deeply dependent on You.


Keep coming to me, my child, and learn from me, for I am gentle and you will find rest for your soul.


We love you Lord, hallelujah because Jesus is interceding for us. Amen.

November 15, 2011

FOCUS





There isn’t a one of us who doesn’t desire to become an Excellent Wife. For some it appears to come so easily. They seem to be the perfect example of the Excellent Wife. Maybe their personality type displays these excellent qualities easily with what seems to be no effort on their part. Then again, age may be the key and over time they have been tempered and they have indeed learned how to become an Excellent Wife. Truly it is a process of becoming. We do seek to “become” but we will never fully arrive at the “perfect” until we’re HOME!! You’re in safe company here (we haven’t arrived yet!) as we journey together in our understanding of what an Excellent Wife is. During the 2011 year we will discuss the Foundational Truths of the Excellent Wife and also the Faithful Commitments of the Excellent Wife. New topics concerning these areas will be posted six times a year (every two months). Please join us.

WORDS TO INSPIRE

The Wife's Respect
based on the book THE EXCELLECT WIFE by Martha Peace


Five Biblical principles that explain the wife's respect for her husband:

1. The wife Is to respect her husband.
The amplified Bible gives further insight into this verse from Ephesians 5:33. “...let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband – and that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.”


2. The wife is to respect his position.
As pastor's wives it may be fairly simple to show respect to our husbands when they are in the pulpit, but what about in his life – at home? The Lord would have us be “thankful in all things...” I Thessalonians 5:18. That means showing respect during the difficult times, such as in his failures. Respect him when he is just in his everyday, ordinary life.


3. The wife is to behave in a respectful manner.
Be especially cautious of your words, tone of voice, and countenance as you speak to your husband. Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up...” Perhaps the most helpful thing you can do is ask your husband to hold you accountable for showing respect to him. Your willingness to let your husband help you in this way, reflects your level of maturity.


4. The wife is to reprove her husband respectfully.
If your husband is doing something wrong, and a reproof is needed, so so gently and privately in order to restore him to a right relationship with God. Scripture says, “Love … does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth...” I Corinthians 13:5,6.


5. The wife who is disrespectful may experience severe consequences.
The most likely consequence to disrespect would be a rebuke from your husband because he has the responsibility before God to reprove you - “...if someone is caught in sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently.” After all, disrespect toward your husband is a sin! Or he may respond by feeling hurt, pouting, becoming bitter, angry, abusive, or defensive. None of us wants that, do we. Additionally, disrespecting our husband tarnishes the reputation of the Lord Jesus Christ since our response to our husbands should be, “...as is fitting in the Lord” (Colossians 3:18.)


Treating your husband with respect is not based on his merit, he doesn't have to first earn it. Respect is something you choose to give him, it's a heart attitude. On page 115 of the book THE EXCELLENT WIFE there is a self-assessment that would be beneficial for all. The book is worth buying, if for no other reason than to gauge your own personal level of respect. If you find yourself guilty of the sin of disrespecting your husband, confess it to God, realizing He will be “faithful and just to forgive...” (I John 1:9) and ask your husband's forgiveness too.

NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD

The Issue of Anger


Anger is a tough subject to write on because it can entail so many other emotions such as forgiveness, resentment and many more. With God’s help only can we understand this word.

We can suppress a lot of things in our lives and then explode. Sometimes the explosion is not even involving the person that you exploded to. But it seems like the cap comes off or we have had enough and the suppression of some anger issues comes out. Do not let the sun go down before the anger is settled.

Sometimes we feel people owe something to us and then the issue is who are we looking at. Then anger piles up like a lot of building blocks and as soon as it is moved it topples over and spills out.

A giving person gives and gives and if the root of that giving gets destroyed that giving turns to non giving and then it turns to resentment which in turn turns to anger

God wants us to give everything to Him, even our anger. When anger strikes our soul we should always take it to the Lord immediately. Obedience is a decision we make. Obedience is immediate. When anger is gripping our soul we have to obey and give it to the Lord immediately. Rebellion is opposite of obedience. So if rebellion takes over and we do not want to give the anger over to the Lord we then are not being obedient.

Colossians 3:8 says “But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.” Ephesians 4:31 “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you.”

These above verses speak to me. I am a Christian woman and I am to obey God’s word. His words above are what I am to do. He is not asking me if I would like to put away my anger. No, He says “Put away” which a command. As a Christian woman I have already made the choice to follow God. So in that choice I have to obey Him in everything. Not a have to with a rebellious spirit but a have to because I want Him to be in charge of my life. So as I write this the tears roll down my face and say “yes, lord I will put away my anger.” I want Jesus to be the center of my life and that means in this also.” “You take charge of that issue.”

Then a peace comes over our hearts and our souls are healed. “I will listen Lord to your commands.” Having peace in our souls is such wonderful refreshment.

CHECK IT OUT


Those Prepared are Usually Spared


As pastor’s wives we are placed in the special position of getting asked lots of questions seeking advice on a variety of topics. One subject that I have been asked about, is how do we protect our children and church's children from child predators. Most likely the question has come up in your church family. This is a difficult subject with one reason being the fact that the majority of child predators are family and friends. It’s not enough to tell our young to be wary of strangers. Our children are gifts from God. We need not leave these precious treasures defenseless but rather should arm them with information and instruction in how to identify and respond if a sexual predator makes an advance.


Several years ago, two books came to my attention(which I now recommend) which deal with this delicate issue. They are, Samuel Learns to Yell and Tell and Sara Sue Learns To Yell and Tell, by the Christian author Debi Pearl. These books are directed toward the young child up through early adolescence. Yell & Tell are written in a musical rhyme much like the old Concordia children’s books . Young Samuel is discreetly challenged by his mother and Sara Sue instructs her little sister to consider how to respond if faced with situations concerning sexual advances. More information is in the back of the book directed at parents. We are admonished to be wise and proactive, but not paranoid. One point that struck me was that if we as parents and churches are open with the fact that our children are on the alert for unwanted advances, and that they will “yell and tell” that predators will be less likely to strike our church or family. This is not a subject to be quiet about.

Samuel Learns to Yell & Tell is written from a Christian perspective with biblical encouragement, while Sara Sue Learns to Yell & Tell is directed towards the wider audience. I would encourage every family to own the set and to read them many times over. Giving a child this simple knowledge is arming them with wisdom to always yell and always tell. I was happy to find these books and put them in my library. They can be used as another tool given to parents as they seek to protect their children from those who would do them harm. The old adages “knowledge is power,” and forewarned is forearmed” holds true. It is only after you recognize the enemy that you can formulate an effective campaign against him. May we daily uphold our children in pray and seek His wisdom in how we are to guide and protect them . These books are available online on Amazon and www.nogreaterjoy.org

HELPFUL HINTS FOR HOME

MOVING ON UP, OVER, AND AWAY



Most of us as will find our families making several moves during the years our husbands serve as pastors. Sometimes these moves are welcomed and anticipated, other times they are unwanted and difficult. Whatever the circumstances of the change of address for our families, we can take some practical steps to make the transition from one home to the next easier.

One of the best pieces of moving advice given to me, has been to take time to say good-bye to people and places. It's important to say those words of thanks and love to those who have blessed you during your stay at a congregation. It's important to acknowledge, and let your children express any sorrow they have at moving. It's often been said that children are resilient, and this is true to a point. However, it is very important we provide a safe, accepting environment to allow our families to share their varying emotions regarding a move. If time allows, it's also helpful to take "one last trip" to that special park, restaurant, or lake where your family created memories.

Planning is the #1 key in preparing for a successful move. Keeping a notebook or calendar with projects to be completed by a certain date can be a great motivator and organizational tool. It can be helpful to remember three words while preparing for a move - Purge, Preserve, and Pass-it-on. Get three boxes ready for each room of your house and fill them up. If you're goal is to fill up three boxes a day, think of how easily you'll be packed by moving day. Sometimes it helps to have a friend sit with you and ask you, "Are you really going to use this?" or, "Is this really worth the effort of packing, hauling, and unpacking?" If you're decision is to preserve an item, pack it carefully with like items and label it well so it's easy to find again. Consider giving "pass-it-on" items to friends who would appreciate them. If you have enough time before a move, a garage sale is a great way to earn some extra cash to set up house in your new location. Get pre-priced stickers and mark items for sale as you place them in your purge box. If time and energy are in short supply, donate items to your favorite local charity or thrift store.

Once those boxes are all packed and moving day has arrived, make the day flows as easily as possible for your family and for those helping you. Before helpers arrive, double check and make sure all boxes are clearly marked (according to room and type of items) and securely taped. Have items that are fragile labeled as such with a different color marker and put two people whom you know will handle those boxes with TLC in charge of them. If you have furniture that is disassembled before moving, put all necessary hardware into a sealed baggy and securely tape it to the furniture. If you have little ones at home, set up a babysitter (at their home) ahead of time. The commotion of moving is stressful not just on Mom and Dad, but on children as well. Provide your family and friends with plenty of drinks, and nutritious snacks or sandwiches to keep energy levels high. As a room is emptied, clean it and shut the door. If you have even two friends willing to help you clean as rooms are vacant, your cleaning time will go efficiently.

When you arrive at your new home's door, there are steps that can make unloading easier as well. Consider taking some paper signs labeled for each room so people know where to put boxes. It saves so much time to have boxes delivered right to the kitchen or bedroom so setting those rooms go smoother. If you're moving into a home with light carpets, or it's simply a muddy time of year, buy plastic sheeting to lay down on the floor to keep your new home's pathways cleaner. Again, provide healthy snacks and beverages for those helping you set up your new home. End your day with thanking God for your former home, and asking His blessing on your new one!

IDEAS THAT WORK


DID YOU KNOW . . .

· Health is a three-legged stool? Supplements, Diet, Exercise/Rest. One leg gone and your health will teeter.

· Supplements are to be taken according to each individual’s needs? Common needs: multi-vitamins, extra vitamin C, essential oils (i.e., fish, flax, coconut, etc.), fiber (i.e., ground flax, bran, etc.)

· What you put into your mouth matters? High quality, whole foods are essential. Buy or grow organic fruits and vegetables. Buy or raise free range, wild caught, hormone free meats. Bake your own bread. Get a blood test to determine your intolerable or allergenic foods. Your weight will come into balance once those foods are eliminated! Drink 8 to 10 glasses purified water a day to flush out toxins and help maintain bodily functions. Before eating or drinking ask yourself, “Will this substance harm or help my body?”

· There is a balance needed for exercise and rest? Our bodies were made to move. To maintain health and weight, 30 to 60 minutes of aerobic exercise a day. To lose weight, 60+ minutes aerobic exercise a day. After 20 minutes of aerobic exercise, your body begins to burn fat. Weight bearing and stretching exercises three times a week. Muscle burns fat. Rest 8 to 10 hours a night to rebuild your body and allow your immune system to work.

· Trying to determine your health needs on your own is like trying to shoot at targets with a blindfold (it can be difficult, even if you are well read)? You may or may not hit your needs. It is best to check with a naturopathic doctor (ND) for your specific needs, especially if you are suffering from some physical issues. (www.naturopathic.org)


“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge...” Hosea 4:6


KEY TO HEALTH: Application of good knowledge.

HERE'S WHAT'S COOKING



Pan-Fried Onion Dip



Yield: About 2 cups of dip
Prep Time: 40 minutes
Cook Time: 30 minutes

2 large yellow onions
4 tablespoons unsalted butter
¼ cup vegetable oil
¼ teaspoon ground cayenne pepper
1 teaspoon kosher salt

½ teaspoon ground black pepper
4 ounces cream cheese, at room temperature

½ cup sour cream
½ cup mayonnaise



1. Cut the onions in half and then slice them into 1/8-inch thick half-rounds (will result in about 3 cups of onions). Heat the butter and oil in a large sauté pan over medium heat. Add the onions, cayenne, salt and pepper and sauté for 10 minutes. Reduce the heat to medium-low and cook, stirring occasionally, for 20 to 30 more minutes until the onions are browned and caramelized. Allow the onions to cool.

2. Place the cream cheese, sour cream and mayonnaise in the bowl of an electric mixer and beat until smooth. Add the onions and mix well. Serve at room temperature. Refrigerate any leftovers.



Honey-Oatmeal Sandwich Bread


Yield: One (1) 9×5-inch loaf

Mix Time: 20 minutes
Total Rise Time: 2½ hours
Bake Time: 45 minutes

1¼ cups (10 ounces) boiling water
1 cup (3½ ounces) old-fashioned rolled oats

2 tablespoons (1 ounce) unsalted butter, cut into 3 pieces

1½ teaspoons salt

¼ cup (3 ounces) honey
1 cup (4 ounces) whole wheat flour
1-2/3 cups (7 ounces) all-purpose flour
¼ cup (1 ounce) nonfat dry milk
2 teaspoons instant yeast


1. Place the boiling water, oats, butter, salt and honey into a medium bowl, stir, and let the mixture cool to lukewarm.

2. Mix the remaining dough ingredients with the oat mixture, and knead – by hand, mixer or bread machine – until you’ve made a soft, smooth dough. Place the dough in a lightly greased bowl, cover it, and let it rise for 1 hour; the dough should be doubled in bulk.

3. Lightly grease a 9×5-inch loaf pan. Gently deflate the dough – it’ll be sticky, so oil your hands – and shape it into a 9-inch log. Place it in the prepared pan. Cover it gently with lightly greased plastic wrap, and allow it to rise until it has crowned 1½ inches over the rim of the pan, about 1 to 1½ hours. Near the end of the bread’s rising time, preheat the oven to 350 degrees F.

4. Uncover and bake the bread for about 45 minutes, tenting it with foil after 20 minutes to prevent over-browning. The bread is done when it’s golden brown and an instant-read thermometer inserted in the center registers 190 degrees F. Remove it from the oven, and after a minute or so turn it out onto a rack. Brush with melted butter and sprinkle with additional oats. Cool the bread completely before cutting it.


TOGETHER THROUGH PRAYER


Dear Father,
When I wake in the morning, may I ask You to remind me of Your desire for me to respect my husband. May my words and actions towards him be ones that show respect. When I speak about him to others, may my words not be ones that tear him down, but that build him up. May the looks that I give him be given with eyes of love and honor, and not with scorn and ridicule. May I respect him for who You made him to be, and not for who I think he ought to be. May my love and reverence for You, be reflected in the love and reverence I hold for my husband.
In your precious name,
Amen.

GETTING TO KNOW YOU


An Interview with Cheryl Skordahl



Cheryl Skordahl lives in Pipestone, Minnesota. Her husband Dave Skordahl serves as part-time Associate Pastor at Christ the King Free Lutheran Church in Pipestone. Cheryl is her husband’s helper! She helps him by keeping their home clean and orderly; and also prepares healthy and nutritious meals. She sends him off in the morning with a yummy breakfast and a big kiss! They have two married children and seven grandchildren.

When I asked Cheryl what she thought her ministry was now at Christ the King Free Lutheran Church she said, “Since both of our children are grown and I don’t work outside the home, I am grateful to have lots of time to also work within the church.” “I was asked to be the coordinator of the Cradle Roll.” She said, “Which I accepted wholeheartedly as a ministry to the young families at our church.” In addition to giving Bibles at the time of baptism and distributing the Cradle Roll brochures Cheryl also organizes a meal to be delivered at the time of birth and pays special attention to visiting with the young moms at the church. “ In the future,” she said “I plan to organize a get-together time for young moms and their preschool children.” “ In addition to Cradle Roll, I am on the Campus Vision Team – a team the congregation elected to review the church building structure and make recommendations for changes to the Board of Trustees.” I also am on the Church Decorating Team.”

I asked Cheryl the question if she were to encourage our pastor’s wives or Seminettes what words of encouragement would she say? “ The words I would use to encourage all Pastor’s wives and Seminettes would be to listen and obey the Word of the Lord.” “Then,” she said, “Do all you can whenever you can to further the Kingdom of God.” Cheryl said, “Since there are different phases in life, the “doing” will be different from time to time.” “When the children are young, build the Kingdom of God in them.” “Later,” she said, “will come a time to spread your wings and move beyond the home.” “Remember, she said, “throughout all of life, your responsibility lies in hearing the Word of the Lord and obeying it through the power of the Holy Spirit.”

I asked Cheryl to share with us her favorite verse from scripture. She shared Romans 12:2 “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Thank you Cheryl, for these uplifting and encouraging words.


September 10, 2011

FOCUS



There isn’t a one of us who doesn’t desire to become an Excellent Wife. For some it appears to come so easily. They seem to be the perfect example of the Excellent Wife. Maybe their personality type displays these excellent qualities easily with what seems to be no effort on their part. Then again, age may be the key and over time they have been tempered and they have indeed learned how to become an Excellent Wife. Truly it is a process of becoming. We do seek to “become” but we will never fully arrive at the “perfect” until we’re HOME!! You’re in safe company here (we haven’t arrived yet!) as we journey together in our understanding of what an Excellent Wife is. During the 2011 year we will discuss the Foundational Truths of the Excellent Wife and also the Faithful Commitments of the Excellent Wife. New topics concerning these areas will be posted six times a year (every two months). Please join us.


WORDS TO INSPIRE

LOVE, the WIFE’S C H O I C E
From the book THE EXCELLENT WIFE by Martha Peace



Did you notice the emphasis on the word “Choice?” How could you help but notice? It could be an insignificant word, but I “chose” to give it emphasis. No matter what has happened between a husband and wife, if we choose to ask, the Lord can give love for each other that was never dreamed possible. We need only ask, and the Lord will give.

Even under trying circumstances, we can show love to our husbands because God’s “grace is sufficient” (II Corinthians 12:9). God will give us supernatural power (grace) to show love, if we obey God by thinking loving thoughts and doing loving actions toward our husbands. There are times when we need to put our feelings on the shelf, even go directly against feelings and do what we know is right – showing and acting love to our husbands.

Martha Peace says, that when godly love is expressed between husband and wife, they will often experience tender feelings and a sweetness that they never experienced during the early years of “romantic” love.

We as women are usually good at choosing to be neighborly – sharing a cup of sugar, giving garden transplants, getting together for no other reason than just to be together. “Love your neighbor” is the way the Bible says it in Matthew 22:39. We are reminded to give our husband’s this same kind of consideration. She says, in fact, that our husbands are our closest neighbors! Wow, that’s worth our consideration, isn’t it?

The author teaches that there are three categories of sin that will destroy love in a marriage: Selfishness, bitterness or fear – and often a combination of these three.

Selfishness: It is revolutionary in our American culture today to hear someone express the “Deny yourself” concept. The idea of “Putting others first” is so foreign. Yet that is exactly what God asks us to do. If husbands and wives are to have joy and fulfillment in marriage, each must put themselves aside and place God and others first.

Bitterness: Wives may express that they feel “hurt” and “resentful” toward their husbands. These emotions are how women feel when they are bitter. If you feel ungrateful, vengeful, have a loss of joy or excessive sorrow, are critical or brooding – you may be manifesting bitterness. Since bitterness hinders biblical love, ask the Lord to reveal the percentage of your fault, then take responsibility for that percentage by the “Put Off-Put On” method as recorded in Psalm 139:23-24 “Search me, O God, and know my heart… and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.”

Fear: A common struggle for many wives, fear makes it difficult to love our husbands. Whether the fear may be that he will die, leave you, or even abuse you in some way, the key to overcoming fear is to trust God and love your husband. I Peter 3:6 says “do what is right without being frightened by any fear.”

Love is the character quality on which we must concentrate. Memorize I Corinthians 13:4-7 and write out each aspect of love within this Scripture. What concrete ways can you express love to your husband through your thoughts or your actions?


NEEDS OF THE REAL WORLD


A WIFE’S LONELINESS



There are many examples of loneliness in the Bible. Some of these are Elijah, Jeremiah and Paul. There are also many reasons for loneliness. One woman’s loneliness may not be another woman’s.

Loneliness just like anything else can become the main thought pattern of your life. When it becomes the only thing you dwell on it will draw you away from the Lord.
It will capture you. That is when the focus becomes on us and not on the Lord. The tempter then can take us into many areas of loneliness but we must remember that the Lord can overcome these things. He is powerful. Sometimes we get so ensnared in the loneliness that we cannot focus on what the Lord can do for us to help us with the loneliness.

There is a chorus of a song I like to sing when I am lonely.


You’ll never be lonely again never again.
If you will open your hearts door to Him,
He will brush away your tears and forget your
Foolish fears, you’ll never be lonely again.
Never Again.


Now some may say, this little chorus is talking about coming to know Jesus as your personal Savior and Lord. The songwriter may have been talking about that but for me, when I am lonely there are many different things that make me lonely. Sometimes it is tears and sometimes it is foolish fears. If I open my heart to Him I won’t be lonely. The circumstances may not have changed around me but I will feel and know His presence and I will feel peaceful.

There are many Bible verses that we can use during our lonely times.

Psalm 9:9,10 says The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, A refuge in times of trouble. And those who know Your name will put their trust in You; For you, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.

Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

Those are powerful words for any of us who suffer with loneliness. Be aware that loneliness can be a struggle that we deal with all of our lives but also be aware that God is the one to give the victory during those lonely times. He wants to hear you say to Him that you are lonely and that you need Him to help you. Don’t delay always pray.